Why do several girls think giving away their virginity to a boyfriend is a valuable treasure?

[Anonymous]

When I had my first boyfriend, I already knew I wouldn't grow old with him. Life goes on. I never blamed the guy for the break-up either. Why should I? We were both willing adults and the relationship ran its course. It was actually an amicable break-up and we just went our separate ways, no one got hurt.

No offense but do they realize how pathetic that sounds? It's like they're telling ''Look, I gave him my body, I gave him sex, the greatest gift ever''. Ok so why would he be obligated to stay with you and later on propose marriage base on just that? The girl literally said nothing about her qualities, her personality, etc. This contradicts the idea of us not wanting to be seen as sex objects. By viewing her virginity as a treasure she gave him, she's still placing importance on sex, on her body... indirectly agreeing with just being good for just that. LOL

Seriously why do several girls think that way?

[Twalli]

They shouldn't. My girlfriend had sex with me when we were both ready. Yes, we're still together approaching 4 years after having sex, but she never expected me to stay after having sex. I forced her to wait until I was ready (for about 10 hours, but still), since she was ready before me. I think they're not motivated enough to search for the right person and figure that the person who has sex with them has essentially signed a contract.

[Berethor]

Because virginity is a treasure, if a girl is a virgin or a ho tell me all I need to know about her personality.

[Asker]

But if the only single thing ever she put to the table was sex, then she's still delusional if she thinks just giving up her virginity will automatically lead towards a marriage proposal. The guy has no obligations to later on make her his wife if he doesn't want to.

[Berethor]

Yea the guy might use her, then she should wait until marriage like a proper lady.

[Asker]

If she's looking for marriage and has other good qualities too then yes, waiting till marriage is suitable for her. I have a brother and I wouldn't want him to just marry any girl that can take away his money, be entitled and have no other good qualities than just saving sex for last. I know how many men feel about marriage not offering to them much.

[summiter]

I agree with you. Just enjoy the sex

[Asker]

Exactly. With my first relationship, neither of us were looking for commitment but just dating to date and going with the flow. If I were looking for commitment then I would be focusing on other qualities and getting involved in other activities myself, become an improved version, work harder, etc. I'm still laughing at the ''I gave me my greatest gift and he left, boo hoo boo, I'm crying'' idiotic logic those girls have. Nope, she gave him nothing to convince that will make him crazy enough to commit, nothing of value.

[summiter]

I would never call it a gift. Does a guy give a gift to a girl the first time he has sex... no not at all.. he gets a great orgasm. I wish people would just enjoy safe sex (and a lot of it) . It is just fun to share orgasms with someone.

[Asker]

If more girls though logical like that, there would be less heartbreaks. I don't know why they make things so complicated. Unless someone is seriously waiting till marriage and has made that clear, there is no reason to stay in a dead-end relationship just because they were your first.

[summiter]

I agree... how is your sex life currently? Have you had any fun with one nighters ( I'm not trying to troll... I'm happily married)

[Asker]

I'm currenly out of the dating market for the meantime. I'm single for now and just want to do solo travelings (I want to see the Great Pyramids of Giza), learn new things such as playing chess, riding a horse, drive to drive, etc. I'm focusing on myself basically. I don't want a relationship nor sex at this moment, just enjoy myself. I'll be back in the dating market at some point later on but it'll probably be for commitment by then.

[summiter]

Good for you... have fun!

[Shamalien]

You either get it or you don’t

you don’t. Whomever you lose your v to, you give the potential for a very strong bond.

[maximumpower]

Delusions.
Lack of connection with reality.
It's not that big of a deal.

[Zolly99999]

Being someone's first is a great feeling... But no reason to keep a crappy relationship together...

[Asker]

No doubt the feeling is great (just like eating a great, new meal for the first time or the first time learning how to drive) but it still doesn't explain someone's overall qualities and it certainly isn't enough to make a guy commit, lol.

[Zolly99999]

It's not the be all end all.. if the relationship doesn't work then it's time to move on..

[Asker]

This exactly. Those delusional girls make things complicated. If some ex girlfriend my brother dated in HS really thought he owes her marriage just because he was her first, honestly we would be laughing.

[Anonymous]

It's female entitlement and self importance.

[Asker]

I have a brother and I know commitment isn't offering too much for men nowadays. If his ex girlfriend (he left her because she was an entitled jealous freak) from his HS years came back and demanded commitment just because he took her virginity, both my brother and I would be looking at each other and laughing.

[Asker]

For all I know, such girl can be after the guy's money too.

[Anonymous]

They are delusional.

[Asker]

Exactly. Even when I was a virgin, I sounded more logical than those girls. Why would having sex with a guy be the greatest gift ever? LOL