Why do some men go to prostitutes while many (if not most don't) ? How are clients of prostitutes different? Do they have a more traumatic past?

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  • 100 years ago, prostitution use was much higher.

    I think what’s changed is expectation. Being able to obtain sex is now viewed as manly. 100 years ago it was accepted your options were marriage or a prostitute. Guys probably felt more manly having sex with one.

    So who has sex with prostitutes now?
    - I believe the largest category may be unsatisfied married men. Many of these could likely have sex with someone, albeit less attractive, but it’s riskier. They’re paying her to have sex quietly and not call him at home later crying.
    - guys who don’t feel invalidated by paying for sex, either due to a cultural background that accepts prostitutes or being in a lifestyle where it’s common (some professions end up this way)
    - guys who struggled to get laid and overcame the feeling of “being a loser” who paid for sex.

    • 100 years ago... Any proof of that? Any proof of how men who buy sex are so lonely or unsatisfied? If they're so unsatisfied, divorce is always an option.

    • Re 100 years ago - there was a solid piece in the book “superfreakonomics” by levitt on the subject. Basically there used to be a lot more prostitutes then today and in inflation adjusted terms they earned more: a study of Chicago prostitues back then showed them earning from 25k- 430k/year in 2009 dollars which would be 30k-500k+ in today’s. At the time apparently 20-25% of US men lost their virginity with a prostitute. The “proof” is primarily what I’ve read from sex workers about their client base. As for why unsatisfied men are less likely to divorce then women, it likely comes to expectations of losing their kids. That and the same reason women don’t divorce - money issues, inertia etc.

    • If you pay for sex, you're still a loser. (And in my mind, much more of one.)

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  • I’ve done this with 3 different women (hookers) in my life. I’m not proud of it at all. But it really was about the mounting pressure of having so many women treat me like absolute shit and being exploited for being a “nice guy”. It also had to do with having no options.

    When I was younger I told myself I would never in a million years do that. But seriously what’s the difference between doing that and being a “sugar daddy” to a girl? What’s the difference between me buying expensive dinners/gifts (with no guarantee of sex) vs doing that? At least the transaction I that scenario is completely honest.

    • For being a :"nice guy", really?

    • It’s a long rant but I’ve had multiple women take advantage of me when I was younger.

    • In which circumstances?

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  • No, they just found it r easier than the complications of maintaining a relationship. One sex worker, when asked why the rich and famous used her services when there were so many willing women, said "They don't pay me to show up. They pay me to go away."

    • Why don't they masturbate then? It's cheaper.

    • Yeah, but it's not as much fun.

    • Fun to exploit someone else for your own personal pleasure.

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  • Well for me... I have had girlfriends and now a wife.
    Paying a stranger... a sex worker who has been with 1000s of men.
    That is disgusting to me on every level.

    • I agree. I don't think most go for it. I guess those guys are inherently different from regular men and share more characteristics with sex offenders.

  • They just want quick sex Because _____.

    A buddy of mine blew 2k on them last year. Like the other guy said it’s just a faster process.

    • Just lazy, misogynistic dudes...

    • Listen you wanted an answer, don’t insult us for providing you with an answer. There might be a few guys here and there that have a past traumatic past but, I bet most of them are just guys that want some action

    • They're not lol. They're basically a minority. Many are also married.

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  • They probably have a complete lack of shame. Or just a complete lack of standards. And they're okay with using women.

    • I agree Thanks Finally!

    • You're welcome! I'm glad you agree!!

  • The prostitute will give the man what he wants. Going on a date is waste of time and money. You give the woman all the attention she needs and maybe she'll give a grandma's hug before going home. Ask a woman after a four hour date how it was and she'll tell you that she had the time fo her life. Ask a man he'll say "that selfish bitch! I gave her all this attention, wasted money and four hours of my life and all she gave was a grandma's hug!"

    • You're one of them, aren't you?

    • Agreed

    • @Doflamingo1 It was easy to spot. Hostile masculinity, some obvious misogyny tendencies and impersonal sex preference.

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  • They don't dish out bs.

  • They are guys that have trouble meeting women.

  • no matter who a guy goes to, he pays... prostitutes get paid "Up-front" girlfriends drain your bank account... it's easier and cheaper

    • But it's not right.

    • @Jamie05rhs that's what society says, yet it has been around for thousands of years

    • @Waldoe Crime has also been around for thousands of years. So has war.

  • Wanting to be loved is probably a big reason for a lot of men

    • If anything, prostitutes hate you for treating them like disposable coffee cups.

    • You're going to the wrong prostitutes then

    • I've also not actually been to one as it's illegal where I live but I know for a fact what I said is true in a lot of cases Also if a prostitute hated their clients for treating them like a disposable coffee cup then why would they become a prostitute in the first place?

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  • I don't go there
    But I respect them

    • So do I. I mean they're confronted to so many awful stuff on a daily basis...

    • Oh really I don't know about it

    • ... 🙄...

  • Men have a different relationship with sex than women do, so women can't ever understand it. Women think they understand the male libido but they can't.

    Having said that, some men don't have much success with women so prostitutes are their only option to meet their needs.

    • Lol This far from accurate

    • Lol It's very accurate. You just don't understand it because you're a woman trying to understand male sexual behaviors through a gynocentric lens. Same as it every was.

    • My words are based on studies on the subject.

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  • I go because its easier and cheaper plus I can choose the girl I want to fuck

    • So you're basically lazy.