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Why does "Body Count" matter so much to men?
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24 50I've read and heard about many reasons, some are: that they find it disgusting to think another man was in their girlfriends before them, they don't want "used goods", they think the girl would be more loyal to them if she had fewer partners, some men had quoted studies that fewer sexual partners of married girls resultes in fewer divorces, I've heard them saying that there is less possibility of STIs, they said that the fact that she can control her urges gives her value. That's all I can think of now, but I would add that it's also important to a girl that the man she's with isn't a player with too big body count either. It also points to disloyalty and possible STIs
"Hey, Bob! Henry hasn't kissed her! He is the only one in town who haven't."
"Yo, Henry. I tell you man. She is good in bed dude. Robert can tell you that man."
"Congrats man. She is fabulous in bed. You get to nut in her now!"
Yeah. I get it why some guys aren't too keen on getting a girl with a huge body count.
Because we know that a growing women's visitors' list leads to women losing their ability to bond to men and children. For reasons I do not understand, this is far less true for men. Men can play for years and then wake up one day to put it all behind us. By contrast, women pick up men's appetites and cannot be rehabilitated.
Probably comes from a sense of insecurity, I think. They may be afraid they won't be as good as the previous men.
good in what way? I value a woman who values her body and her vagina.
Good sexually. Whether that be how good they are orally or even if they stack up in terms of penis size.
The previous men of a slut can't be good as all they did was ejaculate in them. One night stands are not good lovers.
@marish01 I'm sure many people have great one-night stands and all of them aren't bad at sex. Some might be better than others but that doesn't change the fact that some men may still feel insecure with the fact that a woman has had so many sexual experiences.
Or feel physical disgust that so many dicks have been in her.
The stupid questions that this old man asks are already starting to annoy me.
How men have to ensure their offspring evolved to despise promiscuous women, I use promiscuous women for sex but not for a serious relationship.
how men have to ensure their offspring, evolved to despise promiscuous women
If I am annoying then I am happy. Whatever you do don't block me because I have so much more annoying stuff lol
Old man shut up.
Don't be that way kiddo.
I don’t know, I never understood it. Someone’s past has nothing to do with me
They don't want a woman that sleeps around. But if they sleep around then they're just being hypocrites. Tbh I would prefer a man that's a virgin but I'm a virgin myself. I would like it if a man had self control. To me that's the most masculine quality a man can posses: self-control.
Nature adores a virgin trope, if your want a virgin like yourself then it's totally okay.
Is there just an open plot at the end of the row or a mausoleum with statues and everything?
P. s. the fence round a graveyard isn't to keep people out...
Some men are very insecure, not to mention very judgmental.
Good question. Try rephrasing it to "how many women have you gotten off" it will be better indicator IMHO
Are you turned on by the idea of your woman having sucked dicks.
Its the comparison theory. We as guys have it in back of our head how she is comparing us to her past. It sucks on our part. Its all psychological.
Not to me. So I guess Im not a man then.
You better believe it matters I don’t want Used goods
Coach, it only matters to the man if he "perceives it to be too high"! That number will differ with every man, don't you think?
Yeah that is true. I know andrew tate does this thing where he tells the girl he just met that she already cheated on him with all the other guys she has slept with. She will the say that was in the past then he will say well then you should of waited for me lol
That's why he's a moron. LOL
It shouldn’t matter, don’t guys want a girl with experience? 💃
Not really.
Yes but not where its detrimental to our minds. I know one girl broke up with her fiancee bc of his body count. One of them so happened to be her cousin but that wasn't in the conversation. He didn't know they were cousins.
No we dont
It's simply a huge turn off and that will never change. If you find some aspect of all men a complete turn off I could say 'It shouldn't matter'... but that won't stop you from being utterly turned off by whatever it was...
To answer your question, It doesn't bother me amd Yes I could move on, I was just trying to help her.
Pro - More people you spelt with more experince
Con - More luckly to get an STI.
Because the idea of other men's dicks in her entrances grosses them out.
What kind of man would be indifferent?
Cucks
No the idea that you would allow so many grosses us out.
Both of you are right.
That too. It's not the physical disgust byt also the moral disgust.
the moral disgust is worse in my opinion
Plus she won't be enthusiastic. Intimacy will be ordinary to her cause after all it was valueless enough that she shared with so many random men.
Isn't your idea of "so many" equal to "one" ? Haven't you said that you'd prefer to marry a man who isn't a virgin, so he knows his way around a woman's body, but still has a low enough body count to fit your ideal? Nor is it necessarily true that women who've had an elevated body count are unenthusiastic or find sex commonplace - that's merely your opinion.
@loveslongnails i used to think male promiscuity is hot. But not anymore. Do sluts dream about feeling the man's body? No. Why would they? If sex is a random act to them. Nothing special. They share it with so many men without even expecting love from them.
So does that mean you're now looking to marry a virgin, like yourself?
@loveslongnails I don't expect it. But imagining him with other women kinda kills my libido. His body seems cheap.
So what you're saying is UNLESS you marry a virgin, you would have no libido with a potential husband who has been with ANY other woman, because that's all you'll think about when you're with him sexually? Is this what you're saying?
@loveslongnails I'm saying although I don't expect him to be a virgin I still feel lack of desire when thinking he has been sexually intimate with others especially if they were one night stands.
You didn't answer. So... what you're saying is --- Unless I marry a virgin, which I don't expect, I will have a LACK of desire towards my husband because I will always know he was with someone before me. THAT is what you're saying, right?
@loveslongnails when THINKING he had other women makes me feel lack of desire.
@marish01 I understand what you're saying.
So... geez this is difficult, you're going to HAVE to marry a virgin, which you don't expect, otherwise you are doomed to a life with a "lack of desire" for your husband !!! What a fate to look forward to.
Don't worry about him, Marish. He's just jealous. Haha
@loveslongnails when THINKING when IMAGINING it is a turn off. So if you imagine your woman having been fucked by others you get turned ON?
@Jamie05rhs he wants to think I won't make live to my hubby.
@marish01 Well, that's a legitimate concern. But I think the important thing is just finding someone that meets your requirements and fits the qualities of what you really want in a partner.
So you're going to marry someone who is NOT a virgin most likely, and you're going to be "capable" of NOT imagining that he's fucked one, two or three other girls WHILE he's fucking you? You're capable of that? You'll be capable of having sex with your non-virgin husband, NOT imagining him with other women and ENJOYING sex with him, feeling desire for him? Can't you answer yes or no? It's a simple question.
I want to know wtf you're trying to say, because you're not being clear.
Marish01, what is to gross out. People divorce and remarry too. Yes sex outside marriage is not not likable
Shouldn’t men appreciate a woman for having experience and knowing how to please a man I many ways? Because someone without experience won’t be able satisfy a man that much.
Why can't the woman get experience with the man she holds out for?
Because she can’t satisfy him as much as the experienced woman. That means he has to teach her what he likes and no one wants to waste their time doing that. It’s just better to get yourself a partner who knows what men like and know what they’re doing.
Men don’t have the patience. As soon they’re horny, they want it right then and there. They don’t want to wait.
@Sasha0426 Teaching the woman I love is not a waste of time. I cherish every moment spent with her.
Is it the end of the world to teach her?
@marish01: It is because it’s frustrating for the guy.
@Jamie05rhs: You gotta admit it’s frustrating. Especially, when you want it right then and there.
Sex is not rocket science.
@Sasha0426 No; it is not frustrating. I find it very enjoyable. :)
(And I agree with Marish.)
The idea of her woman being fucked by other men is more frustrating than the joy of exploring her body.
I feel like none of what y’all are saying is true.
@marish01 Exactly! It is a joy! You phrased that very well. 😇
@Sasha0426 Why do you feel that way?
@Jamie05rhs because she slept around and doesn't want to acknowledge she is low quality
Wait, I slept around? Why wasn’t I informed this? 😱
Then why are you glorifying sexual experiejce with many men?
Would you believe me if I told you I’m still a virgin?
@marish01 Nah; she didn't do that. I think she is just confused by the popular messaging of the world.
Sasha, I believe you.
No. Diminishing virginity and glorifying promiscuity is not something a virgin woman would do.
@marish01: Ok 👍
I mean, I get called a whore a lot. Hell, I even got told I would come back knocked up after vacationing from Cancun with family. That came from one of my now ex close friends.
Honestly, I didn’t know I was sleeping with men. How many have I slept with? 😅
Maybe stop glorifying female promiscuity and diminishing low body count?
If that’s what you truly believe I was doing, then ok 👍
Of course that was what you were doing. Were you not the one typing your comments?
I was. Ok, you’re right. I’m a whore.
LoL, what are you talking about. If both are experienced, it will be been there done that type of thing. Boring
We can sleep with how many guys we want. None of your business.
yeah Yeah Yah I know I know
Then stop dating because we don’t 304s
Sounds like a great attitude for building a long lasting and healthy relationship...
Disgusting
From what I've been told, women tend to form strong bonds with their partners. If true, then a high body count either means she still has connections to many others or, perhaps worse, she is numb to connecting at all.
Some guys also believe the DNA research from a few years ago, misreading the data as though it means she is carrying male DNA from every gut she's been with when in reality the DNA is, as far as the scientists can tell, from her male pregnancies, whether delivered or miscarried, or possibly from her mother if her mother had a pregnancy with a male prior to. Also the DNA does not combine with hers, but some randomly can be found in her blood steam.
And of course we have the "No hymen, no diamond" group, most of whom have probably plowed through a stadium full of women but want a virgin.
Finally, there are the religious folk. Them I at least understand.