Why do several people think great sex solves arguments?

Ok so you have great moments of pleasure after having a couple big arguments in the relationship, how is that solving things?

The great sex thing sounds like applying a small band-aid to the obvious big, bleeding wound. It's just a temporarily distraction to the bigger issues. You still haven't solve nothing by just sex.

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Can you really call that make-up sex if the issues haven't gotten solve through effective communication in the first place? Seriously I'm trying to understand how does great sex erases the argument and everything gets solved magically? You still haven't worked on your differences, your goals on what to do next time an argument like that happens again, your ways to communicate, etc.
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  • Not every conflict has a great resolution. Sometimes, a partner must accept that this is an issue on whch they must compromise. The conflict causes tension and, because the conflict isn't resolved, the tension remains.

    How can we dissipate that tension and make ourselves feel better? Hmmmm. . . I have an idea!

    • But it's just a distraction for a bit until the problem comes up again.

    • It's a splended distraction!

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  • It kinda does. Most arguments are heated in the moment then 3 days later seem pointless. So be interrupting the argument with sex allows you both to have an endorphins rush and forget about the argument that will seem petty and pointless in a few days. Obviously this isn't for every argument but the minor ones it does.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe because it's simple and it's like chocolate milk and wounds... chocolate milk makes the pain go away. Sooo sex makes the problems go-

    *snickering to the side*

  • It’s not the sex. It’s having solving the problem that makes the sex great.

    • Then that's a difference. I was referring to when the problem isn't solved and couples just decide to have make-up sex. The problem will eventually appear again.

    • Yes. True.

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  • I agree with you 100%.

    The issues are still there.

  • It definitely isn't a solution more like a distraction for a bit until the problem comes back

  • I don't know why some people think sex "solves" a problem. Make-up sex is only great if you actually "make up" and come to a resolution first but it won't help you arrive at one.

  • Ant say other than nope

  • From what I understand, makeup sex is sex after an argument is resolved.

  • It fixes the problem for right now and you can approach it at another time a little bit more calmly.

  • talk is meaningless unless there is any credibility to back it up but great sex on the other hand is only great if a partner can prove they are like a timex watch which can take a licking but keeps on ticking and ticking and ticking 😇❤️😊

    • But the relationship issues are still pending and they haven't been erased with sex. At the point the couple will need to review those issues and communicate about them. I've heard of several people still staying in toxic relationships with arguments, only staying longer with each other because of the great sex. Sex should never be the main foundation of a relationship because attraction and lust fades faster as time passes by.

    • toxic relationships will make the person ugly and the desire for sex decreases so its best to walk away immediately than try to change someone because by then they will have something on you and threaten to blackmail you if you try to leave and with that being said i can't tell anyone what to do but just keep an eye out for red flags. good luck 😘

  • Of course it helps. There is a reason it's called making love.

    • But it doesn't solve the main issue in the relationship. A relationship main foundation can't be just sex.

    • I didn't say anything about sex being the foundation of a relationship. I also didn't say sex solves everything, and I don't think anyone else is saying that either. But there is no question sex can help improves matters.