Why do men like/want virgin women?

[Soupcou]

Being a virgin and a girl is a huge turn off for me and most of friends. I noticed a lot of guys on this site want virgin girls which is odd to me because virgin girls are gross and bad in the sack.

[Anonymous]

1. Studies have shown higher incidence of sexual partner the greater the chance of divorce in marriage
2. A woman's ability to pair bond with you goes down the more sexual partners.
3. STI increases and increase risk of your S0 developing cancer. E. g. HPV is associated with increase risk of cervical cancer.4
4. Depending on how many guys a girl wanted a relationship with and it didn't work out often results in her being unable to love the next guy as much. i. e. increase baggage both mentally/physically.
5. Depression and promiscuous behavior are often link. 1 in 4 women in the states are on Anti-depressants.

[DizzyAster]

Studies show that people who quote studies don't know what they are talking about.

[Soupcou]

@DizzyAster lol probably shitty ass studies too

[super147]

It's not true that virgins are gross or bad in bed. Virgins are no different to any other girl, their virginity doesn't define their personality or their looks. Also, you can't be defined as bad at something until you've had a chance to do it more than once. Until then you are just inexperienced. We all start out as virgins and then we get experience and get better.

If nobody would want to be with virgins then you'd still be a virgin and so would I and so would everyone. Except we wouldn't even exist because nobody would have ever had sex.

[NyomiMcClinton]

Honestly, I never heard men say they would want a woman thats a virgin. Thats unrealistic. Unless the guy goes for someone much younger in her teens. Most women are not virgins, and most men aren't either. I think its shallow for a man to go for a virgin when he isn't one himself and is probably sleeping around. I find that men who are like this tend to want control over the female.

[Soupcou]

Agreed

[Nelsoen]

It's not unrealistic lol

[ushagomez]

Maybe they just lack confidence in themselves and their ability to give us pleasure...

Hey guys... never think that please... just give it a go... after all it is pretty natural you know...

[felchiq]

How can virgin girls be gross? I understand virgins can be bad in bed but gross? I dont really think so. Lol.

[Soupcou]

Just a big turn off

[Taleygirl1998]

Virgins are gross?

[Soupcou]

Yeah

[Taleygirl1998]

Ok..

[MisterCake]

My current understanding is that it's just a myth that there's a physical difference with virgins. don't think I've ever had a virgin myself, though, so not sure.

[JuicyBrain]

There is no physical difference, it's all in the head...

[JuicyBrain]

I can see why they would be bad in the sack, but why do you say they are gross?

"Being a virgin and a girl is a huge turn off for me and most of friends"

This is a weird sentence. Do you mean you and your friends are gay?

[redeyemindtricks]

Lol he said he and his friends share this way of thinking about girls. How do you get "gay" out of that?

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks It can be read as: Being a girl (and a virgin at that) is a huge turn off for me and my friends. I don't necessarily think they're gay, it's just that the sentence is weirdly worded and it makes it a bit ambiguous.

[redeyemindtricks]

Ohhhhh lol you read it as "being a girl" applies to the asker? that's... uhm that's not something I would ever have even considered. Do you happen to write code for a living, by any chance?

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks Actually I do, or rather, I used to lol

[redeyemindtricks]

Yah I figured -- I mean, you interpreted that sentence with absolutely no real-world anchors on the context. That's not something anyone would do unless they'd *had* to do it over and over and over again for a living. (this is also why most people *can't* code effectively... because they can't get themselves to do that.)

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks That is an interesting analysis. Are you a psychologist or otherwise, do you have a vested interest in human behavior? By the way, I didn't read it as the OP being a girl but rather as the fact that the other person is a girl. So the fact that that other person is a girl would turn off he and his friends, therefore the suggestion that maybe they are gay. Now, by the context of the question, I can clearly see that they are not gay, but I thought the way it was worded was funny.

[redeyemindtricks]

"Are you a psychologist" Oh sweet fucking hell to the no. "... vested interest in human behavior" I mean, not any more than anyone else does? ... nor am I particularly "smart"? but like dude, you're just vastly underestimating how unusual that was. If a person isn't extensively trained to exclude all human intuition and all comon sense from parsing sentences, the chance that she/he would EVER parse this sentence that way -- ... AND not **immediately** reject that interpretation ("huh? ok I obviously misread that, let's try that again") -- is exactly 0.00000000 percent. It's a weirdly written sentence, but, that's irrelevant. Most people have no trouble interpreting sentences even if the words are scrambled into a completely random order. "There's traffic on the freeway; I'll be late." "Be freeway on traffic the late I'll there's." ^^ 99.5% of English speakers will still IMMEDIATELY know what the second "sentence" means, and the other 0.5% will get it right within a few seconds.

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks lol you make me sound like a robot...

[redeyemindtricks]

lol nah you're just... geared to think in certain ways most people aren't. No value judgment. That sort of thing has obvious advantages, too -- like, think about learning languages with a grammar that's totally different from yours. You'll be WAY better at that than randoms will. If you picked the right material (and had a good delivery), you could probably make a kick-ass comedy routine out of that, too. "Punk, I'm gna beat you like a little bitch!" ..."How do little bitches beat people, exactly?" LOL

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks Hahaha ! I would say it is definitely something about me. I tend to think outside of the box. I see the world differently. Often, it enables me to see easy solutions to problems that people hadn't thought of. It is somewhat of a double edged sword though as it often makes it difficult to understand other people too. Especially when I am given simple instructions. I tend to complicate things and not understand what the person wanted me to. I ask questions that people will think I shouldn't have to ask (it should have been implied). Oh well, I am good at deconstructing/reconstructing things so I am ok...

[redeyemindtricks]

^^ yeah I could have guessed all these things ahah I have a girlfriend who's a technical writer. She gets paid (... a LOT) to write unambiguous safety instructions on big industrial machines that will kill lots of people if they malfunction. Her job is KIND of like writing code, but, harder, because (1) she has to anticipate how humans will read shit under unimaginable stress (whereas "how computers will read shit" is circumstance-independent and doesn't change from computer to computer)... AND (2) she has to write SIMPLE instructions that can be understood REALLY FUCKING FAST (whereas if yr code is 400 lines when it could have been 150 lines, that's irrelevant unless you're running it on a netbook from 2003). Basically, she gets paid well into 6 figures in freelance income for... never ever writing shit like "Operating temperature should be no more than 10º below room temperature". (... think about it for a sec)

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks ""Operating temperature should be no more than 10º below room temperature"." Ugh... I just cringed lol I understand what it means, but it's ugly as hell.

[redeyemindtricks]

No, but, see, you don't "know" what it means. OT ≤ RT – 10 0 ≤ RT – OT ≤ 10 ^^ She gave that sentence to a sample of 10 machine operators, and EXACTLY 5 interpreted it each way. That's why her work is so weirdly good -- because not only can she write *good* instructions, but she also knows which BAD instructions are even more. bad than all the others. Like, she actually knows exactly the point where a statement is so bad that there's not even a *consensus* interpretation. It's... impressive. She even takes into account stuff like what subjects the workers have probably studied / what their job history is (... since, as we just established, "bad instructions" means something totally new if yr workers have a comp sci background). I would... not want to litigate a divorce against this woman 😂😂

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks I see it as the machine must operate at at least 10 degrees colder than room temperature. It can be colder, but not warmer. So it's the first one. At least the way I see it. "I would... not want to litigate a divorce against this woman " I absolutely agree ! Though, I'd be happy to have her with me in a plane that's about to crash lol How did she end up with that job?

[redeyemindtricks]

She worked as a floor supervisor in industrial factories, until she (1) wanted a job she could do mostly from home, (2) realized she was more interested in the workers' thought processes than in actually supervising the workers, (3) gained a reputation for being really really REALLY good at what she does. #3, there was an accident in a competing company's factory; she was called for expert testimony because the actual supervisors involved in the incident were dead; she looked though a 110 page manual and found the problematic instructions in... something like 3 minutes 😳

[redeyemindtricks]

Oh and, I forgot to mention, she knows like 6 languages too Like, there are languages in which a *translation* of that statement is no problem, because the top version would translate "more" into an adjective while the bottom version would turn "more" into a (different) adverb. She also knows which version people will tend to understand if their L1 is X language instead of English. •________• She's... A smart girl.

[JuicyBrain]

@redeyemindtricks Sounds like she is awesome ! Would you say that talent helps her in the love department or is it the opposite? I find talent to be attractive, I wonder if others view it like that. I know, it's coming from nowhere, I am just curious.

[redeyemindtricks]

She has never had any trouble finding and keeping satisfactory boys. She's happily married now (and wanted the from-home gig because kids). So, obviously it didn't get in the way. She's also attractive and in good shape, though. Can't separate confounding variables, why try. Her husband isn't nerdy at all. (At heart, she's still a blue-collar chick with a high school diploma and a career in manufacturing.) He knows how good she is, but, he MIGHT only *really* know that because she makes > 300k/yr working maybe twenty hours a week max. He clearly adores her in pretty much every way. They're cute together.

[ThisDudeHere]

Long story short, strategically it is the "safer" option.

[Soupcou]

Life's about risks and if you never take risks don't expect to get laid ever

[ThisDudeHere]

Just because you think ahead and calculate that you'd not rather take certain risks, doesn't mean you're doomed in some regard. Back in the cold war one side could have tried to fire all of the nukes on the risk that the other would die before they could respond in force. But it was safer to not take that risk. For obvious reasons.

[Soupcou]

I'm not talking about war I'm talking about social risks lol

[ThisDudeHere]

And I'm just making an blatantly exaggerated comparison to get my point across.

[redeyemindtricks]

If you're defining "safety" ONLY in terms of, say, infidelity? Then yeah probably (although the magnitude of the effect is debatable). But "safety" isn't just from infidelity. You also want to be "safe" from (1) having sex withheld from you for petty reasons or even non-reasons, and (2) a dull and monotonous sex life. And if a girl is capable of just shutting off the sex tap until she's well into her 20's, she is DEFINITELY going to be a MUCH higher risk of both of these things. The real world. It's weird how so many guys just *never* stop to think that a girl who can completely turn down sex for a good fraction of her fertile years just because she "values" her "virginity" (which, in the year 2016, is a complete non-reason everywhere except small close-knit highly religious communities) ... could ALSO completely turn down sex WITH THEM for similarly esoteric non-reasons.

[IceCubedude]

the virgins you meet are probably unattractive plain janes who dont even shave their underarms, if you saw a pretty hot lady who never had sex or done anything sexual with a guy and she chose to spend the rest of her life loving and pleasuring you, iam more than certain that you will rethink your choice to never date or marry a virgin girl.

of course some men dont care for quality they just want sex and in that case virgins aren't your target demographic, they probably won't have sex with you and will wait til marriage, is it worth it? most of the time yes, but as i said those who do not care about the quality of women and just want sex are not suited for virgins, and only when they start thinking about marriage do they find that virgin girls make better wives.

[genericname85]

i think there is that mindset of "there was another dick in there", which makes non-virgins not appealing to those men.
i don´t understand how you can not like virgins though xD i mean i don´t care either way but i can´t see what makes a virgin gross.

[Nelsoen]

https://goo.gl/images/UUUz1E

[Tony1974]

You're an asshat! IF anyone is gross it's the male and females sluts fucking everyone in sight! My guess is you're intimidated by virgins as you love sex soooo much. You don't want the burden of ushering a woman into the joys of sex.

[DizzyAster]

I only care about pretty women who are good in the sack. I don't like waiting, working too hard, or not getting to the point. I have shit to do.

[disgustingweebtrash]

Because i'm a virgin, I would prefer a virgin girl, is that a crime?

[BigManSAB]

Because they don't have any STD

[Jeeevan]

Virgins aren't gross lol

[MEDINHO]

So tight

[Anonymous]

Virgins aren't gross or bad in the sake... that's silly. It's as weird for a girl to be a virgin by a certain age as it is for a guy to be though.

[Anonymous]

they feel special

[Anonymous]

The guys who want virgins on this site are usually from a culture of religious idiocy where women are disrespected and virginity is an excuse for tiny dicked men to feel entitled when they "break her in".