Why does my boyfriend lose his erection when going down on me?

Any time he licks me out his dick will go soft. He’s really hard when we kiss, when we have sex, when I go down on him and when he uses his hands on me.

Is this common? Why would it happen
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  • Some positions may not be a turn on for your partner. On occasion when I’m on my back in a very passive position, I’m not as excited and my dick takes a break. Once I change positions, I get rock hard again. Going down on my girlfriend however keeps me super erect, but I’m really fond of that position

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  • My opinion is that it's common and here's why:
    Yes it's definitely true that giving oral to a woman is a huge turn and lots of fun to do. But if you're gonna do it right it also requires a lot of mental focus and concentration. And that's probably why your boyfriend loses his erection while he's going down on you. It's not that he's not still turned on because he almost surely is. It's just a quirk about how our erectile response works.

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  • Maybe try 69 so he gets some stimulation as well.

    • 69 is amazing!!

  • His attention is now focused on you. It happens. How is your sex life with him otherwise?

  • It’s normal, he is just focusing on you and his dick isn’t getting any direct stimulation so it settles down for a bit.

  • It's normal. Don't worry about it. His erection is not your responsibility. He's focusing on you. Just relax and enjoy it.

  • The opposite happens to me, when I give a female oral I get as hard as granite hearing her soft gasps and moans of pleasure that my tongue and lips are giving her.

  • You concentrate so hard on eating her pussy, you lose the stimulation in the penis, but when she climaxes, the penis gets hard again, most of the time.

  • Cunnilingus is demanding. distracting work. It will come back when she blows me.

  • Doesn’t like licking you

  • It could be a number of different things he might not like it or maybe you weren’t at your best right then or he was concentrating or he was in an uncomfortable position have you asked him

  • I would say not common. Any time I've ever gone down on my woman, I'm hard as a rock and can't wait to enter her!! I'd say did he masturbate beforehand? That might be a reason. I mean just the thought of her laying naked right in front on me and I'm eating her out or whatever, even not being touched by her, I'm harder than hell!

    • I guess im in the minority of men here after reading the comments lol. But I never lose an election. Giving her oral and turning her on, turns me so on!

  • That's actually pretty common and nothing to worry about unless he can't hard again.

  • Because his dick isn't being stimuled, and is being set aside to focus on eating you out. Of you are worried, try doing 69.(you on top lol)

  • cuz he’s putting in work to make u cum and prob just loses focus on being hard

  • Most of the time it happens to me too. I think is because we concentrate to eat you out and we forget our horniness.

    • He said he was still as turned on and really enjoyed it even said he’s getting old..

    • He’s 24

    • Of course we still enjoy it and we are turned on but I think is what I told you. See? Not old.

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  • erection lost is not common thing. it might be he is too much excited for sex or he have some medical problems

  • Yeah cause our dick isn’t rubbing against ur body, happens to me too

  • Most likely because he doesn't enjoy the act. It's more something done for your benefit. Which is sweet, when you think about it.