Why does my boyfriend cum so quick when we have sex?

I get about 2 minutes out of my boyfriend before he says “I’m about to cum already ; you’re so warm , your pussy is good”
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  • Because he's not holding back. He's forgetting that sex is more than just getting his orgasm as quickly as possible, and he's just going for it. You're going to have to help him change his mindset, and you're going to need to give him good reasons to do so.

    You need to kind of show him how hot it is when YOU get pleasured, and talk to him about the different ways he can pleasure you, and how you're likely to react when he does so. Of course your pussy feels amazing, but you need to explain to him that sex is more than just that - it's about the other parts of your body, and it's about your reactions and noises - your breathing and gasping. Help him understand how hot those things can be and show him how he can get those reactions from you, and if he has half a brain, he'll be motivated to do the work to get more of them out of you.

    Don't be afraid of the conversation - but you MUST keep the "accusing tone" out of your voice. You can let him know that you're disappointed, but then talk about how you're confident that he has it within him to be so much better, and give him POSITIVE reasons to change. Make it fun for him, and maybe reward him for his efforts in some way. Assume he's mostly just ignorant, and needs to be taught about women, and so you need to keep the lesson positive, and avoid going into negative territory, because that will turn him off to the idea quickly.

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  • The question is whether he is comfortable or uncomfortable with this pattern. If he's comfortable, he probably won't want to do anything about it. If he is uncomfortable with how it is impacting you, there are a couple of exercises you can do with him to help him gain more control.

    Start-Stop Technique:
    Manually stimulate him, though ask him to let you know when he is approaching the point of no return. If you're observant, you'll see physical changes as he approaches this. You don't want to wait till the last moment, but make sure he is aroused. At this point, remove your hands and let him calm down. Once he starts losing some of his erection, you can start stimulating him again. The more you do this, the more he'll understand the signs to look for when the two of you are having intercourse, allowing him to slow down or stop (while staying in you), till he is ready to return to his stroking. The more control he gains, the longer his staying power.

    Squeeze Technique:
    Do the same procedure as Start-Stop (though it is easiest if you are facing him while sitting at his side -- on his right side if you are right-handed and on his left side if you are left-handed), but rather than just stopping, firmly squeeze with two fingers on the bottom side and your thumb on the top side of his penis, where his shaft meets the head. If he is standing, and his erection is pointing directly in front of him, downward is the bottom side and upward is the top side. As you experiment, you'll learn the proper pressure to apply. It's not about hurting him, but the proper pressure will cause his erection to subside. Once his erection starts to subside, you can return to stimulating him.

    I hope these exercises will be helpful.

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  • Sounds to me he is forgetting that sex is about making both of you feel fantastic. He's just going for it & not trying to make sure you're pleased with what is going on as well.
    This could be due to a few different things such as his age, previous experience in the bedroom, lack of knowledge on how to please a lady while pleasing himself, lack of self control, a medical condition or something else entirely.
    My advice, talk to him about it. Tell him what will make the experience better for you, obviously he's fully satisfied in a very short amount of time. Maybe start by having him eat you out until you reach your orgasm so he can see what it looks like to please you BEFORE his dick gets any action.

  • Have you guys considered talking about it? Does he take medication, does he drink alcohol, and so on? Does he exercise maybe? When I was in a former relationship he would run in the summers and he lasted longer. Then he got prescribed ADHD medication and it seriously added liken and hour of sex. We would both be sweating so much. I could hardly feel his cum fall on me.

    • haha that is hotttt

    • @bananathunder, yeah it was…his loads were so full and thick I couldn’t blow him while driving (which you’re not supposed to so) but I would have to swallow. If I did that then I would die from asphyxiation. They’d have to clean the cum from my throat for my funeral.

    • lol oh god... don't die like that!

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  • i suspect your boyfriend suffers from premature ejaculation (PE). men typically reach orgasm within five to seven minutes from the start of vaginal penetration, though ten minutes is also a common latency time.
    men who orgasm within 2-3 minutes of penetration are almost always diagnosed with PE. intra-vaginal penetration is extremely stimulating for guys and just minutes of it is enough for guys to reach a sufficient level of stimulation for orgasm and ejaculation to occur.
    there are many ways to improve his sexual stamina in bed though! and trust me, this is going to be the most fun homework he has ever had.
    1) play the red light green light game: use your hands (or a sex toy) to jerk him off, and when he’s about to reach orgasm, have him tell you “red light” and you’ll stop all forms of stimulation right away. as the feeling of orgasm subsides, he’ll now say “green light”, meaning you can start again. try starting with maybe reps of 3 and slowly increasing as his stamina increases.
    2) have him masturbate often (and edge) with a fleshlight (i recommend the stamina training unit). i am a huge fan of fleshlights and they’re incredibly stimulating. if he’s able to last 10minutes of pure penetration (inside the fleshlight), he’ll have no issues lasting 15 minutes or more inside you.
    3) work out his pelvic muscles! training his PC muscles is the key to mastering is sexual stamina and also helps intensify his orgasms and ejaculation.
    4. try out new sex positions! let’s be honest, some sex positions are much more stimulating than others and may be the reason why he can’t last longer than 2 minutes in bed. postions where the guy is in control of the depth, speed and thrusting will allow him to last longer in bed. think: doggy and missionary.

  • Sounds like he's experiencing premature ejaculation and he needs to practice delaying his orgasm. He'll have better orgasm as well as satisfying you. Doesn't sound like he cares very much about his wam bam thank you ma'am situation. You might read up on it and discuss it with him.

  • He gets excited when he gets inside of you and pop, there go the fireworks before you get a chance to prime your pump.

    If it's happening time after time again, and it is that quick, just get him off with your hands or mouth before putting him inside you if you want him to last longer. Every woman I've been with the first few times we have sex I'm super excited and tend to get off pretty quickly, but that settles down fast and I turn back into the usual fuck machine I am.

    How long have y'all been sleeping together? If it's more than a few weeks, just make sure to get him off a few minutes before having sex, maybe tie him down as the sensitivity can feel like an exquisite torture if you aren't used to it, and I guarantee rounds 2 and further will last longer.

    Break that rope out and ask forgiveness rather than permission, ride him hard and put him away wet lol

  • Carefully read and understand everything MrOracle said in his opinion and follow his lead.

  • Well, he could just have horrible "endurance" in this case, he cums quickly not just due to a lack of self control, but due to either inexperience or a lack or practice. Think of it like a muscle, it gives out quickly if you never really use it, and it lasts a lot longer if you work it consistently...

  • Try having him wear a condom

    • Yeah, with numbing cream 😂

    • That could help too. Lol

  • I'd think its because he is getting super excited and climaxing too soon.
    Why? It could be because he is so turned on by you, or finds you to be super sexy.

    It could also be that he needs to learn self control, figure out ways to overcome this problem.

  • mine struggles to cum so i dont know

  • We are all made we are all made from water and atoms. Atoms broke down is energy everything on this planet is energy.. when your boyfriend said you feel warm that was your energy touching his energy and it's one of the most beautiful feelings in the world and if you know how to use it it's even more beautiful so your energy turned up oh yes you do is look at you and he is ready to come basically if you learn about it and know how to use it you can last quite a while because the longer you can feel that feeling the hotter and more intense everything gets and just keeps building and building like I said it is the hottest most sexiest feeling in this world so either you're going to have to learn how to control your energy otherwise she's going to come every time he sticks his dick in you or he's going to have to learn how to control his because that's not cool to be a 2-minute guy he needs to start taking more about pleasing you

  • Is he new to sex? How old is he?
    At any rate the key is to have him slow down and not start jackhammering away at you. Have you tried getting on top so you can control the depth and speed? Also give him a handjob first that way he might slow down for round 2 or 3. by the way does he slow down for round 2 or 3? Encourage him to jerk off more so he does not have so much built up tension.
    Your thoughts?

  • Obviously your so hot looking that he just can't help himself. I suggest the 2nd time around will take longer. Let him cum and then recover and rest then get his motor running again. It should take much longer to cum the second time.

  • One, he likes you. Two, he hasn’t practiced edging. That is where you hold your orgasm for longer and delay for later, making it more powerful later. Just search “kegel exercises” on YouTube and you’ll get videos to strengthen your pelvic muscles, which are what enable you to hold your orgasm/stop yourself from cumming. Basically, your pelvic muscles also stop you from peeing.
    So, search “kegel exercise” on YouTube and see what you find and practice with your partner. Even search “kegel exercises for men”, because men have to strengthen those muscles too!
    If you want to practice holding it for longer hold for 30 seconds and then build up from there; but in the moment (during sex) do try to hold for longer. And do few-second contractions just for building strength. It’s basically like strength training in the gym. Strengthen those muscles for when you need’em!

  • ----------Well you should take it as a compliment. Most men your age should be able to go shortly after that though. I remember going at least 5 times a night so you should be able to get more the 2nd and 3rd time I would say.

    "Sex is like pizza, when it's good it's good and when it's bad, it's still pretty good."
    ~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

  • He probably gets excited quickly which can be natural for some people. Sometimes people just need experience to last longer in bed.

  • You must realy rurn him on.
    Can he pull out for 15 seconds or so and then go back in and last longer?
    Also if he has trouble lasting get him to just work you over... get you ro where you will orgasm very soon by getting you on the cusp... tons of foreplay, touching you, passionate kisses everywhere, going down on you, kissing/licking your clit while fingering you... etc., get you close before he goes inside.

  • Cuz he only cares about himself , he is only focusing on his pleasure and not yours , so your relationship with him will probably not last long

  • try numbing cream, a lot of people say it works.

  • Because he really, really, really, really likes you a lot, and is so excited by what you are doing to him, that his and your enthusiasm far exceed any measure he has of self-control. The Kama Sutra (Hindi, for love manual) can provide many helpful bits of resource information on how to slow down this reaction and get the most out of a mutually beneficial climax between the two of you.

  • Well, he just doesn't care to hold on.. Or maybe he was just too turned on and you have a warm vagina that he likes.. But yeah it seems like he is just using you to get a quick one off..

  • Because you're so warm and your pussy is good ! What else?

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