Why do men not get as attached after sex like women do?

As you guys know I'm currently looking after my younger sister and my neice, I'm staying in my parents house. I made a post explaining this. Anyways I go back to my flat/apartment today that I share with my boyfriend and we get into a massive argument.

We hadn't had sex in 2 weeks and I was upset. I did the one thing that I shouldn't do, sex after an argument. We then had sex and I just feel so alone and used. He said I was being to clingy because I want to spend time with him. He's just ignored me. We're we're meant to watch a movie and have ice cream but that's probably not happening now.

I've gone back to my parents house now but I just feel so used. I do this everytime and I feel the same. Even if I was at home, he would just blank me and play the computer. Why do I do this to myself? I feel worse after, all the time. I just want him to pay attention to me.

We spoke about couples therapy again but he said he was not paying $60. I found some things online to help and he laughed. I know what you'll say and I know you're right. I just don't wanna be alone even though I am alone all the time. You say talk about this and we do but nothing happens. Why do I feel like this?
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1 y
I've done research into it, there isn't anything wrong with me. Oxytocin is a hormone produced in the hypothalamus, which opens the floodgates when you have sex. That rush of oxytocin is involved in the physical part of sex. It can also boost emotions like love, affection and euphoria. Men lack this and this is why it's different from women 💖
1 y
I appreciate all the feedback. I know what I need to do but I'm not ready yet. I need to be in a better headspace. Its probably best we are apart rn anyways
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  • Lots of guys don’t want to have anything to do with the woman after they orgasm so it might be that he doesn’t feel the same about you because even after feeling like that after sex guys that are still in love won’t let that feeling get in the way

  • They do if they like the woman a lot.

    If you are just looking for quick sex then there won't be any attachment emotionally to that person.

  • It's the oxy definitely.

  • I catch feelings like I can catch a cold (which is often)

  • I found my love for my girlfriend much deeper after sex. I don't feel it every time we have sex though. Physical closeness is all I need to feel my love for her deepening. We've literally cuddled for hours without sex (being completely naked) and I am just as happy with that as I would be if we had sex and then cuddled at the end.

  • Same reason why women do not get as attached after sex like men do.

  • Girls need a connection more it seems would you agree?

  • u said he is just a friend he doesn't love you...
    keep him in friends zone. and find another gentleman who can take care of u

    • No he is my boyfriend...

    • sorry (boyfriend) but he is not ur husband... i think he doesn't like u anymore

  • Time for you to find a mature boyfriend

  • Your update is correct.

  • Sex is sex, women should stop making big deal out of it

    • It's not just sex, it is about forming an attachment to your partner

    • That's what you WOMEN THINK, end of story, we move.

    • Have you ever had sex? Like actually connected with anyone.

  • if i have sex one time with a girl i fall for her on the spot

  • Because many men are assholes

    • Lol not all men

    • I know, selfish guys have always been around

    • Everyone is selfish in their own ways ig

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  • What if he initiates cuddling

    • He doesn't always. He either games after or goes to sleep

    • Lmao. Mine cuddles

    • Lucky you lol

  • We do, some men, or women just don't get attached after sex

  • We don't get attached because we don't care... you're just nut rags to us

  • Sex is more physical than emotional for men.

  • Oh but we do, or at least I do. Most of the time, but sometimes I take my heart off and put it in my shoes before I get into somebody's bed if I'm in for it just for fun. A fuck is just a fuck but the woman I care about would be making love.

  • Because women have sex with purpose… women are more wired to emotion and have sex with who they want to. Men have sex with whoever they can

  • Well I think it would be time to move on. Sounds like he is the relationship for the sex. And you are in the relationship because you are afraid of being alone/single

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