Why do men think that a big penis equates better sex and a better lover?

I'm still in awe to hear that men on here, and in real life, believe that having a big dick is the way to a woman's heart. Spoiler: it's not.

I just want to ask why is this fixation still around? Do you understand that a) 85% of women can't cum from penetrative sex b) big penises hurt a fuck tonne c) being a good lover has to do with technique not your size
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  • You are exactly right. I am that way and it actually kinda sucks. I am 10 and a half inches. I've always been told by my friends how lucky I am because all the females that know us always wants to talk to me. After awhile you come to realize almost all of them are using you. It hasn't made me happy cause I'm not. The way I look at it now adays I don't even give a shit like I used to. I used to like the girls giving me the attention and them always talking about big dicks. The truth is I've distanced myself from everyone of those people cause I'm not happy I'm depressed. I moved far away from where I lived and I have a new big group of friends now and none of them know and I never slip up and sleep with one of the girls from our crew so nobody knows and you know what I am starting to be happy again. This time when I meet a great woman she will like me for me and that's awesome. So yeah your right. It's caused me nothing but problems and depression.

  • Guys use this excuse of size to overcompensate for their lack of experience and skill.

    • truuuuu.

    • Now don't get me wrong: some bigger guys do know what they're doing, but a majority don't. Therefore, they have the Napoleon Complex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Very well said and so true! I would much have sex with a guy with an averaged size penis (5-6 inches) than a massive one that hurts.

  • Speak for yourself sweetheart. I don't want any small dick in any part of my body. Waste of time.

    • Different strokes for different folks. Disclaimer: I'm in the big side.

    • Agreed

    • eh, penetration is fun, but I just don't really have that much fun as I do with other stuff.

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  • I’m in the 15%. But a guy doesn’t have to necessarily have a giant penis for good sex.

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  • Its still, around because the media and such makes it clear for guys. You need to have a big penis to have a woman's heart. You maybe aks why does the media want to make it clear. Well its because of money. so guys can buy all kinds of things to improve their penisses.

  • Porn videos are, in part, to blame for this mentality. There are not that many porn videos with guys having an average size cock. Most have above average and some of these guys look like they came from a horse barn. Some women like to hold a monster sausage in their hands and try to see if they can suck much of it. Overall, the big dick syndrome is pretty much all between the male's ears.

  • Because they watch too much porn and usually women always talk about how they want the big one and when get it they get scared or can’t handle it. FACTS!

    I’m against men doing anything to alter their or is just to satisfy her needs. It may have erectile dysfunction consequences and when that happens to him..:it’s game over!

  • I would say porn is a big contributor to this, still, lack of understanding of how a woman's attraction and sexual excitement works. Also, a lot of women talk about desiring "BIG COCKS". Like there are some size queens out there. So guys really feel very confused by the differing of opinions by the female crowd on this subject.

  • c) it's all about how you use it

    • exactly

  • I mean, if you understand evolutionary biology, the average size has been the same for a long long time... standard deviations smaller and larger are always good to exist, and then the extreme outliers. I believe this size is the best for procreation, sperm facilitation, pleasure, spontaneity, and comfort more so than any other size. You also can’t compare what any two girls feel because vaginas are also different...

    • NATURAL SELECTION.

    • I agree with you that outliers exist, but generally the average is the best. At least in my opinion. There is also no correlation between penis size and reproductive success, so I don't know what you're getting at.

    • Lmfao that’s what I was saying, that average is best.

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  • Just having a big dick will (almost) never get you a lover.

    But I'm sure a big penis will always win over a micropenis.

    Unless the girl and the guy are into humiliating him because he's small.(yes that is a real thing)

  • Male mythology and very common.
    It's only later they learn it's mostly how you use it.
    Women have their own mythology.

  • Size doesn't matter. stamina matters.

    Irrespective of size, if a man can hold till the girl have orgasm then size doesn't matter.

    Also I read somewhere that girls have sence of touch only till two or 3 inches deep. So no point in having 7inchs dick.

    Guys should talk and do what ever girl wants and pleasure her.

    • stamina matters but having an orgasm through penetration is really damn difficult for most. Plus I had a boyfriend that lasted 2 hr +, that wasn't fun.

    • I understand. May be he is just looking for his pleasure and orgasm and he forgot what you like and wanted. Some time even if it is a quick one, you will enjoy if he does in a way you feel comfortable

    • no he was really concerned about it actually

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  • Back before it became politically incorrect, women were the same way about their breast size. It's an easy way to measure your masculinity. Also, there is a sizable minority of women who DO like big penises.

  • same as "tight vagina" theory, some enjoy and others feel pain !
    I'm "well endowed" let's say, out of 10, 7 would complain in the second time, some even would be avoiding and not enjoying in a long term relationship plus you have to forget about some positions and spontaneous quikies, while 2 would enjoy and the 1 that's left would love it and go all the way to try the most crazy things with it and all kinky stuff ! :D :D
    so excluding the first time men with big penises have 3/10 chance of having an enjoyable sexlife !

  • Seeing is believing and porn offers a lot of seeing.

    Girls can be bitches and intentionally emasculate a guy by insulting there dick.

    • yeah girls can be assholes that is true

  • He's obviously a good electrician, isn't he?

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  • Men are obsessed with a penis like a woman is with her looks, but probably X10. Men believe a large part of their worth and even identity rests solely on their penis. Society tells us that a bigger penis = a happier woman. Therefore, it can become our definition of manliness and desire.

  • I simply have a sexy dick. Period.

    • I respect that

  • Mainstream media

  • Because men are idiots

  • No. Big dicks aren't a way to a woman's heart. The reason we want big dicks is so when everybody is in their slutty phase, a big dick is what everyone wants. Who gives a shit about "love" when all they want is to be sleeping around? Please tell me if that makes sense. 😂

  • Girth and experience. That's what matters

  • Its all in how you use your dick. Not how big it is. I mean mine is 9 1/2 inches and thick as hell. I feel bad cause it hurts some women

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