Why do some people get so hung up on their partners sexual past?

[CubaPirate]

[Andres77]

Everyone has a past. You can either except it or don’t. Move on without judging. Because you did not live their life and you were not facing the same choices I’m not justifying reckless behavior, but nobody has the same experience as anyone else.
I had a very reckless past, so I certainly have no right to judge anyone else’s continuing with reckless behavior is of course dangerous, but having done in the past and move on, it’s just part of life. don’t be self-righteous cause you’re not perfect either.

Again, except it or don’t and move on.

[justabuddy]

Because we live in a society where people use people all the time. Relationships also take a lot of investment. You question anything that seems like it might break trust or your time.

As an example, would you invest 10k into a stock that has gone to zero 20 times before. Or would you hold back until it's been proven to you that it's a safe investment.

[Zatsuma]

If they are hung up on the number of people they have slept with then they are not meant to be with that person as clearly something has bothered them to want to dwell in their partners past.

If their performance has been compared to an ex and it was more on the dissatisfied end, then both have a lack of communication problem. Fix that first then figure out a way to fix what each person likes or go find another partner that will be more understanding of both y'alls needs.

[PLAYBOYGOTCOINS]

AND THATS WHY THEM CHICKS CRY ABOUT NOT HAVING A MAN TO LOVE THEM WE NOT GOING I DONT WANT NO CHICK WHO LET A LOT OF MEN KNOCK THEM LOOSE NOW THEY LOOKING FOR ME TO LOVE IT NAH THATS NOT HOW GOD LIFE WORKS MAYBE FOR THE CHICKS WHO DONT LIKE THE CREATOR AND WANTS TO CHANGE THAT

[mandyfire98]

Normally insecurity. A lot of the time they don't want to "compete" or be compared to others before then.

[jahaims]

Having a standard you don't agree with isn't related to insecurity. That is just you demonizing something you disagree with because you have a different perspective.

[mandyfire98]

Just telling you most of the reasons I've been given by people on here for it and it always comes down to people not wanting to be compared to the others before them. That's insecurity.

[Hot_Mess_Express]

Could be they are intimidated. Having a very experienced partner might make people worried they are being compared to a much larger pool

[PLAYBOYGOTCOINS]

NO ITS THE FACT IF YOU AT DIRTY AND TEN GUYS KEEP LOOKING AT YOU LAUGHING BECAUSE ALL TEN SMASHED THE GIRL YOU WITH AND LOOKING AT YOU LIKE WOW IF BUDDY ONLY KNEW WE RAN THREW THAT FOR FREE SMH

[PLAYBOYGOTCOINS]

IF YOU AT DINNER

[Hot_Mess_Express]

@PLAYBOYGOTCOINS luckily that's not an issue for virgins like you eating hot pockets in your mom's basement.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people get hung up because they believe that a partner's sexual past is a good indication of their partner's attitudes about sexual and also an indication of whether their partner truly wants a long term relationship.

[RobT312]

Not sure but I was never that person.

[CubaPirate]

Me neither

[SnowedIn]

OMG this!!!

Just finished dealing with a gentleman on this. Crazy.

[inhua]

time, energy, commitment and resource investments

[Texasgal95]

I think for me personally it’s just because I wanna know if you have any STDs

[RealMarek]

It depends on the person. Some have moral qualms about what a partern has done, for others it is driven by insecurity, others still might believe it would cause their partner to have “baggage.”

[exitseven]

I know it is a lot easier for a girl to rack up a big body count than it is for a guy. Still it would bother me if she had a huge body count. I think it could mean lack of committment.

[PLAYBOYGOTCOINS]

ALSO TRUST HOW COULD YOU TRUST A CHICK WHO DO DICKS QUICK HOW COULD YOU TRUST HER MOST OF ALL WHY WOULD YOU WANT A GIRL EVERY DUDE CAN TALK ABOUT

[Jersey2]

I didn’t want to date a woman who screwed a lot of guys because it would reflect on badly on me. So that’s a no. If she doesn’t have self respect at least you should.

[Alex-Snow]

I agree their past is their past

[Jennz6]

Depends on how, if you are forced into it or if you’re just a naughty girl 👧 lol 🚢💃💋

[LiamJHayden]

No idea. I really only see it online.

[nik0102]

could it be also about worrying about their standards?

[jahaims]

Different people have different values.

[2021biguy]

People with a high body count have no pair bonding ability and don't know how to have a long term relationship. 2 people with high body counts can get along great, they are just another number on their lists.