Why does he cum so quick?

My fuck buddy and i been having sex for 2 years. he's 27 and im 21. He always cums so fast. I lost my virginity with him but now im not satisfied. I want to be able to cum too. He usually last for 30 seconds. The longest was maybe 1 minute. Should i tell him?
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  • Have you told him?

    You need to let him know that you aren't satisfied an that you want sex to last longer.

    Does he go down on you while he gets himself back up? There are exercises he can do and learn to push the point of cumming back. I've gotten to the point that I can cum and stay hard to cum 2 more times. I also can push the point of cumming back to where I get small orgasms from my pre-cum releases.

    A quick solution is for him to jerk-off prior to the sex as most guys last longer the seconds time. Why doesn't he slow down when it's near so he can continue.

    If you told him and he doesn't seem like he's trying to last longer... it sounds like he doesn't care and only cares about his pleasure and not yours. Might need to find a new guy if that is the case.

  • You would have to be pretty tactful and sensitive about this issue because it's bound to be pretty damaging to his confidence. You might try and suggest that more time is spent on foreplay, to make sure that you get to cum at least once before he does. Unfortunately he can't change overnight, but there are things that he can do to help improve his durability. I would have thought that he would have taken that on himself, he must be aware that he's not lasting long. Unless he simply doesn't care.

    You might have to consider that he's not the right fuck buddy for you. It's not like there are emotional ties to worry about. Maybe it's time to find a new fuck buddy.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Tell him that when he feels about to cum to stop/pause so you can catch up or you will find a new fuck buddy. Guys can control that to a degree He is thinking about himself and not you. If he can't or won't then tell him when he is finished has to continue with oral or use toys on you until you are satisfied.

  • Ummmm I'm hoping nothing is actually with him and that your vagina is the best thing on earth and that's why he cums quick. But I'd probably talk to him in the nicest way possible. There are actually stuff men can do to stop themselves from cuming too quick (well so I've heard)

  • My boyfriend used to last for a fairly good amount of time and now he's done in less than a minute. I know this doesn't answer your question but I can relate to your struggles lol

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  • Is he man enough to commit his life to you? I'm sorry such a man took your virginity.

  • Yes..

  • No, he knows.
    If he wanted to change it then he'd be looking for ways. There are methods to fix that and tricks that work well.

    It's not having a negative effect on HIS life, why should he care?

  • Do it in the pool or shower. Or at least get some water going. It should desensitize mr so called energizer bunny there

  • 30 seconds? What the... Ok how well are you prepared telling him that? :'(
    How polite can you be?

  • he's not willing to perform oral? he's known you for 2 years? wtf lol

  • Have him get drunk first

  • If he only lasts for 30 seconds to a minute then he needs to get checked out by a doctor

  • It sounds to me that your fuck buddy has a premature ejaculation problem unfortunately. It's a condition that can easily be fixed by seeing a doctor. Be open and honest with him about this because this will keep happening if he does nothing about it!

    Is he cumming too fast with or without condoms? 🍌

    • Both. He last a little longer with condoms but not a big difference

    • If he's cumming too fast with and without condoms then he really needs to see a doctor very soon because this affect any future relationship he has with women!

  • You should have the discussion. But, it's a sensitive issue for him. It's called premature ejaculation. Read about it and offer some suggestions. For instance, he may last longer in some positions.

  • What the...30 seconds. Hahaha.

  • he needs to stop having sex and masturbating for 2 months

  • Better cum fast than not to cum at all.

  • my goodness you wasted your 2 years with such a useless dick, find a skillful one.

  • he's a loser... Dump him for a guy that can last

  • So wait you NEVER cum?

  • Yeah, you gotta get off too! He's gotta help you out after he cums at the least!

  • Oh wow! You're in for a very pleasant surprise when you move on to your next guy! :P

  • Tell him to use this

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    • Also. Why the hell are you having sex with your "fuck buddy" without condoms? I don't understand you women. I met a few women who had accidental children with their fuck buddy. I don't understand it...

  • When it's a one side situation it makes you wonder why you would let it go on for 2 years. I think you need to speak up and tell him that you want satisfied sexually and if it doesn't happen than your moving on.

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