Why do women make men jump through so many hoops?

[red324]

If you have sex with them they get pissed and feel you took advantage of them. If you don't make a move and have sex well who knows what they'll think then too. They get mad and assume they aren't pretty enough or something is wrong with them that you gave them the respect they probably deserved or weren't used to. Both of these situations happened to me. I didn't have sex with one girl because I didn't want to make things complicated too soon and wanted to show her I saw her as a person too not just good looks and then after that I never saw her again, so the next girl of course i'm like I'm definitely making a move on this girl so that doesn't happen again and she got pissed later on thinking I just wanted sex from her even though at the end of date 2 or 3 she wanted another one.

[devilish-cutie]

Well... sounds like you should try to better understand how women are different than men. Try to research it better. I know i had the same issue w understanding how men really function and what buttons make them tick. I still dont fully know but its a hige progress on how i was before. Then also it all requires unfortunately your own self work, facing whatver makes u sad/mad;like sure a woman might have hurt you but there is a reason within you that u need to work on why exaxtly it rettle u so much. Than also you have to try to see a woman generally as any person, is she a good or bad person. I can tell you that women usually mostly crave 2 things: safety and attention, meaning u being honest, commited and giving her reassurance u like her by texting her, initiating physical affection etc. But you gotta have tact and feel her and let her be her. There r many lessensons to learna bout ourselevs by relationships, commit to figuring it out go to ugly sides of ysf. And bemore picky w women u date, seek real connection. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

We have all these guys coming at us all the time and all they want to do is put their sperm in us so we get confused and don't know what to do and we're constantly learning and figuring things out. So it's not going to be perfect with every guy and if we just had a bad experience we're going to be very scared of you.

[red324]

Yeah but I'm usually very patient with a lot of these women showing that I want them for more than just sex, but they don't believe it and I end up being their side guy for 3 months before I give up and realize I'm wasting my time because she's either not dating at all now or she went with some other guy and is just leading me on by using some excuse such as being busy with work

[NathanDavis]

- any woman I had sex with... she never ever complained in any way, none of them

- when I didn't make a move on a woman, they made a move on me instead...

- not one woman I ever been with, felt bad when I respected her, nor was insecure about her looks at any point, they knew they were looking before, with or without me

I guess we are just both two different types of men... living and leading different lives as well

[Keepitreal007]

I agree. They play games. My wife never wants sex but if we go a week or two without it then she’s complaining to me that we never have sex and she’s not attractive etc. but if I ask her for sex once or twice a week she tells me all I care about is sex and she’s just a sex doll. It sucks and super annoying.

[red324]

Give her some good slow passionate sex. Not just a quickie same old same old

[Keepitreal007]

I do. If it’s a quickie it’s because that’s what she wants.

[ushagomez]

Because you enjoy the challenge?

[Anonymous]

Women complain, my dude. That's something you're gonna have to deal with. As men, we're damned if we do and damned if we don't on everything we ever do.

Stop trying to make women happy, and make yourself happy instead.

[Opinion Owner]

When women claim they've been taken advantage of, its usually just to save face. They don't want to be seen as easy sluts, so they put the blame on you and act completely innocent as if they never wanted to get pounded. It's all an act. This play has been acted out billions of times, and every ladies' man knows the plot by heart. Don't let it get to you. Take what you want, and then take the blame with a smile. That's the deal. That's the unspoken social contract. They get what they want free of guilt and stigma, you get what you want and gain the reputation of a heartbreaker, and with that rep comes a line of women who "try to tame you". Roll with it

[Anonymous]

Because men like that are dumb enough to let it happen.