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Sexual Health Why does a woman’s sexual past matter that much and if it does, why do guys ask?
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My boyfriend is always quizzing me on my sexual past and things I did with old boyfriends. It makes me uncomfortable to talk about that to him but he seems to want to know everything. After he pressured me, I admitted that my ex used to cum on my face. It wasn’t something I asked for. I gave him permission just to please him the first couple of times and then he just started doing it routinely on his own. In my mind, I was just being a good girlfriend and taking care of him sexually. Now my boyfriend is cold towards me and says hurtful things, like he doesn’t know if he can live with knowing the future mother of his children did that with someone else. He keeps punishing me over and over. Why does it matter what I did with a prior partner? If he can’t handle hearing about it, then why badger me and drag it out of me in the first place? I don’t understand this at all. What did I do wrong? I feel like we’re falling apart over this.
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Thank you for all the replies. The various perspectives were helpful. This morning I felt empowered to tell him I won’t deal with his immaturity any more and that we’re done. I love him but I won’t be punished because I had a life before him. He actually looked stunned but didn’t argue with me. Now he’s texting me saying he’s sorry and he needs me…. you know the drill. If he wants me back, he’s going to have to earn it and I don’t think I’m wrong about that.
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 27No I think think so
We ask so we can get the fuck away in time if a girl's past is that bad and find a new one.
If he told you he used to have sex with another guy, would you hold that against him even tough it's in the past?
Men invest a LOT of time, effort, money, and emotion into a partner so having one that has been used by endless numbers of other dudes loses its value.
my wife was with one guy before me. I know the guy he’s a bit of an idiot but I know from girls he’s been with that he sucks in bed so my partner has gained an infinite amount of value which is why I stuck with her because I know she hasn’t been run through by 1 billion different guys or acted like a porn star before me.
I haven’t been used by an endless number of guys. I’ve had 3 partners total, less than a third of what he’s had I might add. I think he’s just going to have to suck it up or move on and I may make that decision for him.
Rule of 3 women always divide their number by 3
That, of course, is nonsense.
It wouldn’t exist if there wasn’t some truth to it.
Past performance can be an indicator of future performance.