Why do women want me to be aggressive in bed?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend wanted me to pick her up and throw her on the bed. She also wanted me to slap her while verbally berating her. I've just noticed that a lot of my exes had some sort of pain fetish with one wanting me to pour (I'm not fucking kidding) hot candle wax on the tips of her nipples... I've been raised to never ever hit a woman even if it was with a pillow.

[Anonymous]

She's kinky. Oblige her. There's play ass slapping, and then there's abuse. Toss her in the bed and TAKE her. Tell her she's a dirty slut and you like her like that. It's a fantasy dude. Fulfill it for her if it's one of her turn ons. It might not seem like it to you, but there's power in surrender and being verbally degraded. You should probably do some research on the subject.

Look at it this way. Would you be willing to lose her because you won't? I get the whole raised differently thing. So was I, but I've been with a few women that enjoy such fantasy play and they were animals in bed. You fulfill her fantasy, she'll either return the favor and fulfill one og yours, or, even if it's plain ol' sex, show you a good time, better than it normally is, because she's all horned up thanks to you.

You want her to go find someone that WILL treat her the way she wants you to do? She trusts you to control yourself. That says a lot about you and your relationship. Don't ruin things by flat out saying no. Try it, you might like it. There's power in domination as well. A man knowing and taking what he wants, leaving her no choice in the matter thrills some women. A woman loves a take charge guy. Just don't go too far.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Lots of women like when men are dominant during sex. It’s not uncommon. She likes to be degraded. Like @BarryLiverstone said, it has a lot to do with trust as well.

[BarryLiverstone]

Cuz she trusts you

[Asker]

But to actually hit her? I dont want her to get hurt.

[BarryLiverstone]

Why would she be hurt?

[Asker]

Because she wants me slap her. Like a real slap not a light one. I also feel like women are less resilient to pain then we are.

[BarryLiverstone]

Actually women are more resilient to pain. But she asks you to slap her so do it once and see how she reacts. If she reacts badly then don’t do it again

[ashish804]

she like it fucking rough

[Asker]

Would you go rough on her if she really wanted you to?

[ashish804]

fucking yess.. otherwise she would go somewhere else where she can get her desire fulfilled

[Anonymous]

My guess it's been easy for you to get a girlfriend most of your life