Why does my boyfriend like to hurt me during sex?

[Anonymous]

The first time my boyfriend hurt me during sex was when we had sex the second time and he hit my cervix hard, saw me flinch and did it twice. I explained to him that I don't like it and for the next few times he didn't do anything.

He also has very bad anger issues and I've broken up with him so many times to the point that during one of those fights I told him he reminded me of the time I was raped. I was raped when I was 26 (I'm now 31) and his response was that, "So every time we had sex, you feel like I'm raping you?" It was very bad of me to compare him to the man who raped me but I was mad.

This past eeek he asked if he could slap me. I said, ok but only lightly if that turns you on. He said he wanted to expirement with BDSM which I was ok with as long as I was comfortable. He agreed we could stop if I felt uncomfortable. Well, he ended up slapping me twice full force with an open hand. I let that slip. He then fingered me so roughly I told him to stop me he wouldn't at which point he proceeded to force me to have anal sex.

Im sure I have low self esteem issues which I need to resolve. Every time I break up, he calls me crying and acting nice and I go back. I'm seriously questioning after the other night whether I should just move on. He promised to never do it and promised to also work on his anger issues. I don't know, should I give him another chance or simply move on?

Please se don't tell me I'm stupid for even questioning. I just feel depressed and want to feel like someone genuinely cares and there are times he shows me h does but other times he can be too aggressive. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

he is sadist

[Anonymous]

He is a toxic person. Put him out of your life.

[Anonymous]

Bad manners he has