Why do women sleep around so easily but once its about sleeping with a guy they like they wait?

Whats the logic behind it?
Some attractive guy comes to girl, their personalities doesn't work out together but they are attracted to each other and fuck casually.
Then a average or attractive guy comes to girl, they like each others personalities and company but girl won't have sex with him the same way she would do with someone she wasn't emotionally attracted to.

But why? Why do the guys who dont emotionally connect with the girl get the sex, mostly the wild sex with kinky sides while the gux she likes has to wait and gets to pay for dates until many weeks later she decides to have sex with him in some vanilla position?
isn't it that the guys who have emotional connections with girls lose out?

So why do girls behave this way?
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Most Helpful Girl

  • Why is this so hard to understand. Looks= instant sex/lust. I'm turned on by just looking at you. Its like watching porn, or lookin at a sexy pic. It doesn't take much.

    Emotional connection takes longer form therefore you wait longer. You have to build up to it. Like I like my friends' personalities and their company but I don't want to fuck all of them. So she has to find out if your personality is awesome enough to make you sexy and turn her on.

    Some girls tend to want to wait when it comes to serious relationships, because they don't want it to be a one night stand, you know just another notch on his belt. They want a real relationship. They need to see if they like you without sex 1st. People often confuse lust and love.

    As for the vanilla vs kinky thing, I'm not sure where you're getting your statistics from, but maybe she can let her freak flag fly on a one night stand, because she had nothing to lose. She's not as concerned with being judged since its only temporary.

    Or maybe that vanilla sex was the best sex of her life, she felt truly connected to you, and you're over here complaining.

    • So with other words its far better working on your appearance, your sex appeal instead of personality cause having a great personality doesn't bring you anything while just being hot brings you sex. Having a great personality is useless then , cause they have to wait for sex and dont have any certanity if sex will ever happen. The vanilla vs kinky sex, i noticed it from girls i dated and from friends who dated girls, its always the same that girls get less kinky with guys they like. And why is it important if the vanilla sex was the best sex of her life? Like it doesn't really matter. The problem is that guys who are relationship material are losing out completly in the sexual department.

    • Why would you choose one or the other, why not do both? I don't get why it needs to be one or the other. Be the whole package, stop holding back. I mean if your goal is only sex, then yes feel free to have no personality. Become an emotionless, dry, sexy robot if that makes you happy. A great personality is subjective, its how your 2 personalities match up. If you want an actual relationship then personality is pretty important. I can't build a long lasting relationship off of just sex. I just find it hard to believe that a chick who likes and enjoys kinky sex will withhold it for no reason. Either she never liked it in the 1st place and doesn't want to possibly spend the rest of her life pretending that she does, or both of you are just terrible at doing or initiating it. Because you say vanilla sex like its a bad thing, if thats what she actually prefers, and you prefer more kinky stuff, maybe 2 just weren't sexually compatible.

    • Perhaps you should try finding women on dating sites geared toward kinkiness. And there are plenty of married kinky people.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Because they don't give a shit if the guy they aren't interested in thinks they are a slut and don't mind losing them, where as a potential partner needs to have a better opinion. Just stay away from chicks like that if you get attached, they don't deserve the effort. Future single mums if they aren't already.

  • It's bs. They give it up to random douche bags they met at the club but make a boyfriend wait. If I wasn't asexual then I would definitely dump a girl if she was making me wait but I found out she's had causal sex and ONS before.

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  • we are fucked up m8

  • I think that is basic definition of a whore. Like one that fucked with random guy at NY party but didn't want to with guy she was dating for 6 months. If you remember that question...

  • Because men are easy

    • Girls are easy too, but only with people they dont want to date. While guys are open to everything. Well ofcourse there are exceptions

  • Stop trying to understand women. You'll drive u yourself mad