Why does he keeps restricting me on fb messager? He's 45 yo, bald, 230 pounds.. I'm young in my 20s, skinny petite and green eyes... ?

Anonymous

At first I know I'm gonna sound like a clown, but please listen till the end...

First off, we have been speaking for about 3 weeks online... we met alone... I asked to meet him but he always says he needs more time etc (which is odd... no other guys ever asked to not meet..)

I have his phone number and we are fb friends too... we did cam masturbation à few times, but I didn't get naked, just showed skin..

He does that weird thing were he always deletes our convos on the dating app, blocks my # number and restricts me on messenger (so we cannot communicate, unless we comment on each others stuff... which we do occasionally)

As much as this sounds like he obviously doesn't want to have anything to do with me...

When he added me on fb, I kept a low profile, and he's the one who came the next day to like my pics and stuff... then I commented on his pic in return asking if he can unrestrict me.. to which he said he didn't know what I was talking about... as a result of him lying and making me feel like he didn't care, I deleted my comment... then he right away came on my profile to reach out to me on my pics and ask me to text him as gave me his # again...

Then I answered him "I can't.. you blocked me"

He then called me himself... and said he didn't block me and doesn't know what is happening... and we started texting on my second phone number... I didn't believe it, but I was just hoping we could move past it 😞..

After we texted for some times.. he said we should video call again... he said he doesn't know how to unrestrict me or how I got restricted... anywho so I added him on my second fb account... we had a great chat, he told me a bunch of beautiful things.. and video called, he masturbated on video and guess what... I'm restricted again. (When restricted, you can still message the person, but not see their online status and they won't see your message) he lies a lot... his fb friends are almost only fake accounts and hookers...

Updates:

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We met online**** not "alone" ... typo... We never met yet to this day... but I have seen his face on cam... some of his teeth are missing... he's a heavy smoker... construction guy... by looking at his fb I know he is single because all his friends are hookers amd he likes 500 pages of old grannies hookers on fb too...

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My conclusion is that he is doing this for a mixture of 3 reasons... #1 he must be autistic #2 he doesn't give 1 fuck about me and #3 quite frankly he couldn't care any less about talking to me... And after calculating all the facts, I'm 99% sure he's single for reasons that i have stated in the comments already.. a girlfriend has nothing to do with it..

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WhitneySnow Guru
1 y
He’s married or has a girlfriend. Or maybe he’s like a scammer or something. No matter what he looks like, he’s lying to you and playing with your emotions. You should find somebody else.
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- Asker
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  I know... but it's easier said then done... I want to make it work... I'm trying to figure out what's really happening... if he has a girl... If he's a scammer, he wouldn't put his real name there tho? Or give me his real phone number... and put his real pics, and show me his face on cam... right? I'm not saying he isn't for sure... I'm just asking?
- WhitneySnow
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  I’m not sure. But I think more likely he’s a married guy. And that’s not gonna work if you’re looking for a serious relationship.
- BoopBoopBeep
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  MHO should go to @whitneysnow You're the side piece. You can make it work all you want, but you're still going to be the side piece and have to play by side piece rules. If you're cool with that... okay... you do you, but if you're not, you gotta nip it in the bud.
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- Asker
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  @BoopBoopBeep he isn't a marriage type of guy... His fb states single, he likes 500 old trashy grannies/ prostitute on fb... a wife wouldn't accept that... He lives in a very cheap apartment, amd smokes a pack a day in that apartment, why is that relevant? Because someone else said that he had time to text me 6 hours straight a day because wify was a busy nurse... no. Lol... He lives in the cheapest apartment on the market... I have seen it on cam... he is on dating sites for long hours after work every day... He has commitment issues if anything... and does NOT want to be in a relationship... thus why he can be distant with me...

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MementoMori777 Guru
1 y
i think i know who you are anon, either ways him blocking and unblocking seems like he is hiding you from someone and he's restricting and controlling when y'all talk to assure he doesn't get caught, if you are the anon i believe you are, once again smh
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- Asker
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  Who am I? I never post here... so I doubt it's who you think... And he didn't unrestrict me on my first fb account... he said he didn't know how to do that... He instead added me on my other fb account... so we could chat... and then the next day he restricted me on that second account too... But keeps me his friends on fb... still likes my pictures... but now I'm restricted on 2 accounts...
- MementoMori777
  1 y
  okay then its not, this guys is playing too many games, there's only enough you'll be able to take and i honestly believe you are wasting your time here if he is just so confusing in general and i think you should confront him about these types of things, mostly if you are investing time and effort on him.
- Asker
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  I did confront him... many times about having a girlfriend, he denied it 10 out of 10 times... And the rest he says he doesn't knows how I got restricted... like he didn't do it... I just want others opinions on why he could've restricted me and block my # number and always delete every convo on dating sites...
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- MementoMori777
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  the dude just seems complicated
JackCarter Yoda
1 y
Seems maybe a legit technical problem.. or he does not intend to take things any further that this.
Which might be because he is married or already in a relation or something (The deleting chat part seems to indicate so)
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Anonymous
1 y
Old guys like to take charge of you for some reason, just keep things on your terms and ignore all the rest.
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DannyUk2017 Guru
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He is married!
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- historectomy
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  he is indeed married
- Asker
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  It is becoming undeniable that this is the case... But when we video chatted he was in his bed, alone... I don't know... some days we texted for 7 hours... which married guy gets that much time? He's online all the time... as soon as he gets home from work, straight to the dating app... fb he's online all day, even at work... His fb says single... and he likes 500 pages of old grannie hookers... ? It's a riddle !!! please enlighten me... after all I told you, are you still sure he's married?
- DannyUk2017
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  She could have different working shifts, paterns, so he could have plenty of time on his hands.
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- intovertedguy
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  He is very likely married, his wife probably is either a doctor or a nurse, both professions do 24 hour shifts some times. He is using you and manipulating you. The reason e prefers that you have feelings for him and are clingy is because that way you'll get more emotionally attached to him which will make it easy for him to control and manipulate you. He clearly only wants sex from you (whore and granny pics point to this) and will hurt you sooner or later. You should leave him fast. His Facebook saying single doesn't mean he is actually single, he is likely lying. How do you know that's his real name?
- Asker
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  @intovertedguy it's the same name on every platform... his mom is in his fb, she has the same last name as him... also the fact that he gave me his real number... from all the info of him I have gathered, he is giving his real identity... he seems pretty honest about that... I stalk him... so I know
- Asker
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  @intovertedguy I get the whole "he's a user because he has hookers on fb and trashy easy grannies" ... but what about guys who watch porn? They just don't show... I think these accounts ARE his porn... I could be wrong.. But how is he more of a user than a guy who watch porn? They are both watching the same free stuff... he watches free pics on fb, they watch corn... but not everyone likes corn... some people prefer something closer to a real person.. like live cam for example... He can't be a user more than guys who watch porn... So that argument is canceled... You get what I mean?
- Asker
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  @intovertedguy I don't think him liking trashy girls on fb makes him a user...
- Asker
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  @intovertedguy also... his "wife " is definitely not a doctor or a nurse lol... I know because he lives in the cheapest apartment on the market... I know because we see his place in his photos... it is far from luxury... he has a cheap stove and a cheap fridge... the typical 45 yo man who lives alone.. lol... he works in construction..
- Asker
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  @intovertedguy I also seen his place when we video called... as cheap and old as it gets...
- Asker
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  @intovertedguy he smokes *in* his apartment... to give you an idea on how luxurious it is... he smokes a pack a day...
madhatters4 Master
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he's using you. simple as that. he is 100% in control of the relationship dynamic. so he makes you available when he wants you to be available otherwise he doesn't really want you getting a glimpse into his world
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- Asker
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  So you don't think he's in a relationship like the other comments? You think he just doesn't want a pretty little young girl to be interested in him while he's online for several HOURS every single day on a dating site? It's not like he wanted to be unbothered while going fishing with the boys... he's literally online looking for girls to be interested in him... I'm not saying you're wrong.. To me it makes 0 sense what he does... I did think maybe he's autistic.. I don't know.. And it's not like a bother the guy, I don't write to him all the time... I like to let him come to me... Which adds to the riddle... This guy does not go outside ok? He's not your typical normal guy... when he gets home, all he does is look at girls... He has no guy friends... All his friends on fb are females... he doesn't look social...
- Asker
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  Let me add that he has a terrible self esteem too... maybe some body dysmorphia
- madhatters4
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  perhaps or he doesn't want to see all the girls who flirts with. regardless i think you should move on from this guy. autism wouldn't lead you to make these very clear decisions to keep you in the dark only to turn on the light when he wants.
JoeMichael67 Xper 5
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You have daddy issues.
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- Asker
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  Maybe... but that wasn't my question.
BarryLiverstone Master
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He may be worried you are caching emotions for him. Do you feel vibes?
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- Asker
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  Yeah he knows I really really really like him... but I told him I can control that.. and if he wants me to move on I can... I asked him if he preferred if I didn't have feelings for him and stuff.. he replied "I prefer that you have feelings for me " Then I asked him, ok but do you like me better to give you your space? Or to be clingy "he replied "clingy pleeasse ☺️ " ... When I show him interest in messages, he always "loves" that message... We vibe so well together... sending each others kisses... I told him marry me.. he added a heart❤️ imoji to that message ... We click really good with each others.. that's why I like him so fucking much... I dont want to loose him... :( 😞
- BarryLiverstone
  1 y
  You are in luck. You will not lose him! But the bad news is you never had him in the first place. He’s lying to you and causing you to grow attached to him. Why do you love him?
- Asker
  1 y
  He has lots of rizz... lmao I call him the rizz master 😍 .. Why are you saying that I won't loose him?
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- BarryLiverstone
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  It’s spelled lose And you don’t have him. He’s manipulating you
- Asker
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  Maybe you're right .. but that doesn't make complete sense to me... Manipulating me to get what? Money? Sex? He is refusing to meet me "for now" ... so it's not for sex... he also didn't ask me for money... Let me know what is he manipulating me about... ?
- BarryLiverstone
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  I’d better not. Don’t wanna upset you
- BarryLiverstone
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  You concluded that he is single which allows you to stay in love with him
- Asker
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  No... because he obviously does not want to be in a relationship... I think he has commitment issues and wants to keep his freedom... he just wants to chat with 1000 different women... he wants ni strings... he enjoys being alone... that's my conclusion. Yes he's single. No I don't wanna stay in love with him knowing how he couldn't care any less about me... I'm working on myself.
- Asker
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  I dont know if you read it but... he's 9n dating sites hours per day, he follows 500 hookers in tiktok, 300 on insta, 500 on Facebook... He's a fuckboi... he don't want no relationship with no body... including me... and again... he couldn't care any less about me and talking to me
- BarryLiverstone
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  Yep I read that. But clearly you still have an interest in him and have devoted time today to ask about him. You knew he was doing all that before today yet you still seem to want him. So what changed today vs yesterday?
- Asker
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  Him liking all those profiles isn't why I'm trying to move on... it's because I can't chat with him... Yesterday I wanted to give him a chance when he reached out to me... and wanted to give him the time he needed to get over all those hookers.. and time to be in a relationship... but I also expected that he would restrict me again instead and things aren't meant to work between us... All I am asking is that it's possible for me to reach out to him if I feel the need... if this can't be possible, things are simply not meant to be between us... its painful because I was crazy about him... that's why I was putting up with his shit... I truly truly liked him... more than you think... Did I explain it well?
- Asker
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  Him liking all those girls him this him that isn't why I'm trying to move on today. It's the fact that I can't communicate with him properly... he's building a wall between us...
- BarryLiverstone
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  So if he unblocked you, would you try to talk to him?
- BarryLiverstone
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  Because I read all that you wrote and you want to give him time to get over all that. But he could have been doing that already and chose not to. So while you say you are done, if he unblocks next week you are right back to him. I said you love him. Don’t you
- Asker
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  Yeah I love him... if he talks to me again in a week I will respond... but I doubt he will do that, without me making efforts to make it work... he isn't willing to make the efforts, so... We only spoke again because I asked him to unrestrict me after he liked my pics... we only spoke again because I made the effort to add him on my second account... Now I'm not trying anymore, he went to far by restricting me again... we will just be fb friends who don't talk 👍
Sharkstealth Xper 7
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I try you out. I have green eyes also.
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Mangospacho Guru
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It’s probably just his wife getting on there and seeing some 20-something on his DMs and she keeps blocking you.
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B4851 Xper 5
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This is a situation that you should stay away from. Way too many red flags.
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- Asker
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  Yes but he has LOTS worth to stay for too... Could you elaborate on your train of thoughts? Thanks
- B4851
  1 y
  He doesn't sound like a man who wants you, but can't stand letting someone else be with you. He sounds like a user, and one he's tired of you he'll move on.
- B4851
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  Anyway, sorry to hear that he's treating you so badly.
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- Asker
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  I dont think that it's that he doesn't want me, I think that it's that he doesn't want a relationship... he likes his freedom... he wants to chat with 1000s of women at a time... he doesn't wants to commit to one...
- B4851
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  That maybe try. Either way he sounds like an idiot.
- B4851
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  And you should be treated better.
- Asker
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  Thanks... 😔😔
- B4851
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  You're welcome. I know it doesn't make you feel better, but I hope you find someone who wants someone such as yourself and will treat you right. Recently went through a breakup myself, so I could understand some of the feelings.
PeteA380 Xper 1
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Maybe simply because he is married and a father. I am a bachelor, talk to me.
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peterrezeeek Explorer
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so why do u care about him that much?
do u like him?
do u want to date someone without teeth?
weird
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- Asker
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  Yes I do... I'm absolutely crazy about him... he made me lose interest in everyone else... I want to talk to no body but him... he looks really handsome and sexy even if he is missing some teeth.. Plus everyone can fix their teeth at the dentist... no big deal...
- peterrezeeek
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  how old is he and u? can i add u on fb and be like friends?
kakaling Xper 5
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Seriously? Come let's cam masturbate too, I'll make you forget him.
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- Asker
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  That didn't answer the question
- kakaling
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  He is not here, we are here.
- Asker
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  It is very unusual for me to do this with a guy... that 45yo guy had magic in him... I can't develop an attraction online but he made it happen... he even made me orgasm online... he has an incredible charm to my eyes... With other guys I have no interest camming.. . he was special 💔 He would blow my mind up... I became obsessed with him... He's all I would think about... I wish I could have at least met him to feel his dick in my... but he says he scared to meet me... scared of what? I don't know, maybe to show himself, like i said i think he might be on the spectrum... or maybe he just doesn't want to see me... I'm devastated.. but im in the process of moving on...
Anonymous
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I get the impression he isn't single and is trying to stop himself from contacting you, or trying to limit your ability to contact him (or more importantly, to him, limit your ability to possibly reveal yourself to his significant other).
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Anonymous
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He’s probably married that’s why all the secrecy
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Anonymous
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Wow can I see you? You seem really delicious
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