Why do some guys turn creepy like this?

[Anonymous]

I've known this guy for 8 years. He has only been a friend, never dated, hooked up, or anything. He knows that I left an abusive man and am starting over and working on healing from that. He offered to let me borrow a spare tv he had, for my kids to watch since I had to leave behind most of my stuff when I left my abusive ex. After he dropped off his tv, he started sending creepy texts telling me how hot I looked, was asking for nudes and sexual favors, asking me if I was horny, whether or not I masturbate, etc. I told him that I have no interest and to please stop being a pervert, talking about sexual stuff He texted that I owed him sex for allowing me to use his tv and sent more sexual requests before threatening to "cause trouble" for me at the front office of the apartment that my kids and I just moved in to. I immediately felt sick to my stomach. I'm not interested in him, ever or anyone right now. It's just not on my priority list. I set the tv outside for him to pick up and blocked his number and his accounts on my social media. I don't ever want to talk to or see him again. It grosses me out that someone who had been a friend for that many years would turn creepy with no provocation at all. He's not some young guy either. He's 45+, therefore is more than old enough to know that this is unacceptable, creepy, and disgusting behavior. Why would a man suddenly act like this?

[Jooying]

Omg! He sounds so disgusting. I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been through this. He might be having the wrong intention at the beginning he talked about the idea of letting you borrow TV. Thanks God that he didn’t do anything more aggressive after you blocked him. Hope you find the right person soon.

[Sparkie460]

He is a lowlife piece of shit. He thinks since he let you borrow his TV you owe him. That is not a true friend. He should be sympathetic to your situation if he was a real friend. He doesn't care about you, he only cares about what he can get from you. I have a spare TV if you're close to me. You can't borrow it though because I'll give it to you to keep.

[Bricealan]

Just another 'creep' trying to solicit some sexual favors but has no idea of what he is doing.

I have been the opposite type, NOT recognizing when a girl WAS interested in me, and really missing out on a nice person for not being more astute.

Tell him straight out. 'Fuck off", I'm not interested in you"

[Dargil]

He feels that his generosity indebts you to him. Get rid of him.

[skilled_jellyfish]

"Why would a man suddenly act like this?"

Extreme loneliness.

Of course it's disgusting what he's doing but, imagine nobody wanting to touch you, like, ever. You go crazy I can imagine.

[Asker]

Well, there's escorts out there for that. He can just go pay one of those.

[FilmGuy93]

Because you’re dealing with an asshole, not a man. That’s the archetypal “nice guy.” Someone who pretends to be kind so you’ll owe him one later.

[tfan1]

Call the police

[JPresidente]

Some guys are just creepy pervs with no boundaries and no manners. Sorry you had to deal with that. Unfortunately there are a lot of them out there.

[Mangospacho]

He’s probably always been creepy but was good at hiding it. Some guys look at gifts or attention like a green light to get sexual but I guess he saw the free tv as you being interested in him sexually, which is strange.

[Twalli]

He wanted to have sex with you. Far too many guys think that doing favors for women should be repaid with sex. They don't understand that favors and gifts are not transactions. You don't give gifts or do favors for something in return.

[In_Trance]

He didn't turn creepy you just weren't looking at it in the right perspective. I'm he always was creepy

[Anonymous]

There is always give n take...
You asked him to favour for kids
He asked you to favour him sexual..

It's fair deal... you can't be hey I don't give any favours I only take advantage of our old friendship. Lol.

[Anonymous]

It's because you are asking for favors from him and leading him on. It's pretty obvious what he wants. If you didn't like him, you should have stopped talking to him seven years ago. Another reason men and women cannot be friends.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean, there should have been some clear red flags. Stop playing dumb. All you're doing is playing the victims. Are you really that stupid you didn't notice anything between you and him for the past eight years? Yeah, I am guessing your ex your showed 0 red flags, and out of nowhere, he's an abuser. Everyone else is going to kiss your ass, but I know all you want is to seek sympathy for your foolish choices. I am telling you this so you can get your head out of your ass. I am saying what everyone else is too scared to tell you.