Why does my dad make me feel uncomfortable?

Please please help me I don’t know what to do. My dad is a good person but ever since i started growing into a teenager and becoming more mature (physically) he always makes me feel uncomfortable and I act like nothings wrong because I feel bad about the way i feel.
He never does anything wrong the only thing i can think of is he slapped my butt as a joke growing up and it always made me feel uncomfortable.
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  • He has broken one of your boundaries and this has you more confused than upset I think.

    ideally talk to your mum, be clear there is nothing happening but that you do not know how to resolve it.

    as a father to a daughter, there is a moment in time, when she stops just being a child and becomes a young adult.

    as part of puberty you also become more aware of various body parts, they also become more sensitive ( I believe).

    I think it’s a case of resetting the boundary side of things.

    Also having a grown up conversation with your dad (depending on how you both get on) about boundaries etc, is also an idea.

    Also if you are an only child or the eldest daughter, this is the first time your parents have went through this.

    if you have an older sister try asking them as well.

    had similar conversations recently.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Just by having the feelings you are experiencing, something is not right in your relationship with your Father.

    One Fanny slap should not create the uncomfortable situation between the two of you. I would venture to say there exists a trust issue. You do not trust your Father, and it probably goes deeper than what you have expressed.

    it doesn’t have to start out about sex, maybe he did something early on that made you mistrust him, and as you grew into a young adult your vulnerable sexually became an important issue for you.

    I would suggest a professional therapist to work through this with before going to your Mother and creating an uncontrollable situation for everyone. You have stated he has not done anything physically to you, if he had I would go straight to your Mother.

    you need to discover what inside you is creating the uncomfortable situation. Do it today. This is not a healthy relationship.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I think it’s because he slapped you in the butt (even only as a joke). My dad also did that, plus he pressed on my boobs when I was kid and I felt violated. Ever since then I’ve always felt uncomfortable around him even though he never did anything bad

    • do you have any advice? i’m sorry i’ve been crying about this for hours and i don’t know what to do

    • Aw it’s okay don’t be sorry, I think what you’re feeling is normal. I can’t really say much on what you should do since I’m still trying to figure it out. Maybe you should talk to your siblings or mom about this, also try to set some boundaries with your dad. Tell him you don’t feel comfortable being grabbed or touched randomly and that you want him to respect your physical boundaries

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Hey... i am sorry for speaking like this but at least ur dad should have some sense... that you can't do these things with growing girls. You should be extra careful specially when you are physically trying to handle them. In my opinion... you should tell to ur mom that mom i don't like this.

  • Just tell him.

    "Dad.. I am a teenager now.. No longer a girl... But becoming a women and you need to change your behavior with me and act properly, because your current behavior is making me really uncomfortable."

  • If you still live at home, then move out and be on your own, and talk to your mother about this.

    You mentioned below that this is your fault? Its not, so stop thinking like that.

  • tell your mom!

  • Say that's to your mom... she will consult him...

    • but he never did anything wrong it’s my fault not his. i just want to know why i feel the way i do if he’s never done anything bad

    • It's quite normal... woman are touch sensitive more than man... Many woman feel that way... I've seen...