Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health As you guys know I'm currently looking after my younger sister and my neice, I'm staying in my parents house. I made a post explaining this. Anyways I go back to my flat/apartment today that I share with my boyfriend and we get into a massive argument.
We hadn't had sex in 2 weeks and I was upset. I did the one thing that I shouldn't do, sex after an argument. We then had sex and I just feel so alone and used. He said I was being to clingy because I want to spend time with him. He's just ignored me. We're we're meant to watch a movie and have ice cream but that's probably not happening now.
I've gone back to my parents house now but I just feel so used. I do this everytime and I feel the same. Even if I was at home, he would just blank me and play the computer. Why do I do this to myself? I feel worse after, all the time. I just want him to pay attention to me.
We spoke about couples therapy again but he said he was not paying $60. I found some things online to help and he laughed. I know what you'll say and I know you're right. I just don't wanna be alone even though I am alone all the time. You say talk about this and we do but nothing happens. Why do I feel like this?
Why do men not get as attached after sex like women do?
artsy_dragon Xper 7
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I've done research into it, there isn't anything wrong with me. Oxytocin is a hormone produced in the hypothalamus, which opens the floodgates when you have sex. That rush of oxytocin is involved in the physical part of sex. It can also boost emotions like love, affection and euphoria. Men lack this and this is why it's different from women 💖
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I appreciate all the feedback. I know what I need to do but I'm not ready yet. I need to be in a better headspace. Its probably best we are apart rn anyways
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15 37Oxytocin is not the only bonding hormone. I don't know why people think it is, it's getting embarrassing at this point. Men have more vasopressin, its what they use more of to bond during sex.
Anyone who says men don't bond during sex is silly and doesn't understand how hormones work. Many different chemicals interact with each other to create that experience. It makes absolutely NO sense for men not to bond during that, but to bond while they cuddle and hold hands.
They absolutely do. If they don't bond with you, I'm sorry to say, he's probably just not that in to you. My ex wasn't either and behaved the same way you described. My fiance now clings to me like glue after.
Say it with me people: VASOPRESSIN EXISTS
Because most women are demisexual. Men have sex drive, women have love drive. Did you get it?
They totally do they are always like 😍🤩 and hug super tight you like they have been missing you for 10+years then they are all like your mine now and your just like sure buddy but you’re already married 🙃
Funny you ask this. The few girls I had sexy time with couldn't care less about me afterwards.
Your "boyfriend" doesn't love you and probably just doesn't feel like finding somebody else.
The sex and attachment question has no relevancy to your situation. I'm saying this because clicking on the title I expected one discussion but it's just your relationship issue which is a different topic.
This question was never meant to get popular
No no, it has nothing to do with popularity. I was thinking of an analogy and finally came up with one. Your title: "Why do iphones break easily?" Your post: "I had an argument with my boyfriend, and, in rage, he threw an iphone against the wall, and it broke." Do you see how the title suggests technical discussion, but the post suggests relationship discussion? Anyways, I don't know why I'm getting caught up in this. Maybe if you improve clarity of your communication, your relationship with others and with yourself will improve.
I see that you researched and got the basic premise.
oxytocin is released in large quantities in women during sex, foreplay, and orgasm and estrogen enhances it’s affects.
men get a tiny amount during orgasm and testosterone nullifies it.
we get dopamine in large quantities.
the reason is biological. As animals men didn’t bond with sex, we simply spread our seed. Women needed to bond so that they would be taken care of and bond with the male for protection.
I think you’re right. It’s because of the oxytocin. It makes you feel all happy and cuddly and really loving toward the person.
You mentioned Oxytocin. Don't forget vasopressin...
I know in my case at least the answer is usually quite simple. Post nut clarity. Attachment or regret usually follows.
Because of birth control.
That and hormones