Guys, why does he only want anal?

so the guy im with wanted to try anal as he has never done it before we used to always love doing vag and im very tight there aswell as he is only the second guy i have slept with, so he asked me one day if we could try anal as all his friends told him how amazing anal is so i was his first, but now ever since we done anal all he wants all the time is anal never vag, i mean he always plays with my vag and loves to but this has been going on for more than a year that he just wants anal all the time like he is obsessed with my anal, both my ass and vag is tight so is this normal that he loves anal so much?
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  • u could sleep with 100 guys and it has nothing to do with how tight u are... that is a horrible misconeption :( u need to look up kegal. or cegal muscles. its the muscles in ur pussy basically. they control how tight u actually are. these flex to squeeze him during sex, and during ur climax/orgazm. but regardless ur ass is smaller and tighter. minus a few things anal is fun, plus u can't get knocked up really unless u are being really stupid. so thats probably why. its also different, variety is the spice of life. if u want him to fuck u in ur pussy some more, go to a book store like barns and knoble and get the karma sutra. or the bedside version even. its designed for female pleasure but it feels great for the guy as well. im sure u two will love it and it will probably have him fuckng u back in ur normal hole if that is what u want.

    • im basically saying i know its nothing to do with my pussy as i know she is tight even he says she is tight, it could be that he finds anal more fun and exciting as he has mentioned before that he likes how my ass looks and had always wonder how it would be banging it, maybe thats why he loves it so much, its just he basically always takes controll and never lets me he likes to be incharge that bothers me aswell he is always bending me over , thanks for the advise regards to the karma sutra

    • lol i use to always love to surprise my girlfriend and bend her over :) but then i would give her, her turns also where she could do what she wanted. u should talk to him about that and tell him u are upset about him just bending u over and taking. u want ur turns as well so u can do waht u want... its not like he is still not getting sex out of it! u both need to be happy when it comes to sex or that is a quick way to end a relationship. arguing over sex. so best to bite taht bullet now. and u can tell him he's still in charge if he wants like u can "ask" him to do what u want, he just needs to let u do waht u want. this will make u both happy i would think? anyway u have to talk about what makes u both happy and not happy for sex in a relationship. if he has kinks he needs to tell u, if u have them u need to tell him. the more u know of each other the happier u will be together. and when talking about kinky, dont judge each other or its an instant anti trust

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  • Because his mind is most likely jacked up on porn and he has learned only unnatural and unrealistic affections. Porn is destroying the sex lives of millions now days as well as creating an environment where women are objectified and abused. They are held to a standard where their body is placed with that of a porn star. She is told she must shave her pubic hair to look like a little girl and that she must perform a certain way such as blow jobs and anal. Never mind that she has a vagina which was naturally made dor the penis. We are so arrogant to think we are somehow better and more advanced than nature! Its really messed up. The only way to reverse this is for women to set limits, keep things natural, not give into the body shamming, and then not give in and break those limits.

    • i was his first for anal and it seriously feels as if he is obsessed with my anal by now he is always taking controll aswell , he only cares about his pleasures and keeps saying next time i will do vag but he seems to like me seeing hurt while doing it and thinks i enjoy it i have been giving him what he wants more than a year, its always about what he wants, if i set limits im afraid he will care less as i won't be giving him what he wants, what do you think about anal? he wants me to push huge dildos and toys up my anal aswell he is hectic...

    • From everything you have said, I strongly believe he has a classic textbook case of major porn addiction, or at least influence at best. Porn drives the selfish mentality of "its all about his pleasure." It drives the obsessions with certain types of fetishes. Worst of all, it drives the idea that you are only an object to be used to fulfill his fantasies. He gets the idea from porn/friends and you are the object to try them out on. A man who is wired correct in the brain or who has fully recovered from porn finds things such as anal as degrading and unnatural. I find it repulsive. On the other hand, I find the vagina to be the most beautiful part on a woman's body, second only to her face and personality. It was naturally meant to be penetrated by the penis. It accommodates it perfectly with lubrication, and everything else. Its quite obvious that nature intended the vagina and not the mouth or anus, both of which are to intake and expel food, not semen or male parts.

    • His enjoyment of you being in pain with big toys, and in the wrong holes tells me he needs some help and has a serious unnatural sex addiction.

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  • I think he has came into the habit of it once you start something new there's always a chance to getting habitual of it. I think he just wants to have fun, stroking anus is always a good feeling when you do with any position. There are no chances of getting pregnant in anal sex but it's more enjoyable than vaginal. I have done anal couple of times and I found it more relax full that makes me amused than vaginal. It's just obvious when you get into a habit of anything. If you don't like anal or if you feel uncomfortable doing that then tell him not to do always, you can let him do sometimes but not all the time. You just can't make him offend afterall he's your boyfriend.

  • Because he failed Anatomy class and 1) forgot where the vajayjay is and 2) forgot what an anus is for.

    • Come straight-out, looking serious and a bit pissed-off, and ask him "Do you want be a fudgepacker? Is that it? In case you haven't noticed, I am a woman and my vagina is made for fucking, not my asshole. If you want fuck assholes all the time, let me get you Bruce - excuse me - Caitlyn Jenner's contact info. Would you like me to do that for you?"

    • lol thats a good one thank you! :) i dont understand why he has these ways because he is actually wealthy and has his own business and seems very clever, he likes to be in controll and thinks highly of himself, i let him try anus because i cared enough to let him try but didn't think it would lead to this, i do get angry your right i feel like he needs punishment that i should abstain for a while and tease him during it aswell so that he wants the vajayjay lol

    • Sounds like a plan, but, who knows, maybe he really does play for the other team. If he's a good dresser, then you have to wonder... Ask him this question: If you got drafted but got to chose which branch of the military to join - Army, Air Force, Navy, or Marines - which one would you select and why? If he answers "Navy", be concerned - especially if he wants to be in a sub...

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  • Some of it could be how you are built. Some think of anal as the holy grail. Many women get off from anal but more from vaginal so you need to tell him the kitty needs attention as well. Also there are many that say some of the issues from anal sex occur more the more you do it and part of that depends on how big he is. Now many girls it is an occasional "treat" like that time of the month or birthdays and anniversary or maybe once every couple times you are having sex.

    Now this last one sounds strange but has two parts and is accurate from what i have found. An orgasm for a guy is always more intense if you shoot in something like a mouth as opposed to finishing with a handjob or shooting in the va jay jay if able instead of withdraw and pulling out and beating it. So if you are not using condoms its possible that since you can't get pregnant from anal he is figuring he can cum in your butt and have a better orgasm and not get you pregnant. Now you could start in your vagina ( dont go butt to vagina) and then finish in your butt.

    Will you marry me? just kidding i am married but i have not had a girl this happy to please her man since college

  • Anal is more interesting because society has long made it taboo. Also despite what you say, an ass is always tighter than even the tightest vagina.

  • Because porn says it's good.

    • good point porn now a days they do any thing

  • Anal is gross to me.

    • lol some people are not into it i also didn't think good of it before and was afraid, but once you try you will see its not as bad as you think, i dont love it prefer vag

    • I tried and can't keep a hard on. Its hard to fit in. Never got fully in. Also It's just the thought of pulling out and seeing shit on me makes me not interested.

    • haha i agree its tight some men caan push it on though with lube or oil the best is to open her up firstly with lube and she shouldn't let you fuck her right after eating aswell her tummy must be empty and she must have used the toilet, mine never comes out with poop ever because i know by now how to prepare myself, best is that she plays with her anal before you insert aswel

  • Up the bum, no babies.

  • It's good that you allow him to have anal sex, but is he even making sure you are happy and being satisfied. A woman is not just a semen recipticle that a guy can just pick any hole to cum in. If you're asking this question, then there is obviously something missing for you when you have sex. That should not be happening. He should at least be fulfilling you needs and doing things that you like. His need to dominate, if that is the case, is not a part of a healthy relationship, unless you enjoy being a submissive. It's time that you had a talk with him about why he is not using your vagina, as it should be used.

  • He went to prison and it changed him.

  • Yupp honestly I like Anal but not just anal I like going back and forth from anal to vag it's more of a power thing for me like "I get to fuck all the holes however I like" kinda thing

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