Why do people tout around “ looks don’t matter “ ?

[nelly83]

if I were to be in a romantic relationship, my partner has to at least fulfill the minimum basic requirements for physical attraction, in order for a relationship to work out. If I’m not physically attracted to him enough , I would have a hard time getting aroused enough for sex , which had happened to me, and it made sex extremely painful.
Even if a guy had what I needed but there’s absolutely no physical attraction , it’s only a matter of time where I start feeling unfulfilled , as If there is something missing in the relationship. I think that most woman has physical needs that need to be met such as having a tall enough man to lean on, which satisfies her biological need to feel protected. And lastly I don’t think it’ll be a very satisfying relationship where your partner is hard to look at. Everyone has different tastes in what they find attractive. What one might find unattractive , someone else might find gorgeous.

but overall, looks should matter to a certain extent because it’s a mating process. Mating requires sexual attraction

[Petra150]

A require for a guys physical , seems very horrible and a person who have such shallow thoughts must be very insecure , and should rather by s big dog instead, and a ladder if she need somthing to reach the top shelf. And what a horrible signal to give to them fantastic fmguys who maybe doesn't for full those horrible and scandalise requirements , how do a man feel being told again and again he's too short , he might be everything else ( usually they are) and miss our shallow height requirements with s few cm. And a guy with only being few cm taller, but with absolutely nothing belse to bring s relationship get a thump up because of a shallow old fashioned height requirement. A requirement that can't be changed at all, and perhaps only thing a guy can't change... he's height is out of he's hand to change, and still he will be rejected told to forever be doomed for things he can't control

[Zarapeachy]

Ok so I agree but not about the sex aspect. For me to even speak to a guy, he has to be attractive. Honestly if someone is not attractive to you, will you approach them to know them better? No right so in order to know a person on a deeper level, physical attraction plays a role first... my opinion

[I-am-a-nobody]

I love math, so how about this:
"Looks matter, but at some point the marginal benefit of looks approaches 0."
OK, it's not as pithy as "Looks don't matter." However the truth is, at a certain point, one could ALMOST say, "Looks don't matter."
For me, anything over a 6 adds little benefit and the benefit decreases the higher it goes. So, the difference between a 9 and a 10 is much smaller than that between a 6 and a 7. So, all things being equal, of course the 10 is better, but all things are rarely equal, so RELATIVE to other qualities (intelligence, values, morality), looks aren't AS important,
So, looks do matter, but they aren't as important as the GAG community thinks.
However,...
There's nothing wrong with wanting someone who is attractive to you.

[nelly83]

Very true. Looks is just one portion of many things that need to be fulfilled

[Throwaway4397]

But when I say the same thing about a girl people say I'm being unreasonable and unrealistic. I know I'm not attractive, but I'm in good shape, have a good job, my own place, a reliable vehicle, and I'm well-read and I don't think it's too much to ask that any girl I want to be with at least puts as much effort into those things as I do. It seems like girls in general (but not all) can get away with being extremely mediocre while expecting their ideal man to be perfect in every way.

[CheezyPizza]

Yeah, its all about sex, nobody takes time anymore to realize and understand the inside of ones heart, its all about looks, what the fuck does looks have to do with anything if there isn't a personality to match it?

[Nobodycares]

Looks do matter, but don't get too upset about it. Work for what you want in life. The world isn't your oyster, but there is cause and effect from hard work.

[genericname85]

because they're full on delusional. they care more for "feel good bullshit" than "not so feel good reality".

[coffeewithcream]

Because they're ugly.

[Anonymous]

I agree looks absolutely matter. I feel like everybody knows this - maybe some wish it weren't true but there is really no way around it.