Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
As a psychology student and daughter of a very experienced psychiatrist, I have noticed a rise in single males getting depression. The reason is the same in many cases: Sexual frustration.
These men simply aren't satisfied with their sex life and it has a great impact on their mental state. Actually, the frustration is also mental, not physical. It's not like these men never had sex, most did. Just not enough, not with enough partners and not the type of sex they want to have. And to be honest, I think it's the casual sex culture of today that makes them depressed.
When you put society's sexual behavior in numbers you get some striking results. All single women ages 18-35 seem to have sex about 3 times a month on average. Since there is a large pool of 35% of single women that doesn't have sex outside a relationship, that means the ones that do, do it quite often (I can confirm that myself being in college lol). Especially for being single. Also the number of sex partners a woman has by age 30 is now a lot higher than a decade ago. About half the women have double digits.
I don't have an average number of how often all male singles have casual sex on average, but we do know that only 20% of single men have had one or more casual encounters. Most of them only had sex outside a relationship a couple times. Only a very small amount of these men admitted to have casual sex extremely often (more than once a week).
So overall, and I concluded that from patients themselves as well, single women (18-35) have a very active sex life. Single men on the other hand, except for those lucky few, have an almost none existent sex life. That by itself shouldn't be the biggest problem. But today there is an attitude that everyone should be having casual sex, that it's very common and normal. It is, for most women, not for most men. Media constantly pushes it in our faces and through social media, some brag about their success. And when a man feels that he is sexually not as successful as the norm, he feels like a loser, a failure, and gets depressed.
Another factor that plays a role, is ownership. As ridiculous as it may sound, men connect sex with ownership. When they have sex with a woman they have (some more than others) the feeling that they own that women, like they conquered her. If they can do it without a commitment, they feel like they definitely own the woman, and they feel superior to the men that have or will commit to that woman. In fact casual sex seems to give a much larger ego boost to a man then doing it with a commitment.
So while most men don't get many partners in bed, they know those few superior guys are out there owning pretty much all the women, putting their mark on them and ruining them for when they one day might get a chance with them, probably through commitment. Guys have a strong sense for sexual competition (check sperm competition). Some anti-feminist groups like MGTOW (they are completely crazy though) have theories based off this. With the current casual hookup culture, this situation has become pretty hopeless for the large group of single men.
So the combination of the ownership issue and the feeling like they don't make the norm because of media spreading the commonness of casual sex, makes single men seriously doubt their sexuality and this seems to get them very depressed. If you are a single man and feel like this, I hope my take on this will make you feel a little better, because remember, you are not alone.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 91You're wildly overselling casual sex here, it's not all its cracked up to be and although it's pleasurable, its certainly not some magical pill that makss you feel like Superman. There are many other activities that give a bigger confidence boost and rush. I don't believe casual sex in and of itself can be attributed to depression, the issue is guys moping around feeling sorry for themselves and not finding those other ways of getting that endorphin rush.
However I will agree with the point about today's media putting too much emphasis on hoookups. I imagine being bombarded with it all can trigger the feeling that it's the only way to feel good about yourself, which leads to a lack of motivation to do other things.
Yeah, not sure about those exact statistics, but in general this take is somewhat true. On the other hand all those guys not getting action have unrealistic expectations of what the more "successful" guys are up to, and this indeed ties into media portrayals of hookup culture. Yes, that other guy is having lots more sex than you, but it isn't all you think it is, half the time he was just banging that fat/ugly chick you turned down yourself or never even wanted to talk to. It's almost always a case of him having lower standards than you or putting some minimal effort in his appearance that you refused to do, rather than him being a greek god with magical "game" skills.
This is supposed to make us feel better? You essentially just repeated what we already knew to be true.
Personally, I try to make myself feel better by telling myself that I only need one woman. It doesn't matter if the majority of them are sluts having sex with the few successful guys. It doesn't matter if the majority of them reject me. I only need one likeminded woman to accept me, one who shares the same values. If I can just find that one woman, then it doesn't matter what the rest of the world does.
The few successful guys she's talking about are the guys who wants to get pussy. The guys who are busting their balls for women for just sex. Those who properly approach them.
@masc23 is "pussy," really worth that much?
@ILikeToTalkToPeople Not to me, no. I honestly have no problem committing to a woman, marrying her, and being completely devoted for sex. My problem however is doing this with women who have been slurring around with the really successful dudes for years before finally settling for me. I am not a dog to be fed leftovers. Any woman who wants total commitment and devotion from me should reciprocate with virginity, respect, and fidelity.
I guess
The problem you have is that a lot of women lie about their past and completely transform into a different women when it's time to settle down.
Example:
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This woman presented herself as a respectable doctor who was good woman. Her husband believing she was a good woman married and ends up having 3 kids with her. Years later into the marriage she goes on a girl's night out and dies from cocaine/alcohol overdose in a drug dealer's apartment where her panties were stuffed in her purse.
In short. Women will lie to you when its time for marriage/LTR. They will lie about what they've done for other men. They will lie about their sexual partner count. They will about who they are as a person.
Hell many of them think it's ok to lie casual to men when there is no reason to and they often use the excuse " I didn't want to hurt his feelings".
@BubbleBoy69 That is why I honestly would not probably marry a woman outside of Church or religious groups. They are about the only ones who might really be virgins assuming they are into their faith.
I got some bad news for you...
Oh by the way a lot of men didn't read this because it can save them so headache but these are some key indicators to spot a slut.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a27405-25-signs-she-is-a-slut
Casual sex makes me even more depressed. Explain that away, dear wise one.
It does make me feel better, thanks. :)
I definitely hate the idea of having to take a woman out and earn the sex through romance and commitment knowing that they have sent nudes, blown and had sex no strings attached with other guys who didn't have any expectations placed on them. To me it translates as "youre not as attractive or exciting as the guys I would be sexual with right away but if you jump through hoops and commit to me first then Ill will give you a shot". "They were worth taking a risk on but you're not, you have to prove yourself to me first."
Knowing this I just feel no motivation to date. I would definitely rather be one of the ones who get it no strings attached but if I can't be one of those guys then I will happily stay single. I'd rather stay single than date a girl who gives herself easily to other guys and then becomes a challenge for me. Either that or I want to be with one of the rare girls who never has casual sex.
Oh bandit girls also tend to cuck you while you take them out these days. They'll fuck some guy while you are dating her. Women use men today like apps on their phone. Guy A - Here Go to guy for fucking the shit out of her and making her cum Guy B - Her male friend to get that companionship (BF treatment) who also doubles as her psychologist when she wants to bitch about life. Guy C - The guy who takes her out on dates when she has those romantic feeling tendencies and wants to be wine and dine, treated special and not remember all the whorish things she did for Guy A.
There are many guys that feel the same way as you! Myself included. If I don't feel she is primally attracted to me, I lose interest FAST. As funny as it sounds, a turn on for me is knowing for certain that she is into me in a romantic way. :)
See, now you're making it out to be that once I have sex, I must have sex at least once every 2 weeks, or I will spiral uncontrollably into depression.
This is basically putting me off the idea :/
don't listen to a word of this please -.-
@justbanANNAz Don't worry, I'm not.
so, umm... where are you getting all of these statistics from? Uranus?
If i were a guy, i'd rather be in a relationship than have casual sex because then i'd know the girl doesn't just want me for my body, and that she wants to be with me for all of me and my flaws. Because at the end of the day, casual sex is just sex. there's nothing more to it than that.
I think it's better for casual sex. Like you said she wants you for your body (i. e. sexual attraction) and many guys can easily change this into a relationship if they so desire (see countless daily question by girls asking how they can change friends with benefits situation into a relationship.) Relationship however. She may like you for other reasons and sexual attraction may not even be top priority among them (consequence- less intense sex life that gets spread out as honeymoon phase comes to an end and the relationship mellows out). There was tinder study done on gag by a psychology student. Girls had hot, pornstar, animalistic style sex in casual and less intense, passionate sex when in relationship.
lol at thinking men care about being objectified and 'used'.
How simplistic. No, hardly, as the index of men's and boys mental health has statistically declined steadily over the last decade or so, but the opportunities for casual sex has increased. I have proposed other sources for this decline, but I honestly think you've missed the mark.
"Just not enough, not with enough partners and not the type of sex they want to have"
This is a good example of the misogynistic males sense of entitlement. Not only is he entitled to sex but he is entitled to a certain type of sex, amount of sex and presumably with a certain calibre of woman.
"When they have sex with a woman they have (some more than others) the feeling that they own that women, like they conquered her"
Misogynists view women as objects they can own through sex and think of sex as a zero sum game women lose by having sex with them. Only a very insecure man would feel a woman who had sex with them had failed in some way.
I think it's very unlikely a woman wrote this cos it's just another Manosphere recurgitation which this site is full of. If a woman did write this I guess it just proves women are capable of sexism towards their own gender. I would ask where u got ur stats from but I'm sure u just got them from a blog the owner of which got them from thin air and bitterness.
Lol *shakes head* not at all true.
1. What @ManOnFire said. Sex is more available these days than ever for men without any responsibilities. So this alone disproves your point already.
2. Sexual need is often an expression for the need of intimacy and affection. Thus said sexual desire can simply mean that there is a deeper lack of intimacy and the feeling of being loved.
As much as many want to deny this, yes thats pretty much what happens , 20%-30% of men have sex with lots of women and the rest just sit there and watch, why? sometimes lack of confidence but other times luck and sheer luck, some guys i know never ever land on a girl that is into sex, other guys i know are really frustrated that they can't find a decent girl who wants more than sex, these guys are overweight and not really that sexy or attractive so its not like they're charming the girls into sleeping with them , they just get lucky.
OMG YES!!! Pussy isn't going to come to you, you have to fight for it and by fighting for it, you have to take rejection.
I'm one of them!!!
The last time I've had sex with a girl was last night.
you mean you get lucky?
I have not touched a woman for almost 15 years and things are just fine, with a little help from a prescription SSRI. . . but I have had an issue with depression since I was a small child.
lol i was one of those 20% guys fucking all the chicks. now i have such a bad outlook on women because of their behavior ill never get married. when my uncle told me all women are sluts i didn't believe. fast forward fifteen years and the guy was correct.
Are you serious? What makes you think that way? What was the behavior of the women you had? Not judging your view on things, just curious
it was just really easy to get women into bed. every type of women. so i came to the conclusion every women is just a cocktail and the right words away from just dropping her panties. women kind of just lost their appeal for marriage. not because i dont like women anymore but because how i was raised. i can't love women anymore i can just be in a functioning relationship. what i thought women were turned out to be false i thought women were supposed to be chaste and I don't know just not how they are. they like to talk back and have opinions about shit i dont care to discuss. I don't know its just not anything that i want long term. i guess i feel that women in general in the modern world are not worth the effort.
I've always been single and never had sex, I suffer from bad depression and attempted suicide twice. For me it feels like the end of the world you can't be denied bodily contact and stay sane, it's not possible. If only there was a magic mytake how to easily land a girl for casual sex because I could use that advice now.
Isaac Newton was a virgin male who basically told women to fuck off so he could help change humanity and do shit. Even when they threw themselves at him.
Why not become the next newton?
This is how girls operate today:
https://i.imgur.com/7BAIt6r.jpg
@BubbleBoy69 believe me I've tried making a dent in this World and going solo. It doesn't feel right to me, I've always wanted a family and nothing will change my dream. Is it wrong to want a girl to talk to and have her next to me and snuggle and for the holidays have someone to spend it with who is there for me and I for her, and sex isn't so bad either 😛 There's so much to live for but I'm bored being alone I don't want that kinda life at my age it's unhealthy.
Not me, mine is caused by a lack of love, loving her and her loving me and lack of holding her and kissing and spending time with her, i am not lying, sex isn't even a option for me, im still a virgin and plan to be until i meet the right girl
I don't get depressed at all, maybe I'm just an exception.
Do you have any experimental data based on sound repetable methodology to back up your claim?