Why does my boyfriend keep his shirt on during sex?

During sex my boyfriend expects me to take all my clothes off during sex including my glasses. I noticed every time we had sex his shirt was on. He takes off everything except his shirt. I’m very insecure about my body like my butt area, it’s kind of darker than the rest of my body. I don’t like my breast because I feel they are small. Regardless I still take my clothes off for him.
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  • Some like doing it with socks on, lol. Go figure.

    Trade him pieces of clothing for pieces of clothing. Stop disrobing by leaving your top on. When he asks why, tell him, "well, you haven't removed your shirt yet, fair is fair"

    Hey, NO ONE is perfect! The idea is to be blind to others physical flaws when lovemaking. You involve EVERYTHING... mind, body and soul. Each of you is supposed to love every inch of each other. Touch it, caress it, rub it, compliment it... whether you actually like it or not... and if you don't, is that one flaw gonna run everything?

    There's being honest and then there's being honest. Yes, it'd be nice to know some part of you isn't his cup of tea, but there's a way to talk about it... or not talk about it. Indicating dissatisfaction with a body part is truthful, just the same as someone lacking in a certain skill of lovemaking.

    Would you hold back telling him that the way he provides oral doesn't really do it for you? Would you be hurt if he said he didn't like the way you did something? Would either of you accept the criticism, in a constructive way, and change to accommodate the other and provide the pleasure, if you truly love them, that they deserve? I'd sure hope so.

    A someone suggested, maybe he doesn't have a six pack, or has a belly or love handles. Does he have scars? Maybe he's self conscious about them? Understand his position, but so what. If he's attractive to you as he is, you need to tell him. Make it a point to rub his belly and chest under his shirt while laying in his lap. Say things like, "ooh damn, you so sexy... I love how you feel and such. Give him a shot of confidence.

    There's also humor. It's an important part of any relationship. If you can't joke with each other, who then? Say, "I love your squishiness." Or "ooh look, a scar... another place I can put my love.

    Has he said anything about your apparently small breasts? Your darker skin areas? Geez, he must love you as you are. Let him know, in comparison, that that's how you love him too. There isn't anything about him that you don't like, including what's under his shirt. He's aware of your flaws and chooses to say nothing, because it doesn't matter. Let him know that his flaws don't matter to you either. You see them but choose to not see them. No one's perfect.

    You could always grab hold of his shirt, faking a really hard orgasm (wink), and claw your way through his shirt, ripping it off. After all is said and done, apologize, but say that was awesome. Women fake em all of the time. Once isn't going to kill him and you'll get to see what's under his shirt, lol.

    What about showering together? Can't wear a shirt there. Offer to wash his back and as a reward, give him a reach around jerk as a prelude to some really wet oral, or even hot lovemaking. There's ways around stuff sweetie. Think. Be creative. Some guys are sticks in the mud. Add some water and make mud soup! All sticks will fall over.

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  • It’s probably due to his lack of a six pack or he has a belly & feels insecure too. If you don’t want to do it don’t let him make you do it. If you don’t like something you need to tell the guy who’s sticking his dick in you so he knows you feel uncomfortable, if you are telling him & he doesn’t he isn’t listening to you… well I don’t have to say anything else. You need to tell him, not the internet or a some random beta male you put in the friend zone. You’re neglecting him & making him think everything is okay in the relationship & making him think you’re compatible by not telling him what’s wrong. Stop hiding stuff from him.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It is entirely possible he has some sort of insecurity with his body. While you mention that you do, perhaps he isn't as comfortable as you are.

    • Thank you for MHO!

  • He's probably insecure as well about something or he likes having clothing on when you don't have any? Carefully bring it up for discussion.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • We don't know your boyfriend. U should ask him instead of asking random people on forum...

  • Havr you ever seen him without it on not during sex?

  • Does he have any embarrassing jailhouse tattoos?

  • Ask him to remove his shirt and if he refuses then ask him why because it's not an unreasonable request or question.

  • Why not ask him. Tell him you'd like to see his muscled chest.