Why do people find me more attractive than I find myself?

Question

I’ve been told I’m conventionally attractive, beautiful, perfect, sexy, etc.. But i don’t think I’m as attractive as people make it seem.

I also get approached and DM’d significantly but i feel like all women do majority of the time.

Maybe i feel this way due to the high amount of social media access we have today. But we have such easy access to beautiful women and high beauty standards, that these aspects make me feel average.

I don’t feel the same way people see me. But why?

CrimsonAngel09 · Accepted Answer

I know the feeling. I deal with body dysmorphia, and it doesn't help when the media shove perfection in your face through T. V. and magazine covers. Even here on GAG, I have yet to see an average looking woman.

No matter how many times I got called pretty or whatever, I think they're nuts because I don't look like your typical high end female. I'm short at like 4 11 5 0, a little bit chubby, no almond shaped eyes, scars everywhere, 36DD boobs that sag so they're considered unattractive.

I'm hardheaded too, I'll admit that. No matter how many times I got called positive stuff I just didn't/don't believe people. My guess, we're blind to what other people are seeing. How we feel is reflecting on what we see in the mirror or camera.

JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

I'd say you're pretty, but that's pretty common for a young woman, of healthy weight, who takes care of herself (w/ makeup, etc.). Average women get far far far more attention than average men, and telling someone they're beautiful costs nothing.

Twalli · Accepted Answer

We see imperfections others don't see. What we dislike, others like or don't care about that much. We're our toughest critics.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Because you'll always be somewhat bias towards yourself, the truth here is that you don't see your beauty but others do

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Isn't that how it works with most girls?

Blackcupcake · Answer

you need to work on your confidence

bowenw · Answer

We're all our own worst critic and don't see ourselves the way the rest of the world does.

Grond21 · Answer

You are conventionally beautiful. Not super model level, but you embrace your femininity and that is always very appealing.

Also, this is the time of your life when you will be considered as most beautiful and most attractive. It will never go beyond this point, assuming you follow the path of virtually all women. So take advantage of it and lock a good man down.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

You are very attractive!

KostasKouvalis · Answer

You're humble and not narcissistic. But you are attractive, yes

AydenHazor · Answer

Many of us have skewed views on our own attractiveness. We tend to be more critical of ourselves than other people are. From your profile pic, you do shower to be physically attractive, and for many, a good personality will amplify that attracted

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some of us are our own harshest critics.

wannabecuck-2 · Answer

Cuz ur pretty and underplay urself i guess

Alex8736 · Answer

Do you have a good personality and a sense of humor? Are you someone who appreciates the little things? those might help answer your question 😁

peterrezeeek · Answer

cuz of ur body 😘😘❤️❤️😜😜😛😛😛

CubaPirate · Answer

Because you're overly modest

Xtendable · Answer

I think part of it is that subconsciously we have low opinions of ourselves. Society teaches us not to regard our looks too highly, that arrogance is bad, but doesn't teach us how to temper our pride with modesty.

Greenbins · Answer

I know what you mean.. sometimes I think people are just being nice..

Anonymous · Answer

Because people are desperate you are realistic.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not trying to simp, or find a way into your DMs, but trust me when I say your attractiveness is well above average. You're in the nines or tens. Conventionally speaking, at least. Preferences vary, but your conventional beauty is quite clear.