Why does he always turn lights off during sex?

[PrincessToadstool]

So been messing with this guy and he always wants the lights off when we have sex. I honestly don't remember the last time anyone has made me turn lights off. We have had sex in daytime and it was fine. But I'll be honest even though I LIKE the sex it makes ME start to become insecure like he doesn't want to look at me or something. Also he ALWAYS leaves his shirt on. Should I just chalk it up as HIM being insecure or is he not wanting to look at me?

[BuchitaBuchys]

It sounds like he's the one who's insecure. Have you ever seen him with his shirt off? Maybe he has a scar, birthmark, or a wilderbeast chest. Idk. But guys do get self conscious too.

The opposite of your situation is true with me. I always used to keep my shirt on for sex. And then when I took it off, I just had to keep my bra on. I have small boobs so it faked some cleavage. But my ex said he didn't mind and he'd prefer if I took it off. He also always insisted the lights on. It took me a while to get out of my comfort zone.

So he's probably using the shirt and lights off to hide something physical, like a scar or something. Or he's using the shirt and lights off to hide something emotional, like his own securities or discomfort. Or both. That's what was true in my case. Maybe he's the same.
Your best off communicating with him. And if he is insecure, try to help him feel better about himself. Good luck :)

[PrincessToadstool]

I did this too when I was younger bc I was embarrassed about my stomach. I just have never seen a guy do it, I don't want to press the issue of it is a self esteem issue with him. He does has a little belly but he's just a stockier built guy IMO.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Have you ever seen him shirtless though?

[Florida_Gator_Girl]

Ya he is not comfortable with his own body. especially if he leaves his shirt on. My fiance does this too. I know if he has gained some weight he probably does not want to look at his body. It has nothing to do with you.

[vmw2008]

If he's leaving his shirt on it's likely that he's insecure.

[MadeInAmerica]

Seems he is the one with the problem since he is leaving clothing on during sex. Since he can't do that in the day time and you two have sex it could just be preference at night. My gf doesn't care in the daytime but at night she said it's more intimate and romantic with the lights off at night as she always cuts the lights off and even the tv.

[PrincessToadstool]

He wants tv off too. I don't understand how dim light at night is different than afternoon sex lol

[MadeInAmerica]

Yeah me neither there weird but we love them anyway. Only light at night we can at night is if one of us in a romantic mood and we light candles around the room.

[AustinMan]

I'm guessing he's very self conscious. You need to reassure him that you've seen your share of naked men with all kinds of bodies and you won't stop or go screaming from the room. Get his shirt off for daytime sex first. Then work on having the lights on.

[PrincessToadstool]

Good idea, I'm going to try that

[Grosayfious255]

The lights could be a preference the shirt is weird though.

[PrincessToadstool]

I think it he's gonna leave the shirt on lights should be ok. But that's just me

[islands7]

If that's your real photo selfie
then it's all about him being modest, shy, avoiding your potential judgement

[PrincessToadstool]

Lol yes that's me

[heavensgift2girls]

It sounds like he is insecure about his body. I doubt it has anything to do with you.

[Jonzor]

If he leaves his shirt on, it sounds like he is the insecure one.

[stevie123]

To each his own, on lighting.
Some people just think low lighting is more romantic.
Does he go around at the beach or the yard shirtless?
I like my socks on during sex, so who knows about the shirt.
I don't know about his preferences, but if I was him I would want the light on, dear princess

[Klaatu51]

he has a knife inside his pocket and he wants the lights off so you won't see it :P

[zombiebabe]

maybe its some kind of weird fetish

[Tokana]

your height and weight, and his height and weight?

[Pat8707]

He's the one who's insecure

[ashley1996]

I would say he's insecure about his bod.

[rUinSAYAN]

I hate lights of, makes me think that the girl has some issue/problems

[Depressed-Dude]

Haha, what sort of issies? Interesting to know because my girlfriend did this and it used to annoy the fook out of me!

[rUinSAYAN]

@depressed-dude body image, self esteem, hiding something, not wanting to see me, the imagination of thinking about having sex with some else, not being comfortable with your partner. I just feel like ":/" when it comes to that. good that it was a friends with benefits and not something serious

[PrincessToadstool]

That's how I feel too, like it's just a friends with benefits thing for us as well but like it always makes me wonder. I know he's not going to say "oh I thnk you're gross" if that's the case. He physically is into what we do, like makes sure to please me, he wants MY shirt off. I don't know I've never really dealt with this at this age lol. Usually men are like "yea she wants the lights ON!"

[rUinSAYAN]

good that it's a FWB. if it were something serious I would have a discussion after that cause it really is something I don't want in a relationship. being aware of the others body and flaws and accept it is the main thing that makes sex with your SO better then with some stranger. it's the trust, the warmth and that's why I want those lights ON

[KiaTate]

He's probably insecure about his body

[Kshppatel]

Sounds like he's insecure about himself.

[Wood-Carver777]

He's hiding something. Correction, he's insecure about something that's physically on his body.

[Anonymous]

Im dating this guy. Sexy face but when we have sex I'm naked in front him all the time. When we go in the bed he doesn't take shirt off and turns light off. When we get finished he like did you like it. Very insecure guy. About he's weight crazy.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend always used to do this, I found it weird and could never understand her.