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  • When it come to the subject of sex, we have to determine what it means to be submissive. Everybody knows about what they like or want.


    Some women don't really share their kinks with their partner because they are embarrassed or are self conscious. And some of their partners don't really deliver when it comes to reaching that. Hell, some men don't really know how to achieve that, and that can make your sex life as a couple, frustrating.


    Men, we pretty much know what we like, and it depends on the male. Some men will move to please the woman first, while others may move to please themselves in bed first. It's very complicated, especially in relationships without communication.


    If you have things you want to do with your partner to explore your love life, tell them your ideas.


    If your partner doesn't last long in bed maybe y'all are being too traditional. Try other things first. Remember, pornography is nothing but actors, there is no intimacy.




    So when it comes to THE WORD, submission, I think adjusting your needs in bed to benefit each other equally, is equally submissive. Therefor, your love life is about dominating each other's needs.



    Most men don't really understand the concept of intimacy and pleasure, so they can't attain to the needs of their partner.


    I have dated some women that were very aggressive about what they wanted and adjusting to that, can not only catch somebody off guard if they are inexperienced, but they can also be intimidated by that.

    So communicating what you want is key, and be specific. Matter of fact, the more specific you are the more you'll probably make your partner feel hot by that.


    Guys like a woman that is upfront about what she wants, but at the same time women can either be very shy or self conscious about things.


    Remember that about 60% of men when it comes to their love life will be subconscious too, because in most relationships that tension if not dealt with properly can break y'all apart.


    Remember not to let lust confuse yourselves with love though.


    There have been some relationships where my partner wanted sex all day every day. I mean we didn't go out and date, or do anything, and couldnt eat or watch a movie.


    And there were periods after a couple of months where I needed a break, and she didn't want to give me that, because she felt she was fighting for my affection as her partner, which wasn't the case.


    CASE IN POINT, feel safe to communicate with your partner about what you want,

    But,

    Make sure you make the space to keep the relationship healthy.

    Failure to give space for healthy relationship things is destructive. Don't be the girlfriend that doesn't want to girlfriend, pleasure in a relationship can come in many forms, even outside of sex.

    Intimacy is much more than sex.



    Tips: I've used Honey, chocolate syrup, whipped topping, candle wax, I've used the bedsheets for stuff other than keeping it on the bed, I've completely rejected the fact of having a bed, I've used some interesting places on a couch and off the side of the couch so her blood would rush her head, making euphoria trigger in her brain and dopamine spread though her body faster, but be careful not to injure your partner, because if you don't think about what you're doing first you can fuck up.

    I've done a lot of things you can't even watch online or read about. Lol.

    If I keep listing them I bet I'll get this app taken off the app store. Lmfao


    Case in point, be creative but don't be destructive. Also, don't rush the shit in a relationship.

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  • Two primary reasons: first, the demands of pregnancy and carrying human infants to term make women extremely vulnerable. Maintaining a balance in an instinct-driven social contract requires lots of experimenting that gets horrifically brutal, and when nature finds a way that works, it works until something better comes along. This is why you see similar dynamics in more survival-oriented, technologically primitive societies (you can see hints of this in anthropology books from almost a century ago; Benedict Ruth's Patterns of Culture hints at it so broadly I wondered if she was deliberately not mentioning it.

    The second reason is cultural: the fact that your boyfriend is biologically better equipped than you are to fight a saber-toothed tiger does not mean that it should be HIM who blindfolds YOU before playing "Mister Johnson hunts for beaver". But there's a long-standing idea ("long" as in "since before the dawn of human civilization") that the social roles we evolved into should be PROscriptive rather than DEscriptive, and while that was always a somewhat dubious proposition, these days it's pretty darned laughable.

    Frankly, I think a little interplay of power dynamics is something that'd benefit almost every couple out there; most guys would be thrilled to let her take the reins for a while (though not all would admit it), and the thrill of having your partner manhandle you a little while bossing you around for a bit shouldn't be limited to one sex any more than the thrill of being the manhandler should be, no? And William Marston agrees: the creator of Wonder Woman was deeply into the value of bondage as a relationship tool, and thought that every couple should use it. I don't know if going quite that far is ideal, but I don't disagree with the core idea.

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  • There is nothing like submissive or dominant in love and sex. I like being taken in every ways possible and even like to obey to the orders of my husband, because we love each other. The answer is the same every time you ask what women like. Some women like being sexually dominant. Some women like being submissive and dominant. All men and women are different and like different things even at different times. We need a loving partner in bed, not a dependant. Men are naturally dominant and women submissive, but that is not only during sex. It is mainly because of natural design, his hormones – testosterone, and cultural practice for the centuries. Exceptions will always be there. I enjoyed the dominance, the feeling of power, the thrill of manipulating my body at my will. But slowly, it lost its charm, as I had to do all the hard work while my husband simply enjoyed. After marriage for first few years, I did everything, even if it was trying a new position. Now I am a recipient. I no longer consider myself as a dominant. This really depends on what turns the men and women on during sex. Some men prefer submissive women; some are turned on by sexually aggressive women. Most men in their sexual life enjoy having submissive women for sex because it fuels their feelings of masculinity and dominance. It is an altogether a different experience to be a submissive and just lie down and have all the pleasure. I also love to follow all the nasty orders of my husband for pleasure, even the ones that normal people could not think of. These things are of so much fun sometimes.

    • Well said good girl

  • Because we have to Maintain and regulate our daily lives. We would like to just relinquish our power and be vulnerable.

    • Thank you

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  • It's because the bedroom is the one place where she can be herself, without any political pressure to behave differently. Women's public behavior, attitudes, and life-goals have been radically changed by Feminism (which was fully taken over in the 1960s by Marxists, who ejected the previous leaders who were after equality, and were replaced by people pushing the Marxist agenda of destroying the nuclear family in the West, as a big piece of the ultimate goal of destroying western society completely, so that it could be rebuilt as a Marxist utopia. This isn't speculation - it's literally what they teach and believe, and there are numerous books written by Feminist leaders that talk about it.)

    Women have been taught to reject their femininity and to embrace masculinity and masculine pursuits - and as a result, post 1960s women are the unhappiest women in history, with more than 25% regularly taking mental health medication for anxiety and/or depression (if you split this into left vs. right, left-leaning women are significantly more likely than right-leaning to be on such meds). Still, in public, women, especially left-leaning women, feel tremendous pressure to follow the masculine path, and to show support for it socially - to the point were some will even bully other women who prefer femininity.

    But in the privacy of the bedroom, she is free to release her true nature - even an extreme version of it - mostly without judgement from her partner. And I believe that is what is largely responsible for women generally being much more submissive during sex than they are in general.

  • We can rewind a bit before things reach the bedroom. In my experience, girls like guys with initiative in general. Most seem to like being protected by guys more than protecting guys. On a first date, girls don't seem like timid and submissive guys who are like, "I just want to go where you want, do what you want. I'm happy with whatever makes you happy."

    The bedroom is similar as I see it. Most women seem to like men taking control, undressing her, instead of them having to take control and undressing him.

  • It's pretty much the nature of the act of sex.
    1) guys are larger and stronger.
    2) a woman has to offer or present her pussy by either spreading her legs or bending over.
    3) a guy generally controls her during sex - positions her legs, moves her around, grips her, pins her, lifts her, etc.
    4) guys do the fucking and pounding, girls get fucked and pounded.

    Most women get a thrill from that. They enjoy being ravished and even man handled. They even enjoy stuff like having their hair pulled or their butts slapped.

  • Not all are.

    Even BDSM subs are not necessarily submissive in bed.

    it’s actually boring to a certain degree if a girl is too passive submissive in bed.

    A lot of girls are very confident in bed BUT will often switch with a partner for certain parts of the fore play and sex.

  • It solely depends on the woman. I have had my range from the extreme dominant to the extreme submissive. Every submissive I was with, wanted to get pregnant now. Sometimes a couple flipped during ovulation. Every dominant, it is difficult to say wtf was on their minds, other than a few objectives were just to have a flesh dick to get off on. Every one of those in hindsight (once the hormones released my brain) had some serious issues.

  • There are a lot of girls that are and love girls that are not I like the girls that are because I like to make it all about the girl the more turned on I can get her the more turned on I get and it's a vicious cycle the more turned on I get I'm going to just keep turning her on. Plus I like the last a long time and if I'm in control of everything then I can make her come to the three times before I come and I think sometimes that girls aren't sure what they want to do how to do the things that a guy might like I think that sexy really

  • @sexyuser1234 I mean no disrespect, but I disagree with your question, and most of the women I have been with (not that many, and not a player!!) are CONFIDENT, and believe in Equality, and they expect to be treated as equals!!
    I find that really AMAZING, and WONDERFUL!! I LOVE, when she is open, about her feelings, and sexual preferences, and isn't afraid to "Be On Top!" as it were!
    Why do you assume that women are submissive? Are you? If so, Why? Is it because you are a virgin, and don't know? Absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin, and there are a lot of women that are, especially now!
    If you don't want to be 'submissive', what are you afraid of, and what is holding you back?

  • Society has expected them to be that way so many girls just go with the flow. I prefer a girl who tells me what she wants in bed then makes me give it to her. for me that is very erotic.

  • Simple biological reasons that. Same reason why creatures that are females are often the submissive one. A part from the few odd ones, and the well known spiders for been the other way around. But these kinda cases are more the father becomes food for the babies or process of pregnancy which obviously humans don't have.

    Will add tho, since creatures adapt socially. Like evolution normally goes along side social and environment we are in. Well a lot in the past socially for humans was Men treating women badly and that they cannot do anything but be submissive. This maybe an add on effect to the reason are biological reasons is as such.
    If women were treated as like amazon queens threw all of history no doubt women would be way more dominant today.

    How we act directly impacts are evolution and how we grow up to be. In fact for these very reasons slowly by slowly woman may become the more dom. Same reason for why more people may have different sexuality's and genders. More we accept things in our society more it happens. More are social evolution leans into it.

  • I don't think that at all, and I doubt that anyone I've shared my bed, or thier bed, with, would think that iether.

  • I imagine because its what they naturally find arousing or erotic, also a lot in the way sex happens sets them up to be in a more submissive position anyway

  • Biology.

  • From a physical standpoint women just aren't as imposing. It only makes sense that they would (generally) prefer to not need to impose themselves.

  • Gender roles

  • Because they are the receiving end, and the ones getting the pregnancy.

    So they need to open up more emotionally. I think this is the hottest thing about women.

  • They want to be?
    For my wife, she's a nurse, making life and death decisions all day, drip rates with one patient, having to call security because the thugs from a drug deal gone bad show up at the hospital to kill an injured witness, a cancer patient is the only surviving member of his whole family and he's about to die, a co-worker doesn't show up to her shift because she got in a car accident...
    So when she's in bed it's all me and all pleasure.
    She needs to relax and be pampered and doted on. She doesn't want to have to decide anything. She just wants to sit back with a glass of wine and tell me about her day until her orgasm starts to build and her brain checks out... then cum cum cum cum until she passes out.

  • Cause they get penetrated and the man penetrates.

  • Not really true every female is different
    Some more dominant this the dominatrix roles. A lot of woman are turned on by a man being dominant and assertive so it carries over in bedroom. However everyone has their preference.

  • I’m not I’m Dominant

  • Because it's their sexual nature.

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