Why does my boyfriend go limp when I go on top?

Everytime I try to go on top my boyfriend goes limp doesn't matter if it was In the Heat of the Moment or we're just getting started everytime I'm On Top he goes and then and if the only way that I can actually finish before him he prefers from behind always and I'm getting a little bored of that partly because he finishes way too fast and I can't even get warmed up before he's done?
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Well i communicated with him i kept it very "we" and "us". Now things are awkwardly sad. It sucks, he stopped saying I LOVE YOU... he wants to kiss me and grope me but no intimacy. I am at a complete loss
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I love cowgirl. Maybe it hurts him (angle or something)? Have you asked him what’s wrong? Communicate how much the position does and means to you. Try this, lube or massage oil on the cock always feels extra good. But sometimes I wear a vibrating cock ring from WeVibe called the verge. It’s very comfortable to wear. It holds the blood in for a firm hard on. It helps me last longer. And it vibes your clit while on top! Always works for us. The Sync is nice and fun too. You wear it inside you. It sits on your gspot as well as your clit. Really attractive and comfortable toy. Again, climb on him with it in you and you both enjoy the vibes! My woman goes crazy and cums in a minute and can have several!

  • It might be you dont stimulate him right or enough. Talk with him and try wiggling on him. Squeeze him inside of you. Have him play with your sexy body.

    • I've got a pretty strong pelvic floor inside I do contract and move and stimulate him and he could be rock hard but the minute we try to go to the position of me on top he automatically goes limp

    • As in so sorry he is acting that way. I'm not sure what could help that.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Maybe you ride him too hard.

    • I never get the chance to ride him yet

    • Oh, too bad :(

    • Thank you for MHO :)

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  • Sounds like time for therapy for him.

    • How do I approach him with that?

    • Well, best to be just straight-forward "hey, our sex is great, but I'd like to do some other things too, and when we try there are always issues, so I think we should go talk to someone about it." Make it so it's not blaming him but a "we" thing, or something he can do with/for you. If he doesn't feel the need to get defensive, he's more likely to listen.

    • Thank you i will try that

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  • Does he watch much porn?

    • I think he watches more than what he leads me to believe but I'm not certain we don't live together we only see each other a few times a week

    • I mean I understand watching too much porn can desensitize but any other position he's rock hard

    • It doesn’t just desensitize it causes porn induced erectile dysfunction also called porn creep. I think it’s porn and that’s the only way he can perform for now. He won’t be able to for very long though if he keeps watching. The only other excuse is he’s just a piss poor lover

  • Has his rod been damaged before from a girl on top? If so, that might be affecting his performance.

    • I've been with someone who has had damage, no his rod works great in my mouth, in my ass and from behind

    • I don't mean permanently but has a previous girl bounced and missed. That hurts, a lot and could cause some reluctance. If not then he's got a different mental hangup that could be related to some kind fetish.

  • Not positive on this one - however, I am not a Fan of the woman being on top. Why exactly, I don't know. I do know that I just don't prefer it. Perhaps this is simply just his body's way of communicating his dissatisfaction with a position he just doesn't like/prefer.

  • That's probably because it feels really good when the woman's on top. He probably just need more practice and control.

    • I think you may be right about control. He doesn't ever try to slow it down. I have stopped him before while going down on him and he had never felt that before

  • TALK TO HIM. Communication is key. Try starting before you both start. Spend some time working o YOU. Then you go get him. Let him know you want more than doggy.

    • I've discuss this with him a few months ago but for him he says he's visual and that's why he flipped meover on all 4's

    • What visual does he look for? Your asshole? What he said doesn't make sense TO ME. Granted, I love doggy also, but if my girl is tired of it, or wants me to do something else, I DO IT, like any normal person should (as long as no boundaries are crossed). He sounds selfish. Does he eat you out at least?

    • I think you may be right about the selfish. He goes down on me less than i do

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  • Sadly he's not that into you.

  • Man I wish I could show you something ☺

    • I think you hit the nail on the head, his mom did a number on him. Made him insecure. I can be submissive but damn i need mine too

    • Like what

    • Like I said I wish I could help you. But as for him idk? I feel sorry for him maybe cialis?

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  • He probably has a stamina problem and Jacks off too much watching porn.

  • I find woman on top to be so satisfying. It can be a little bit scary for a guy though because you can hurt your penis if the girl is not careful. I always finish so fast with the girl on top though like in 30 seconds. But I like my woman to dominate me a little in the bedroom

  • Reverse cowgirl

    • Tried that too, sometimes I feel like he wanrs it his way for his visual disregaurding my needs. Or desire to ride him with the rythm of a belly dancer!

    • Viagra

    • I thought of that too

  • He feels inferior when he is not on top.

    • I think you hit the nail on the head, his mom did a number on him. Made him insecure. I can be submissive but damn i need mine too

    • Thank you

    • Welcome and good luck.

  • Woman on top allways more plessure for man, that's the reason came quick.

    • He came quick doggy style, never get to ride him because he goes limp before I can enjoy the ride

    • First try to long foreplay for adaptation and if you want make blowjob for him, because that's make you more wet and maybe take long time to cum for him, or ask him to lick your clitoris as well because if you don't getting wet enough for sex may that make sense, last chance change position, try missionary and put your nice feet on it.

    • here's the frustrating thing, I am pretty much always wet, he never wants missionary or to face me during sex. Its all about his visual, my ass in the air

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  • Can't imagine why
    I get harder..

  • Viagra?

  • Rub some baby oil on his cock n rub him as it going on top then grind on him see if he goes down then

    • Ill try lube and see if that does the trick

    • Yea should help the durex tingle one is great

  • WTF?

  • Cause he has to look at you're face that way

  • Maybe he has bad blood pressure so when he is lying on his back it can’t stay erect or you could try a cock ring for him to stay hard

    • I brought that up but he thinks im crazy

    • Still worth trying, he should be open minded and work with you if he cares for you