Guys, Why do so many guys say they hate a girl giving them a handjob? What are we so bad at?

[Anonymous]

[Paul_in_Indy]

The handjob is the consolation prize. We wanted a night of mind bending sex. We would have settled for a quick fuck. A sensual blowjob while looking into your eyes would have been OK. It would have been hot to try fucking your tits. …. but… We got a rub-out…because you felt sorry for us, or wanted us to stop pestering you, or whatever. It is better than nothing, but it is a disappointment.

[Asker]

Fair enough, usually i can't get in the mood for morning sex like he is and a blowjob before a morning shower is to much haha, im pretty good and i like watching him cum, seems always more intense in the morning from elevated testosterone levels haha

[Paul_in_Indy]

It would certainly be less disappointing if I knew I was going to have sex with you again in the future. A hand job from a hook up is almost like a defeat.

[bzcxx]

I’ve never enjoyed getting handjobs. I’ve never been with a girl who’s been good at it.
Maybe it’s because we (men) have spent years perfecting the art of self-pleasure and we have set the bar so high that no girl could ever reach it. I can’t say the same for blowjobs though - they’re truly the most pleasurable thing in this universe.

[loveAnsweringOldQS]

I don't

[Slingblade1126]

For me a girl doesn't know what rythum is pleasing to me or exactly how much pressure to put. I have wanted to grab her arm in the past and either go faster or slower but that is too weird.

[spartan55]

Too often they start punching the clown 🤡 too damn hard...😳

[summiter]

I love handjobs. Lube makes them even better. They sure feel way better than jerking off solo. Keep it up!!!

[Asker]

Thanks! I love seeing a man cum and feel him throbbing in my hand 😁, they are easy to hide in public too haha, in the car driving home from the gym is intense after a big workout, he always throbs a little harder and longer from spiking his testosterone levels i feel the difference 😊

[summiter]

I bet he loves the great orgasms!!!

[abc3643]

My wife used to give me HJs. She was very good!

[abc3643]

What we don't like about it though is that, to us, it comes across as selfish... like here were are getting something and nothing is free, so we have to "pay bay" in some way. It's like making a purchase on a credit card. During straight intercourse, you are both getting what you want at the same time. I had to get a mental adjustment that some women just love to watch or make a penis squirt, so it's not just a selfless act for her but something she wants to do because it turns her on.

[abc3643]

*** What we don't like about it though is that, to us, it comes across as selfish... like here we are getting something yet nothing is free, so we have to "pay back" in some way. It's like making a purchase on a credit card and you have to pay the bill later.

[Asker]

I like watching his reaction and feeling his throbing erection unload. He started lifting heavy weights and training legs to cum as hard as possible for me, after he built up 7 days and lifted that morning he fucked me and him throbing inside me felted like a full thrust and lasted like 15 seconds. He came in like 1 minute tho haha. Recovered almost instantly.

[rbow_Z28]

This is puzzling to me... I sometimes prefer a HJ over sex -- but it's because I do have a lung condition, so sex sometimes is harder; HJ makes me happier. The only issue I could think of would be whether there were any interruptions, like if a girl suddenly stopped when there was momentum going; or a guy was about to cum, and she suddenly stopped. God now I wish I had a HJ lol...

[slatyb]

Whatever it is, you can improve with practice. Start with lube, not too vigorous. The most important thing for a hand job or oral sex is to move your hands or mouth, not the object of your affection.

[20yearsolder]

Because we prefer her lips on our dicks but if all she's willing to do then I'll take the hand job over nothing at all

[ManOnFire]

Handjobs are the worst. She either tugs too hard and fast or is too soft. And it always feels like the girl just wants you to hurry up and cum because her arm is getting tired, and since I'm not a guy who cums very fast, and definitely not from handjobs, I feel like I have to force myself to. They are one of the worst forms of intimacy in my opinion.

[AviatorTom]

You're not bad at hand jobs... we guys want more than your hand. We guys are pretty skilled at giving ourselves a hand job. What we want from you girls is more, your mouth or your pussy.