Why do so many women have casual sex when most men are not physically attractive?

I have never understood this. At my university, the girls there were so loose, and there were, like, 5 attractive men. These girls seemed to be willing to hook up with anyone that had a pulse and a penis. Same thing after college. I have no idea why so many women are willing to have sex with men who have bad acne, dad bods, and unattractive features.
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  • If there were only 5 attractive men, then the 5 most attractive women would have their attention. If you weren't one of those 5 women, you likely still strongly desired male attention, and you adjust your standards.

    I visit a college town once or twice a year (my uncle lives there, as did my aunt before she died 20 years ago). It's a pretty isolated town with about 20,000 full-time residents and about 40,000 students between a state university and a nursing college. Less than 25% of those 40,000 students are male - more than 75% are female, and there aren't nearly enough single men in the non-student population. As such, LOTS of women there are single and don't want to be. So, a funny thing happens: the women there are VERY open and VERY friendly.

    I'm a 50 year old fat guy (though I look much closer to 30 than 40), and a bit below average in looks (maybe 4/10). But when I'm in this town, women constantly come up and strike up conversations with me, and I get invited to BBQs and parties and so on. These things NEVER happen to "average" guys normally - we're mostly invisible to women unless we can spend some time around them and get past our looks - but in this town, I'm like a low-level celebrity just because I'm male and single.

    It's simply a matter of supply and demand. The girls there really, REALLY want male attention, and there aren't nearly enough males to go around, so when there's a new available guy, there are plenty of girls who pounce and want to get to know him.

    While this is an extreme example, this same dynamic is playing out at other colleges. Women are nearly 60% of all college students today, which means that only 40% are male, so 1 in 5 women don't have a man. While some of those women may not want a man, there are still LOTS of women who do, who can't get one (or, not easily), so they're much more aggressive about trying to meet and attract men, and are wiling to do what it takes to get the attention they crave.

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  • What you find attractive or unattractive doesn't govern other peoples perspectives. The majority of men of this world do not have acne and dad bods. Perhaps this is limited to your community... or your brain. You do know that some girls find dad bods attractive right? If this isn't another disguised "I hate men" rant, then I think you should broaden your perspective bit.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Many of us don’t care so much about the looks as the personality.
    I have dated sexy drool over guys that are complete jerks. I don’t go for overweight and grotesque people because it’s unhealthy but someone in between can usually be a good guy to hold on to

  • Well for me it's more about if the guy is nice. I rather sleep with a guy who is ugly but respects my boundaries and is safe. Instead of with a hot model who doesn't want to use a condom and only does what he wants.

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  • Because in general, IMHO, women are less sensitive to looks than men and focus more on personality and esp money.

  • Gotta make do with what you got. Plus there's probably lots of drinking and getting high going on. And young people are very imaginative.

  • It's called a social service. They're doing this so that us women don't have to be scared if we are gonna get raped and stabbed by incels. Those little angels🙌

  • Beauty is in the eye of the beer-holder.

  • If they're unattractive then maybe they're just a decent person with an actual personality XD Bit shallow basing everything off looks, innit?

  • Likely those 5 attractive men were *not* attracted to most of the women. Hence the other women went for men who weren't as attractive.

    "These girls seemed to be willing to hook up with anyone that had a pulse and a penis." Wow! What university was that? Certainly not the one I attended! 😄

  • Some of them may like the guy despite their looks or some may be horny at the time. Some of them also may not have gotten laid in a long time.

  • Alcohol is a mother fucker. Just playing kinda. Everybody has their preferences for whatever reason it doesn't make them a bad person if they like sex as long as they're not hurting anyone. I would ask why does it bother you so much? How does it directly effect you?

  • cause obviously they get "something" out of it. so let them do what the heck they like and don't judge xD it's not your life.

  • This is what happens, when there isn't much choice. Which is great for the guys.

  • Simple women are not that attractive either.

  • They are unfortunately whores and they're in it just for the sex they have an itch that needs to be scratched

  • It feels good

  • You know that attractiveness is subjective, right? People don't have the same standards as you do.

  • It's how the way he performs is what turns her on.

  • Penis is addicting I guess

  • Cause they don't mind fucking who ever they're willing to fuck. They have needs they want satisfied so why not satisfy them? At least they're getting some dick.

  • you answered your own question

  • That’s what I call desperate.

  • sounds like you are pretty "shallow" maybe the guys you "Look down on" are great in other ways.. personality? yes that counts, Generous, Loving, Kind, Loyal... you just look for a "Pretty boy" with no substance? that is sad, for you.

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