Why does being vanilla in bed have such a bad reputation?

Just because you are not into BDSM, roleplay or threesomes etc. does not mean that the sex is boring or bad.
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  • If someone really likes football, they are the most likely to talk about football. If someone really likes watching movies, they are the most likely to talk about movies.

    If someone really likes sex, they are the most likely to talk about sex. The point is that discussions about sex are people who are really into sex, but are not necessarily the norm.

    Someone who is vanilla is far less likely to talk about it. What is there to say anyway? Are they going to participate in discussions about sex positions, kinks, fetishes, etc? Very unlikely.

    The same applies to libido in general. People's libido varies quite a bit. People with high libido who love sex are far more likely to talk about it. They are far more likely to talk about how great it is.

    What you hear about the most is not necessarily the norm.

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  • I don't think it does have a bad reputation except for those who are into BDSM and group sex. And honestly why does it matter what those people think. It's probably those people who started using the term "vanilla sex" in the first place so there's no need to even accept the premise of that term.

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  • Not necessarily though for me vanilla sex isn't at all satisfying.

  • I think it's just backlash from the Vanilla crowd kink shaming all these years. They've always treated the BDSM community with judgement and shame. If you are Vanilla, embrace it but, don't act like your sex is more pure or better because of it.

  • Vanilla also includes not being interested in different positions, or places, and not moving much during sex. A girl isn't vanilla just because she isn't kinky.

  • Who said sex is boring if u don't do role-playing bdsm or 3soms me and my partner are not into that and our sex is still banging

  • It's probably the most popular form of sex so it can't be that bad.

  • Nothing wrong with vanilla at all, it's what makes you happy that matters

  • Yeah of course not me and my friends with benefits usually are vanilla about sex but once in a while if we feel in a rut we try something new but vanilla sex is still great.

  • I feel yeah. I’m not into that stuff either. Lol.

  • When you try every sex position you know, that’s not vanilla.

  • For a lot it does, because that's what they are looking for.
    For you it might not.

  • Because its boring

  • Because why not try something else do you get the exact same thing everytime you go out to eat

    • but vanilla sex does not mean that you do the same thing over and over again

    • When I hear vanilla sex I think penis in vagina that’s good and all but it gets dull humans have more than one hole for a reason

  • Maybe because of porn and current trends.