Why do we fantasize about people that we're not even attracted to?

This, to me, is a very complex issue.. That can a wide array of feels, from shame, guilt, sexuality, wondering what's wrong with you..
But then there are many other aspects to this, too.
Why do you want this hot encounter/brief experience, with this particular person?
Is it because of the fantasy/scenario CONNECTED to said person/people, over them specifically? 🤔😉

IS this perfectly normal?
What does this say about US?

What are YOUR experiences, when it comes to similar situations? I'm very curious 😘

If you're interested in hearing my sorded scenarios, let me know!! Haha 😉😜😘
Why do we fantasize about people that were not even attracted to?
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I'm actually quite surprised at how many didn't quite understand this. I answered the question to someone asking about just one of my experiences, and this is the link to that original question. To which he made an account, and answered it. Can you spot it? 😂 If I've thought about it, has he? ↗
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  • I think it is normal to fantasize about things that you would never want to experience in real life. Girls have "rape" fantasies. People who would never engage in a threesome fantasize about it. People who are not nudists or exhibitionists fantasize about being nude in a public setting.

    Fantasy gives us a form of virtual reality so that we can experience something without REALLY experiencing it.

    The question is whether you judge people's fantasies in the same way that you would judge them for doing those things IRL. If an adult guy fantasizes about having sex with a 17 year old girl, there are many women who are quite adamant in calling that guy a pedophile even though he never had sex with an underage girl. However, if I get mad at my boss and fantasize about killing him, does having that fantasy mean that I am a murderer?

    • Exactly 💯

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  • Whom we interact with in our daily life, our past, present and future experiences and mainstream movies/series and porn influences our minds constantly that we both consciously and unconsciously fantasize about others, even those we are not attracted to. I would say that the majority has a sexual fantasy and if you have a kink/fetish then you are generally more triggered to think about it any random encounter. Having a lust filled experience with a random encounter is more about being able to release your inner sexual desire with someone whom you don’t have to twice about or share emotions/feelings with. Simply you don’t have to worry about anyone.

    Let us hear about your scenarios :D

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  • I think there's maybe a few reasons why: 1. The person you're thinking about has a strong or close platonic relationship with you. 2. The fantasy you're having might be something said person could possibly carry out. For example, let's say your fantasy includes humiliation. Well, you imagine the person who hates you & is mean to you because it seems like something they'd do. While you'd never be sexual with any of them in RL and be attracted to them, it is just simply a fantasy. You see where it goes and enjoy it.

  • What do you mean people you are not attracted to? Why would you fantasize about someone you aren't attracted to? lol I only fantasize about people I want 😂

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  • Heck if I know.

    For a period of time I kept dreaming about having sex with a woman I always had arguments with and whom I disliked.

  • I often think there is something very wrong with me as I don't have these fantasies. People think I'm lying when I say that, but I prefer to fantasize about the one I'm with, as those fantasies are able to become a reality!

  • I don't do that...

  • No idea. I don't have this issue

    • 🤣 Thanks 😊

  • Yeah, it happens to the best of us sometimes.

  • not for me

  • I don't, why on earth would you do it?

  • Seems like a waste of time n emotions. I'd invest elsewhere.

  • Oddly enough, I don't think I've ever even fantasized about anyone, period.

    • 😲 Not even me? 🤔🫣😂😘

  • There are many different types of fantasies, like a good movie sometimes you gotta mix the genre up.

  • @lovingjo to me it’s totally normal , which I do a lot.

    its because the taboo of it creates a thrill to make it more exciting.

    • @lovingjo Biologically every male or female human or animal brain is programmed to fuck and breed with someone we want to have kid with. Even if use condom or so, brain still functions that way. Many guys will say no we don’t want kids… No Mather you want kid or not but your biological body wants to breed with other to produce a kid. Why do our bodies have biological clock, even on women’s who don’t want baby still have that clock. And same is that brain programming ,

  • dm me to tell me ur cenario, 🤣

  • Subconsciously, you are attracted to them, or want to dominate/hurt/own/possess them. It’s not just about attraction or sex, sometimes it’s about power.

  • I think it's normal. I sometimes just want someone that I know I can't have or shouldn't have for no reason that makes sense to me. I'm guessing that other people feel like that too sometimes

  • I don't know, that doesn't seem usual.
    What are your fantasies? 😜

    • For me, if I fantasize about certain women, they'd obviously be attractive

    • I think it was hit on the head before, about the scenario etc?

    • Yeah, plus what was your midset, were you too happy or sad or drunk? Etc

  • I don’t, I fantasize about people I’m attracted to

    • So under which conditions you fantasize about people you’re not attracted to?

    • So, I actually posted a question about him here, a while back, I'll see if I can pin it up... And it was more the scenario, and the fantasy of what we talked about doing, rather than him. Cos I never fancied him.

    • Interesting, so you fantasize about the act not the person

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  • I don't fantasize about anybody im not attracted to. That makes absolutely no sense to me

    • 😂 😂

    • Hey you! 😉