Why does it seem hard to bond romantically these days?

[lakotabebebe]

I often found myself perplexed that I couldn't be close with many people (before corona obviously). It wasn't that I hated physical contact, it was that many guys just didn't shower and had a smell about them or were overall very creepy towards me. Now that shutdowns have happened, it seems harder and harder to find "the one". Why does it seem harder to find someone to love now than it was years ago? 50 years ago? 100 years ago?

[ohshee]

I think it's because the guys that you just described right there are in it for one thing and one thing only that's themselves there is no way in this world that I'm going to get into a bed with a woman and that the 100% clean it's no good because I honestly want her to be the same way and that way the bonding part is one of the most beautiful things ever is when you're focused on bonding touching pleasing and taking her into a different world making it all about her without thinking one negative thought you're focused if I can't be that person I don't even want to do it and if I'm not free if I have other things on my mind that I'm not going to be able to please her and once again did I should not even be there doing it and the best part about you is that I felt every word that you said and when you find that guy I believe he's going to be a very lucky man I can feel your passion in your desire from right here

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

There's just a lot of accusations of racism, sexism, etc..

If it's an ism, it's likely being accused, so for example

if you fall for a white guy, as a black girls, you get accused of racism, because you're asking about if it's ok as a black girl, to like a white guy

Of course, it's racist, yes, since, you're basically dating him, BECAUSE he's black

You're saying all other races, aren't attractive, because they are that race. THATS RACISM, because you're stereotpying an entire race.

Instead of judging them on their character

[MrNameless]

I think there's a lot of reasons. Certainly covid makes it harder. But I do think technology has made people, especially younger generations more socially impaired

[exitseven]

Use of social media makes it harder for two people to communicate on the level needed to form a genuine bond. It is hard when you are limited to a selfie and a mostly made up profile.

[TallAnon]

People travel more, see a bigger variety of people, romanticize more, etc. Few hundred years ago, you lived with a bunch of people in a village or small town and if there's like 50 women your age, you gonna spend time and pick one of those.

[7771999]

People are too into casual sex and lack ideals of commitment.

They aren't romantic because they just want to get to the bedroom

[Luckycharms12]

People where made get married 100 years ago even 50 now you a choice.

[AFellowWeeb]

i dunno, it depends, but yeah, most people overall only care about hookup culture, i hate it too

[Seppel]

I think it was the same 100 years ago

[Bklynbadboy12]

It seems hard cause it is. People are doing relationships in the traditional sense anymore and I'm old fashioned the way I'm just not into all the stupid shit they do now a days. I want a good woman to settle down with that wants me and only me and that's hard to find

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm gonna follow you if you don't mind

[Anonymous]

Because of the risk of being MeTooed or financially wiped out by divorce, no guy now is looking to get married