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Why do so many men think vulvas look like what they see in porn?

I’m mainly speaking on porn addicting incels. The last of education is frustrating. It’s as if I were to say all penises were 9in on average… no 😂

but so many men want to treat the average vulva (one with curtains) as if it’s a micropenis. It’s irritating as hell. Sex does not make a vagina look like that!!! Puberty does. That means lots of 13yos have vulvas that are typical, not ones you see in porn! It’s hella creepy how much they hyper sexualize them. There’s nothing wrong with having a “Barbie pussy” I’m sure it’s easier and more comfortable. It’s the same thing as having a flat chest (which I do envy) but it’s not the norm. Why are we shaming young girls and woman for having what’s typical rather than exceptions? It makes no sense to me.

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  • Good question and I know what you mean, by that. My FIRST -long-term girlfriend was as you described, with closed outer labia and no visible labia minora, until I went down on her for several minutes and then the inner labia would protrude and open up with the blood in the labia. What I am NOT SURE of is what you are saying is the 'norm"? I first girlfriend had what I would call a "Barbie Pussy" as I described above.

    I guess what you are saying is the 'one with curtains" is the norm, and I have to believe that is true. I had limited exposure to 'looking' at a woman's vulva with the exception of my first girlfriend. Later I saw one girl I worked with that had very large, inside-protruding labia that had me 'back peddling from eating her out. I had not enough experience with 'physically LOOKING at the various woman's vulva to recognize the difference, and as a matter of fact, I only ASKED a married friend if I could LOOK AT HER PUSSY directly, and she agreed, even asking me to 'turn on the lights and close the bedroom door, Which I did, and even opened her labia and looked at her clitoris, urethra and the vagina opening. A FIRST for me and educational.

    Thanks for the good inquiry.

    • P. S. My one excuse for not looking at a girl's vulva, is that they DID NOT WANT ME to look at it.

    • My present woman friend included... She told me to my face: "You don't want to see it" !

    • Yup! Nothing wrong with that type! But, I just want men to understand that’s not typical. What is typical is protruding labia minora, statistically speaking. I understand not knowing that, what’s trusting to me is the number of defiant men once I explain to them that’s what’s statistically true. The type you seen in porn are actually often the result of labiaplasty even, so they’re not even naturally appearing in that way.

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  • I too am annoyed by these kinds of guys and their expectations based on their ridiculous addiction - or need - for porn. I think these must be the inexperienced dudes who are virgins, so when they lose it for the first time they see that a woman's body isn't like what they see in porn. It's okay to be a virgin and inexperienced, but don't have an attitude that a woman's body should look what you see in pornography, because 7 times out of 10, it's going to be different.

    It personally is not necessary for me for a woman to have a perfect bald kitty and perfect looking lips that aren't 'beef curtains.' If she does, it's fine, but if not it isn't that big a deal.

    • Exactly my point!

    • I think it's really sad the way so many guys today get their education from porn and mess up their whole concept of sex and female bodies.

    • Just look at all the men trying to argue here 😂 “no men think that! Also, I’ve had sex with HUNDREDS of women and they’re all the kind you see in porn”

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  • Probably the same reason guys think, a sitting vulva view, should look the same when standing or spreading or other positions and if it isn't. Yup found several men like that, who obviously had zero clue that they can change shape, positions and such depending on how you are.

    Most likely due to the porn industry really focusing on those, and people who have no real life experience to see that they aren't the same.

    • @Aerissa_Jade Aerissa, keep in mind that what is said earlier, is probably true for many couples, I have had women friends that DID NOT ME TO LOOK at their pussy (labia), for what reason, I did not understand then, but after more experience, I thought they did not have the "pretty" BARBIE PUSSY, and for that reason, they declined to show it to us. What a guy has not see before, he cannot have a 'view" (no pun intended) of what the typical vulva looks like.

    • "DID NOT WANT ME TO LOOK"

  • I must watch some different porn then cuz what I usually see most of the girls have longer labias/big clits type of stuff going on but then again I try to stay clear of "teen" porn so maybe that shows girls with the type of smaller pussy that you are talking about.

    • Eh, we’ll teens have that too. But that certain kind is sexualized in a weird way. Like if you have that kind, you’re more mature. But the reality is that most teens have that kind since it forms during puberty, which starts about age nine to twelve. It’s like how there’s nothing wrong with preferring flat chests, but they’re obviously underdeveloped when it comes to womens development. My point is just to understand that a protruding labia minora is actually the most typical, and that it’s found way before most girls hit adulthood (18-21 depending on what you see as adult) The only type that would have that kind 100% of the time without picking specific women or having them undergo labiaplasty would be pornography with prepubescent girls. So it’s off putting to me how porn has shaped it that that’s the normal.

    • Yeah its cuz beauty standards are pedophilic. Even just take a look at most models, skinny, flay chest, no curves. The media forces that as attractive so men are drawn to it even tho it's not natural to like undeveloped women. It's very sad for the men that fall for that trap and don't like the look of a real adult woman

    • There’s nothing wrong with a underdeveloped woman and a man being attracted to her, but it shouldn’t be the beauty standard for sure. The standard should be a developed lovely woman whose past her teen years enough to be completely filled out. I grew two inches from age 18 to 21! As well as a cup size and a few inches on the hips. It’s creepy how people wanna push the age to sixteen when really 18 isn’t always fully developed in a lot of cases either.

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  • From what I've seen of vulvas in porn is they all look like there been brutally beaten with a baseball bat.

    • What do you mean? I’m talking more about brazzers type where there’s no visible labia minora

    • From what I've seen of porn it's not surprising as most of them look like they could take a horse up there lol

    • Noooo I don’t think the way to go is to shame underdeveloped vulvas. Just to recognize what’s normal and healthy and to not shame that

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  • You're not wrong but why do you care what porn addicted incels think? I mean it's not like they're having a fun time. They probabaly only see porm vaginas.

    I never really get the incel hate, except the obvious elliot roger types. They have no power, no enviable place in society. It's funny, for the first time everyones not ignoring them.

    In any case young people all have this problem. Im a 6'7 black guy and a lot of people expect me to have a 10 inch c*ck. Im glad im evem slightly above average because a 5.5 incher would look like a micropenis on my huge frame.

    • I’m not a feminist by any means, don’t get me wrong. I’m actually more conservative. But I see this growing incel community on the right that’s synonymous with the sjws of the left and it definitely bothers me. More than that tho, it is a common idea that “roast beef” vaginas are gross and overused. Lots of 12yos have that kind since they’re well through puberty at that point. It just angers me a bit to have yet another body issue pushed on them because of the degeneracy of pornography and the lack of proper education.

    • Again, You're right but... we're talking 12 year olds and young kids... all of our sex ideas are messed up at that point. Still i feel your pain.

  • Yes, porn is all a guy's fantasy. Vulvas and penises do not look like this in real life.

  • They all are visually off putting to me. So couldn't really say I care.
    And I doubt it can be compared to size of a penis as the size of penis does actually effect how you experience pleasure.
    I could be really wrong here but I don't think vulvas differ on pleasure no matter how they look right? Or if so at least it don't effect our pleasure.

    Which means it can't really be compared to the size of a penis.

    • True!! Vulva is purely aesthetic, although some may be long enough to require surgery (they could cause discomfort during sex) but that’s atypical as well. I agree most are off putting just as penises are. Like genetalia is only really hot in general if you’re already turned on (at least for me) or like the person perhaps.

    • Indeed so it don't really bother me. Surprised other people are bothered about it.

    • It’s mainly just porn addicted virgins who spend too much time hating women rather than looking to themselves for self improvement. 🙄 sad, really.

  • I totally agree with you. According to studies with volunteers and large sample sizes the majority of women have visible inner labia ("outies"). As you mentioned, porn gives a very inaccurate picture of how most vulvas look in real life. And the penis sizes in porn are representative of probably 1% or less of men.

    • I wish wankers were more logical as to understand this, and to stop posting stupid memes about how women with roast beef “vaginas” are just overused whores. That’s crazy. Especially considering their standard they’re looking at are literal whores 😭 (porn stars)

    • Those guys are very ignorant and immature about normal female anatomy.

    • Bro in the comments trying to convince me that half of vulvas look like porn types 🤣🤣 and that “no men” insult the average type, which is curtains.

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  • i dont watch porn that much but i see a lot of the non barbie ones..

    also dont think guys care that much unless your pussy looks really weird or bad. like no dude will be like eww and leave if they see you got a pussy that's not a perfectly tucked thin slit

    • @4ngelic I confess I was spoiled by the "perfectly tucked, thin slit" that my 24 YO girlfriend had when I was in my 20's. So as a result, I did not know the difference between, the 'thin slit' and the ones with larger, protruding, inner lips. From my experience, that is because MOST/MANY young guys are only interested in getting their penis in the girl, and NOT LOOKING at what they are penetrating, and because of that they don't know there is a difference. Honestly, I only really "looked" at two vulvas, one a long-term girlfriend and the other a married girl that I ASKED her, "May I look at your pussy" and she said "yes". She had he [perfectly tucked, thin slit, you allude to.

  • I had one girlfriend years ago who had the longest labia minora I have seen in person. Something like this.

    Why do so many men think vulvas look like what they see in porn?

    They were clearly visible (drooping, kind of) at any time. Great for giving her oral. Gorgeous and delicious.

    My SO now is like this.

    Why do so many men think vulvas look like what they see in porn?

    Cute, neat and compact.
    Both were treats to behold and love on.

    • Exactly! Most men who’ve actually felt the embrace of a woman don’t give a single shit. But it’s crazy that they act like the average type is typical only to whores and that they shame it so heavily. I get the trope “women like six foot with nine inch dicks” but tho it’s a preference women still understand 5’10 with 5in is average. So many incels are forcefully ignorant against the fact that most women have larger labia minoras, and they’re disgusted by them! The irony is that they can’t get any in general so they just choose to shame a type that’s less aesthetically pleasing and choose to spread misinformation that just leaves 13yo girls with even more body issues than they already have to deal with 🙄🙄🙄

    • So ignore them because they're idiots. Don't keep friends like that in your inner circle. So many people ask why do so many x think like y. The answer almost always are because some people are just dumb, annoying, mean, and or hateful. That is just because humans are those things sometimes. There's no explaining it other than education or no real world experience.

  • Because I've seen LOTS of them in real life and they look just like the ones in porn! Besides, I don't know of ANYONE in porn that goes to the trouble of masquerading their own pussy just for the movie!!

  • Because they are delusional and watch too much porn. Lack of sex education makes them think like that. Sometimes its annoying when they have unreal expectations.

  • They also think that outie vaginas are like banged too much or stretched too much. I luckily didn't have that problem, but I'm apparently too skinny for most guys. I still believe having a small dick is the worst

    • It’s just puberty that makes them like that. There’s nothing wrong with yours, but it is underdeveloped. It’s like a little button nose. Cute, desirable, but also atypical and underdeveloped. My point is just that the average (average is curtain type vulvas) are shamed and sneered at.

    • @Shedzij567 My MD told me yesterday that if most Americans looked like me (5'8" 140 LBS) our healthcare costs would plummet by 1/3 or more. You STAY TOO skinny, and you will live healthier and LONGER. BTY, my neighbor told me that she F*&^%$ a guy with a very small penis and: "I could not even feel it" so, she agrees with you.

    • @Bricealan yeah being thin and eating right is healthiest, I agree. Tho irish men who weigh more and eat lots of protein are hot too 😤😤 picking up whole ass telephone poles

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  • Yeah it’s mad. Most girls 12 and under have innies but from that age anything can Happen. It can either stay that way and majora gets bigger or the minora get bigger and become visible. Doesn’t really matter does it. With a pee fetish though I believe guys may prefer more minora, could be wrong

  • How do you know most men think this?

    • I didn’t say most?

    • My apologies you did not say that.

    • How many is so many? My point is anyone who's been with women knows they're all different. I feel like I don't live in the same world as half the people on here. Some people are just idiots, ignorant, and mean. Is this a social media phenomenon now where men are body shaming vulvas? Is it possible that you're talking about a few people in your inner circle of friends and that is so many men? If I'm wrong my apologies again but explain what so many means if it's ok with you. I ask this because as a man I don't think this and I've never heard any of my male friends talk like this. I've had adult conversations with prob thousands of people (based on my job) in personal settings and have never heard this come up one. My point is my observation is still anecdotal and I admit I could have not heard of this. But this seems like some virgin young guy nonsense. You said you're referring to porn addicted incels so what did you expect from that group?

  • They do. The ones in porn are real vulvas. Those are what males unrealistically desire equivalent to women wanting massive schlongs.

    But most men don't actually care. I personally don't give a crap what a potential love interest's vulva looks like. Would I have a certain preference? Sure but it isn't a priority at all.

    • I understand they’re real, it’s just not the typical type. A lot of men seem under the impression that they’re only to look like the ones they see in porn, and if they look average then they’re overused and gross. Unfortunate thing to hear 🙄🙄 you don’t have women complaining about a five or six inches. They may preference bigger but they know what’s normal.

  • Those who do are probably inexperienced with real live women.

    • Porn has only worked against women by polluting the minds of men who historically would’ve probably been sweet but now they’re just bitter and gross incels with unrealistic standards. My 40yo uncle said “if one is worthy” to when my mom got him plates and said if he got a wife and kids it would suite them… no dude, look at yourself please 😂 There’s nothing wrong with a man of less quality, cuz there’s women who would suit him and they could be perfect together. The issue is all these men (and women) of low quality who think they deserve someone of the top 1% of quality. To the point of where even if they get someone out of their league, it’s still not enough and they fuck it up.

  • They all look different. And that’s awesome! Love seeing what a girls got down there. Lol

  • I don't. And I prefer outies. They are waaay hotter.

  • Are you suggesting that men are shaming women who have a visible vulva? And are all women in porn Barbies? I'm confused.

    • They do often shame that

    • I can't say I've noticed anything strange about the vaginas in porn. I see all shapes and traits, including large labia. As for me. I love a nice outie. More to enjoy.

  • 😂😂🤣 bc men are childish and delusional

  • Unfortunately, there are always such 🙈 I've seen many different ones and I have to honestly say that I've liked every type of vulva so far

    • Exactly! Most men who’ve either have had a lot of sex or else have never seen porn and only sleep with their wife; they love any vulva! 😂 but these women haters don’t understand female biology at all! And don’t get me wrong, I’m conservative! I’m not a feminist by any means. But this influx of incels is making me only want to socialize with male feminist and female republicans. They balance themselves out a bit. I think it’d be healthy if there would be even a little bit of education on it in school. They show the diagrams in class but they use the type that’s typically prepubescent to do so… strange.

    • I agree with you, but unfortunately that's exactly what happens with penises 🙈 It should be discussed more at school and drawings of different ones should also be shown.

    • Except with penis size tho women may have preference (having had larger ones, my preference is average 5-6 cuz bigger just hurts) they still understand five is average even if they prefer a 9. Which would be fine if men preferred Barbie type so long as they understood that’s not average… but they can’t comprehend it! That’s crazy to me. Logic is not the friend of the alt left (sjws) or the alt right (incels) and unfortunately both are growing in numbers 😭

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  • They all coming with different shapes and types, that's making guys interest with them...

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