Why do some people enjoy experiencing pain during sex?

[UnknownGagsUser]

[Realistic07]

So fun fact did you know pain, and pleasure activate the same chemical glands located above our kidneys that produce both dopamine and adrenaline. The gland secrete chemicals effectively Introducing them into the nervous system as a form of both pain control that comes about during moments of physical injury, and the beginning stages to euphoria that comes about during moments of pleasure.


In fact it can, has, and is argued that there are some factors of regular sex that are painful after a certain point, but that pain is not felt due to the body‘s response towards certain stimulus regardless if that stimulus created from pain or pleasure.
Why is it not felt simply due to the fact that one is producing so many endorphins that the dopamine and adrenaline that has been introduced into the nervous system has taken away the sensation of pain.



Now let’s talk about the act of adding pain to sex why, and how.
The goal is not only to get those endorphins to naturally produce via the regular course of sex, and or orgasm, but to add to them by heightening the amount of chemical production with pain.


Important things to note if you choose to practice this always try to reach a state of pleasure/orgasm first before introducing things that would be painful. Why; because if you create small injury beforehand all you will experience is the nervous system reaction of pain which isn’t the goal. The goal of course is to reach a state of euphoria or orgasm, and then build on that with certain acts that would be painful if not for the fact that the body was producing a ridiculous amount of dopamine.


Dopamine being a pain reliever creates the effect that whatever action being done even if it’s a painful action will not be perceived by the nervous system as pain; because as dopamine works in conjunction with adrenaline it adds to the Euphoria of the action that is sex. So basically your life hacking your nervous system to give you more endorphins which in turn creates more pleasure during sex. Keep in mind the key is that one is causing tiny, small, almost insignificant injury. One is not not straight up beating/ breaking your partner.




Things to note although some people do enjoy going from pain into pleasure instead of pleasure into more pleasure. That is not the norm nor is it the typical layout of processes that should occur.


Why do people sometimes go for pain first…
I have no clue, but I’m guessing that they started off the practice out of correct order, and it just became a habit to keep it that way or that said person/ people were misinformed, and that pattern just kind of continued, but that being said to each their own. As long as they are eventually reaching the same result, and keeping safe then whatever.


That being said if they aren’t reaching the same result it’s for the reasons I mentioned above, and at that point can just be considered beating someone. Which is why it’s important to know what one is doing, and why one is doing those things before one starts doing anything in the realm of introducing pain in to sex play.


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[Glasgow55]

That has baffled me too. I don't get it.

[Glasgow55]

Thank you.

[JuneLady]

For girls especially, sex is tied to all sorts of excitement. There was a study where people were supposed to rate different pictures of people before and after going on a rollercoaster, and girls rated significantly higher after (for men it was unchanged). At a certain point, pain and pleasure simply become sensation, the stronger the better

[Ms_Vanderquack]

A certain level of pain heightens the experience. It adds another level of complexity to sex. Pain make the pleasure more intense and adds so much more variety. And if done right can lead to a much more complete release.

[Jamie05rhs]

Interesting. Still not my thing, but I think I do understand what you're saying. So thanks for explaining that.

[AustinMan]

It's a kink called sadomasochism. A lot of women really enjoy a power exchange where she gives him power so that she can more fully submit. I'm a moderate sexual sadist and it's extremely gratifying when she gets off on erotic pain.

Does that help?

[razelove]

Well the first two are pretty mild, and the last is wildly irresponsible, you need some way to communicate during any sort of "scene" that things have gone too far. Like he could actually cause her brain damage or death unless her other arm is holding a ball in the air or something.

Scientific like explanations, it would be the endorphins, they're very similar for pleasure and pain. Your body isn't experiencing pleasure from the pain exactly, but from how your body reacts to it, the chemicals it releases to dull you to it. After a while that doesn't matter, it's more of a Pavlov's dog conditioning, pain from master is good.

If you want an example of that, one spot on the body that releases the same endorphins regardless of pain is the nape of your neck, pulling the hair there, scratching, it feels good. Pulling the hair from the back of the head feels good, do it from the front or the side... not so much.

My opinion is that everyone enjoys both giving and receiving pain to some degree during sex, just how far they go on either end might be different. It's generally more acceptable to be a woman who enjoys receiving pain and a man who enjoys giving it, than the reverse.

It starts with your body's natural reactions, and winds up to extremes you're wondering about through conditioning. No one starts off getting a paddle broken over their ass, they work up to it as previous methods just don't have the same effect any more. I certainly started very vanilla, but the urge to get off is a strong one.

[harvest]

It's called fetish ;)

[MrNameless]

A certain level of pain makes it more pleasurable. Some people are also densitized and need a lot of forceful movement/friction that can injure themselves/feel pain along the way to feel pleasure

[ChrisMaster69]

Pain and pleasure are deeply linked in human brain, chemicals such as endorphins are released and you have a chemical high.
BBC article here is short and covers it.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20151001-why-pain-feels-good

It’s why within BDSM, suggestion of pain works, the body starts reacting to what it wants to believe, that edge of paper really is a knife slowly traced over the bound collard subs back, the use of ice and candle wax.

this is often why role play can be so intense and why lifestyle BDSM with a collard sub is completely different to the guy that is dominant in bedroom and tries some 50 shades stuff.

Pleasure and pain receptors can I guess cause a feedback loop in the brain, with the high from the pain induced endorphins combining with the pleasure ones.

there are some really good BDSM books that cover this in depth and what combinations work.

leather and lace is not an accident, nor ‘fire’ and ice.

[ohshee]

Have you ever been in so much pain and it hurts so bad and then you started meditating and you can take that to its peak point and because one line after that Peak point when do lunch after that Peak there's no pain at all and you could control it there was one time I was in so much pain and the only thing that I can do please make it hurt more I take it to that peakside either pass out but I found once I got to that peak one notch after that everything is back to normal could I could just mentally hold it there over there it is good fall asleep but then the pain again and I take it right back there again that was over there I start falling asleep and I'll send the pain again I did this like 20 times and finally I just fell out I don't know I don't know if that has anything to do with your question but and I'm not a girl so I don't understand that part of it either I know that I have to go slow when I'm with the girl because I don't want to give her that pain but there are ways about that and ways to do it that she will never feel hardcore pain she might feel pain and pleasure but it will come and go

[Jjpayne]

I'm speaking from a lack of experience but I will say that, pain sometimes feels good. I can't explain it. When I pick my lips or pull off nails, there is moment where it hurts but I want to do it again. It's hard to explain but it's the strangest feeling but it exists.

[JPrez]

Typically because it triggers the brain and some people like the mix.

[Jaximus-Lion]

It gives me that extra intense OOOH feeling, that sting gives me more pleasure and makes me want more. I can tolerate more than usual people do, i know my limit and it still painful.

What is your point of view on this matter?

[Rixon]

Because they are submissive and they sew pain as pleasure

[Kaneki05]

Cause pain is fun in bed. Also i like been a sub so me giving up more for them to do whatever they want to me is damn hot.

[Sevenpointfive]

i don't think pain is the word i'd use. but a slight spank on the ass might cause some neuromechanism that increases the pleasure for some people

[Dargil]

Some kind of mental illness.

[Apope16]

I am 8 inches. I have had women who just like to be plowed hard and deep. There are some women who like cervical orgasms. I think it is a psychological turn on. The pain is like dominance and power which makes them orgasm that way too.

[MillenniumBill]

It adds to the sensation (s). Not for everyone.

[JayParris]

Adrenaline and endorphins

[LogicalGal123]

Depends on what kind of pain are u talking about. For example, me, I have a high tolerance of pain. So the rough sex, spanking, choking, scratching, pulling the hair and biting doesn't really hurt. It's more of a pleasure of a serial desire for me. U know what the say "pain is pleasure." 😉

[chukio]

People are just bad and need to be punished in a good way. I would put this under kinky but I will fully cooperate. Wink wink

[Nik1hil]

Because it's, something intense.. People want to feel intense during sex.. And some people find physical abuse turn on..

[Browneye57]

There's a very fine line between pain and pleasure. And many sexual things, like good whiskey, is an acquired taste. You have to experience it a few times before it connects with you as a good feeling.