Why do women like to be disrespected in bed so much?

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I hear it all the time “i like to be smacked, choked, hair pulled, called dirty whore/slut” but honestly i just want to make sweet passionate gentle love and admire the womans beauty ❤️ Does this make me a beta simp? Why would I want to treat this beautiful human being like a disposable cum rag? This girl on PlentyOfFish said she “wanted her pussy ate disrespectfully” I replied that I would only eat her pussy with the upmost respect and was ghosted. Guess I have to treat women like shit to get laid. I dont think I have it in me I am a super nice guy.
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Everytime i come across as nice i turn into the “bottom” where girls belittle me, call my penis small and they turn into dominatrix. i want to feel manly and wear the pants but can't find a girl who can see past me as just another nice guy.
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I think they were abused and want validation from a father figure. Kind of sad.
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  • Both sexes like to experience the rush they get from sex, it releases Endorphins which bang in to our ‘pleasure receptors’.

    https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/exploring-hormone-junkies-part-4-endorphins

    The production of Endorphins also results in Dopamine being produced -

    “In a brain that people love to describe as “awash with chemicals,” one chemical always seems to stand out. Dopamine: the molecule behind all our most sinful behaviors and secret cravings. Dopamine is love. Dopamine is lust. Dopamine is adultery. Dopamine is motivation. Dopamine is attention. Dopamine is feminism. Dopamine is addiction”.

    a lot of these (endorphins and Dopamine) are produced as part of being aroused (and loads of other things).

    two other things also result in these being released - pain and fear,

    with Fear in sex, a lot comes down to suggestion and anticipation (& apprehensive) of something happening, you can actually cause a shit load to release without actually causing pain.

    however, if you start combining sex, pain and fear, then your brain goes in to over Drive kicking out a huge variation of chemicals (some of which science is not actually sure about).

    Although it is being investigated https://www.scienceofbdsm.com

    this means that from your bits in your question above, there is a level of suggestion, anticipation, apprehension, sexual excitement already in play. You then add to this the actual degradation, the slapping, spanking, paddling, whipping, etc, then things get really busy in the brain.

    things like risky outdoor sex, it’s that fear of being caught or the desire to be caught,

    Now if you are dealing with someone that needs an emotion connection as well, then things have just gone through the roof.

    https://blog.pleazeme.com/sexy-solutions-how-endorphins-from-kink-play-can-help-depression/

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32044259/

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  • Women absolutely loathe weak men. And they absolutely love to be dominated sexually.
    The NUMBER ONE complaint women have about their men is that they are too weak and timid in the bedroom.
    So fuck them well, and hard, make them cum over and over. They'll keep coming back for more, over and over. I guarantee it.
    And don't confuse a good fucking with abuse - you don't need to spank or choke them, that's the fake depravity of porn. Just make them come hard and you'll have fan base.

    Ever see lions or tigers fuck? Well, there ya go. :)

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  • I think it's about being able to let go, to free yourself of societal norms a little (though women are disrespected in everyday life a lot, so I guess it doesn't make a lot of sense).

    Not all women are like that though. I love spitting my boyfriend in his face when he fucks me AND being spat on.
    I love when he eats me out and I notice how horny it makes him.
    I love to suck his dick and NOT have him "guide" me or take my head and push it to shove his cock deeper in my mouth.
    I love being called a slut during sex, despite only having had sex with him and not actually being a slut.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is that while some women like to be "disrespected" during sex/in bed, little to no women want a man who disrespects them in their everyday life.

    Your preferences definitely don't make you a beta simp, they make you better in bed. It's of the utmost importance to LISTEN to women in bed, if they want you to disrespect them and you're not okay with that, don't do it, don't have sex with them. You can always say no. Sex should be consensual 100% of the time.

    Women should listen to you just in the way that you should listen to them.

    • Wtf you spit on his face? 🤮

    • Whatever rocks your boat ;)

    • That straight up sinks my boat

  • Actually, most of them don't.

    Yeah true masochists like to be humiliated and yes they really love rough sex but most women want these things because men like to dominate/humiliate women in bed. It's the easiest way to please a man and to improve the relationship. Virtually no guy wants to have sex with a woman who rejects things like facial/choking/spanking and they pressure to do them when you say you're %100 vanilla. Porn culture standardizes degrading sex in the last 20 years and it's hard to keep having a relationship with a man if you don't like or can't pretend to like these things.

    Women do not only accept sex acts that they don't like most of them also fake orgasm. Most men and most women's logic in their sex lives. Men prioritize their pleasure and women prioritize their partner's.

    • I would rather my partner orgasm than myself. I like to please

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  • It's about desire. Rough appears to be more craved (from his side), thus, it makes us/me feel wanted. That's just a pure turn on.

    But in general a mix is great. Having a guy respecting you but also craving your body is phenomenal.

    • Simp in the streets alpha in the sheets?

    • No, but being in a healthy relationship is essential for me to let him "treat" me like this

  • I don't know about others but for me it's kind of like a gift I give, since usually I'm the one in control, the dominant one, so it's kind of like a new experience to be the submissive one

  • The simple answer is, it's just what turns me on. It feels sexy. I think being dominated by a guy makes him seem very masculine (and by that token makes me feel feminine?), and I find that arousing.

    I don't expect every guy to be into it, but I think when guys act like they're "too much of gentleman" to take charge, that's always a red flag... so-called nice guys are so lame, and not just the sex, but everything about them and their boyish games. You can't be satisfied with finding someone who's compatible with you, so you want to shame the women you're attracted to by digging on them for their preference and whine about how they should be more like what you want, and the problem is "women". Like that's going to change anything for you?

    Guys like you are always the same story.

    • Guys like you huh

  • Because they are disgusting abusive types themselves.

  • Some people in general get turned on with physical pain. The sensations of pain and pleasure activate the same neural mechanismsTrusted Source in the brain. Basically the same thing that people who are into working out feel, they push themselves to a point where the pain of working out actually feels good. Obviously it's not something that everyone is into and you shouldn't just do it with prior discussion.

    • Imagine the orgasm stepping in front of a freight train

    • Yeah that's just suicidal. Not comparable. We're talking, spanking, choking, hitting, biting, whipping, burning and even cutting.

  • We want it rough.

    • Im nice and gentle tho

  • It's hard to explain

    • Try your best

  • I assume because they only like getting talk dirty to you and no one else. No else is calling them, whores, sluts, or anything else.

  • I’m always in control and it feels nice to just relax and let someone enjoy me and be rough.

    • doesn't rough hurt the 🐈?

    • No it feels really good. I like my cervix being hit hard.

    • Ok so hard pounding feels good?

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  • No idea. I don't think that is true of most women. I don't talk much at all while fucking.

  • women love to be abused

  • Because they want a man who is so much better than them he doesn't mind treating them like shit. Like they are dirt compared to him. If they are worth say 2 points and he treats her like shit he must be worth 50 points. Its some part an illusion and makes them wet.

    • I agree with your point system.

    • in my opinion its every single girl is like this to some degree. It has nothing to do with their life circumstances.

  • I don't know exaclty but spanking is sex it's good for most of women

    • Yea i see that in almost every porn video even if there isn't a man around the girl will slap her own ass almost like a giddy-up 🐴

  • Girls are into all kinds of things, so just do it to make her happy.

  • Some women and men like that kind of sex. It turns them on. It's a kink that a lot of people enjoy

  • I don't know

    • MHO right here

  • We love it rough

  • My girlfriend is a single mother who has control. of everything at home. In the bedroom, she is a sub and wants dominated. Its one place she doesn't have to be in charge.

  • Because we need a man to put us in our place occasionally

    • I wasn't aware women had a “place”

    • A woman being sexist herself. Awful...

    • @BlackCatBone lmao i love this website

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  • Well the answer i got from my girlfriend was a little weird but makes sense
    She told "being gentle is good but sometimes we don't care about it because we kind of fake it, we have two different personality in ourselves, first one is what you see when we're with everyone in public and home, second is what we want to be when we're in our private, in sex we're so close to our partner that we want them to understand us and play with that second personality"
    She didn't exactly said this but this is what i got from it

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