Why does he regret sleeping with me after making a real effort?

I had sex with a friend of my best friend. We see each other occasionally and hang out in a group of friends and since we met he started flirting with me, but also seemed genuinely interested in me. I know he is no good boyfriend material and I have no serious interest in him, but I was quite attracted to him. He pursued me and we had sex when we were quite drunk, and he kept telling me how bad he had wanted me for a while (also next morning when he was sober). But now he says that it was a stupid decision and feels sorry that he couldn't control himself around me.. I think we both know we want nothing serious from each other, so why does he make such a big deal out of this? He is also quite easy in sleeping with people so I that's no reason for regret I guess..
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  • Maybe he started to feel very close to you, and like the moments where he felt connected and close to you when you were both having sex, and he could see himself wanting something more with you (e. g., boyfriend-girlfriend relationship). Then, because he probably doesn't want that in his life right now, he just wanted to distance himself and prevent things getting complicated and negative.

    • mhh strange response though if that's the case.. At least it seems strange to me ;). It could turn out awkward though if I would really date him and things would go wrong, that would be bad for both our friendships with our mutual friend, I guess.

  • Guys are not nearly as good at no strings attached sex as women are. Plus you're a dear friend and it sounds like he fears he messed that up. Try just reassuring him that it's all good and that you've both learned your lesson and won't let that happen again.

    • Never heard that guys aren't that good at that ;) but we aren't really friends, I would say we were busy becoming friends, but ever since I met him there has been flirting between us..

    • I guess this calls for the direct approach. Meet him for an intimate drink and just talk to him about how the two of you are feeling, what if anything you want to do about this raging chemistry, and where you go from here.

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  • He feels awkward about you guys being friends, but still fucked. For a lot of people (including me) that's a no go. Fucking a love interest is ok, fucking a stranger (or someone you know but not too well) is ok. But fucking a friend, for me at least, is not ok. That's just my thoughts of course. Other people do what they want. But the guy probably feels the same as me.

    • yeah maybe.. we aren't really friends though, we were sort of becoming friends (although that's kind of hard because we flirted with each other from the beginning on). But I am sort of new in his friends group and my best (girl) friend is a very good friend of his.. Maybe he thinks that's awkward, though I know he had a fling with one of his friends before and didn't care so much about things becoming awkward as far as I know..

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  • He would have started thinking about you;)