Why does my boyfriend hardly give me rim jobs?

[Anonymous]

So I'm extremely clean. I shower often and shave or wax every bit of hair that I have down there. My boyfriend eats my p u s s y rather regularly, but he rarely eats my butt? He says that he doesn't mind doing it, and he keeps saying he's going to do it, but wants to wait for the "right moment"... umm. Well I've had plenty of "right moments" where I'm clean and horny and still he doesn't really do it. Why? Is there something wrong with me or him?

[WayneRae]

He's afraid he won't get anal after he's gotten all excited.

Only he knows, but he should come through with what he's promised or said he would do. That's lame. Personally I enjoy giving rim jobs but it does get me interested in things that often don't cum to pass. :)

[AustinMan]

You need to talk. Here're some suggestions that will hopefully make that talk productive and more pleasant:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

[bettybets]

He probably doesn't actually enjoy doing it and is avoiding it. It's probably not about you. Don't take everything personally. And it's your anus. You can only get it so clean. Maybe suggest using a dental dam or at least some plastic wrap. That may make it more appealing.

[kaylaS91]

Ask him to do it in the moment, like while you guys are making out or if he's already going down on you. It could just be slipping his mind if he's already focusing on eating you out...
It's also very possible that he simply is not a fan of it.

[heavensgift2girls]

A lot of people aren't into that. I suspect he is one of those people. If you want that regularly then you need to find a guy that is into that sort of thing.

[ChicagoCyclist]

Telling a person to leave their boyfriend because they won't give them a rimjob... great advice.

[heavensgift2girls]

@ChicagoCyclist It depends on how important it is to her. If it is very important to her then yes it is great advice. They would simply be sexually incompatible. Otherwise she will just have to accept that this isn't something he is into. She shouldn't be forced to stay in a relationship if she is unhappy, and he shouldn't be forced to do something sexual that he is uncomfortable with.

[joeb73]

its him he has not realized that there are a lot of nerves down there and if it feels good to you he should do it

[runningislife]

Ahhh never heard a girl admit she wants her ass eating... Lmao just tell him you'll be down for Anal right after I bet that will get him to do it right away

[meatballs21]

Some guys don't like eating ass. Some girls don't like having theirs eaten. There's nothing wrong with either of you.

[Mr2kinky]

But why does he say he will do it if doesn't want to... If he doesn't want to he should let her know and not lead her on... in my opinion.

[foreverxinsanity]

You must really like rimjobs? It might just not be his thing. He just doesn't want to come out and say it.

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm just starting to get bored with our sex life. He won't let me play with his butt either. I don't NEED it, but I think more intimate acts would help with our sex life

[ArtDent]

Toss my salad or I'll find someone who will!

[genericname85]

he probably just doesn´t enjoy doing it a lot. to me eating butt is icky even if you´re like sanitary clean there.

[Kevin137]

I once made out with my girlfriend and she kept telling me that my breath "smelled like shit." Yes, I had eaten her ass right before it so it literally smelled like shit. Maybe this is what he is avoiding.

[ArtDent]

Couple of rum n coke's should fix that.

Sometime you just have to take charge, grab him by his hair and hold him where you want him.

[PhoenixItalian]

I do it for women in the shower, I like/don't mind doing it, but only after I've washed them myself.

[Mr2kinky]

In my opinion there's something wrong with him... If any pussy is clean enough and nice enough to be eatin then so is the asshole... I'll be eating some ass in a few hours myself.

[Elis678]

In my opinion there is something wrong with you, if you compare pussy and vaginal fluids with an hole where the shit come from. Everyone has their own taste, but the fact someone doesn't want to lick a ass is more than understable.

[Mr2kinky]

@Elis678 he says he doesn't mind doing it.. Nowhere in her post does it say he doesn't want to lick it... You want me to eat your ass? 😉

[abc--123]

He shold have his tongue in there every time you have sex

[OrdinaryGuyNick]

Some people don't do it because in their mind it may not seem clean or very healthy if you know what I mean

[Anonymous]

Some guys aren't into it. They can't get past the stigma associated with it just like some women can't. I can't understand why women won't let me give it. Haha. So hot.

[Anonymous]

What position does he give you oral in? It's a lot more natural if you're in doggy receiving oral.

[Anonymous]

Why give him the choice? Get on top of him, grab that hair and have him eat you out like a good boy. Sigh. Women. Always making the easy things so complicated.