Guys, Why does he watch porn over videos I have him?

[Pisces101]

Long story short…. we are an age gap relationship. I’m 29 (above average looking and fit) he is 57 and we have been going out for 4 years. We don’t live together so I knew before me he was watching porn and I understand man watch porn however I told him that makes me uncomfortable especially because he is much older than I. I gave him 10 videos of us together so he would be satisfied when we are apart. I found out he lied about watching porn and it made me feel so upset to the point of leaving the relationship. This was 3 months ago. We managed to work on things and we went away and both had some drinks and I was feeling and looking my best. I made a light hearted comment and said “yeah I look hot” he replies “ ehh, you’re good looking but here is a hotter woman out there in the world”. So yeah what the heck? Please I need advice. Is he still watching porn? Is he comparing me? Is he just saying that to be funny? He knows I was hurt about the porn.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Normally straight men prefer lesbian or solo female porn. So even if he had thought you were the hottest woman on earth, he probably still wouldn't want to watch himself on video.

With the next guy, just have yourself be in the vid if you insist that he doesn't watch porn unless its of you.

Either way, thats a massive age gap. Even if it worked out, you would likely end up a widow. Also he doesn't find you attractive and sounds like a jerk, so just move on and find a better match for you.

[Pisces101]

Yeah I know right. I think he likes younger woman but I’m half his age? Seriously hey…we had sex 2 days before I found out he watched porn and I called him and he was in the middle of it (i just knew) and I bought us comedy tickets…is he attractive to the woman he watches or is it just an addiction?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its not good to have sex before you know everything about a person. Porn is not an addiction thing, its a normal thing. Nearly all men and women watch porn, but I do agree that its better when its your SO. He told you why he watches it, he thinks those women look better than you.

[Pisces101]

So true. He also made a comment about how a waitress looks like she is in high school…I know that is an innocent comment however knowing what you know…. does that tell you anything?

[TheSpaceGnome]

It tells me he's an idiot. I look the same as I did in highschool and I'm in my late 30s You can't tell the age of a person by looking.

[Pisces101]

Haha true. Well I’m 29 and he’s 57! He watches porn even when I gave him videos of me He then makes a comment 3 months after when I was looking good and in a dress and after I said I look hot he says there is a woman that is hotter than you in the world but says you are attractive and nice…like what the fuck? What would you think he is thinking about me?

[TheSpaceGnome]

It doesn't matter, drop him and move on.

[bowenw]

I think it was mean of him to say there are hotter women out there. That's just not something you say to someone you care about.

He may watch porn because he's addicted to it or uses it as an escape or supplement to his sex life.

[Pisces101]

Yeah I know right. I think he likes younger woman but I’m half his age? Seriously hey…we had sex 2 days before I found out he watched porn and I called him and he was in the middle of it (i just knew) and I bought us comedy tickets…is he attractive to the woman he watches or is it just an addiction?

[bowenw]

I found this site that explains it quite well that you may find useful:

www.psychologytoday.com/.../husbands-watch-porn-wives-despair-why

[Pisces101]

Thank you for that. My question to you is that I understand most men watch porn. I just find it super weird to me if a man of his age 57 and I’m 29 and I gave him videos of me…is he saying without saying I don’t meet his fantasy? I have a feeling he is attracted to me because of my age and body…but clearly not? Is it because he wants to watch other woman? Is it because they are prettier? Sluttier? I just feel like maybe he has an issue with me because I’m not fresh 18? Thoughts?

[bowenw]

He may be into watching things that are not possible in his life or particular acts you are not into. Have you seen the kind or porn he’s into to know if that is a possible explanation?

[Pisces101]

I’m not sure…he told me he watched chaterbait? I had a look and it’s webcam stuff but he isn’t on webcam or paying just looking. I know that but yeah. What do you think?

[bowenw]

At least he is honest about it. I don't know the details of your relationship, but I doubt him looking at that site has anything to do with how he feels about you or that he thinks they are prettier. My guess is he just likes looking at them. Please feel free to DM if you wish.

[Pisces101]

He doesn’t sex chat with other girls but I gave him videos of myself to him and he says he knew it was wrong but it didn’t tell me flat out I just called him and instantly knew he was wanking (I’m psychic lol) I threatened to break up and he came forward with him doing it and lying but why? Like I gave him porn of me! Am I not enough? I’m bloody 28 years younger than the guy

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊 He may have an addiction to porn in which case he may need to get help to overcome it.

[inhua]

send him to a deserted island in the middle of nowhere and have him survive out there for a few months, maybe a year. he'll be cured in no time

[Pisces101]

Haha I like this comment. In all honesty, you’re a guy! What is he saying and doing? Why would he watch porn over videos of me? We had sex 2 days ago when that happened and what’s with the comment to me?

[inhua]

perhaps he's too old-fashioned to understand the power of makeup and video editing. pornstars are not as attractive as they're made out to be

[Pisces101]

Yeah I know right. I think he likes younger woman but I’m half his age? Seriously hey…we had sex 2 days before I found out he watched porn and I called him and he was in the middle of it (i just knew) and I bought us comedy tickets…is he attractive to the woman he watches or is it just an addiction?

[inhua]

probably a bit of both. hopefully he's smart and wise enough to recognize he shouldn't want to be with a pornstar

[Pisces101]

When he said “there is a woman that is more hotter than you in the world” what is he really saying? That the younger woman are more attractive or that im not good enough? He said you are so hot but you’re nice? ? Lol what’s your take on that? He claims he was making a compliment

[inhua]

there's always going to be people more attractive than someone else in his case, he's very bad with compliments because this isn't something someone says to their spouse even if it is PC

[Pisces101]

Thank you for your replies. My question to you is that I understand most men watch porn. I just find it super weird to me if a man of his age 57 and I’m 29 and I gave him videos of me…is he saying without saying I don’t meet his fantasy? I have a feeling he is attracted to me because of my age and body…but clearly not? Is it because he wants to watch other woman? Is it because they are prettier? Sluttier? I just feel like maybe he has an issue with me because I’m not fresh 18? Thoughts?

[intovertedguy]

That's not a compliment that's a red flag, when a man loves a woman she's the hottest woman in the world for him. He is giving me narcissist vibes, he is already affecting your self esteem, get your videos back and leave him. You deserve a better man then he is. Why do you think he was alone in his fifties?

[stepyo99]

He watches porn because he's an addict.

[Pisces101]

What about the comment he said to me? Also…So true. He also made a comment about how a waitress looks like she is in high school…I know that is an innocent comment however knowing what you know…. does that tell you anything?

[LiamSawyer]

He is disrespecting you and even if there were hotter women out there he's very fortunate to have you and I doubt he could get any of the so called hotter women. I'd lovevto have a woman like you.

[Pisces101]

Thank you. That’s so sweet. Like I’m doing everything I can to please him when we aren’t together overnight and the fact he did that made me think what’s really going? He’s much older and I’m half his age yet he still feels the need to watch other girls online? Can I ask you…why is he choosing to watch porn over videos of me? Why did he say that comment after 3 months of this happening? Please I need advice

[LiamSawyer]

He doesn't appreciate you, I'd much rather watch videos of you then fake porn

[Pisces101]

Yeah he says he has stopped but what’s with the comment 3 months later?

[LiamSawyer]

I highly doubt he ever stopped looking at porn l, what a waste of time.

[Pisces101]

So true. He also made a comment about how a waitress looks like she is in high school…I know that is an innocent comment however knowing what you know…. does that tell you anything?

[LiamSawyer]

He prefers younger women eventually he'll find one yonger then you. You my be smart to get out of this relationship but try to get your videos back if you can. He may use them against you if he gets mad.

[EaterPeter]

He might be silly and non @Pisces

[Pisces101]

He doesn’t sex chat with other girls but I gave him videos of myself to him and he says he knew it was wrong but it didn’t tell me flat out I just called him and instantly knew he was wanking (I’m psychic lol) I threatened to break up and he came forward with him doing it and lying but why? Like I gave him porn of me! Am I not enough? I’m bloody 28 years younger than the guy

[EaterPeter]

I am sure you are enough just may be not for him. I would love to have such personal porn of me and someone or that special someone

[EaterPeter]

She don't even have to be half my age.

[EaterPeter]

She can be even older than me

[tedbuoyy]

Can I DM you

[Pisces101]

Yes of course how do I go about it?

[tedbuoyy]

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[Pisces101]

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