Why does my friends with benefits control who I have sex with?

[Anonymous]

[abc3643]

Congratulations!

Your question is today's Question of the Day illustrating that Friends With Benefits is an illusion because eventually one of them will get emotionally involved as if in a couple.

It's not a question of "if" it's going to happen, but "when".

Here are 3 of countless examples from G@G that illustrates the point:
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Guys, Confusing FwB? ↗
We both started off saying no relationship just friends with benefits and no sharing which means we don't sleep with anyone else. But he cuddles and wishes I could stay the night. Likes to spend time with me outside of bed. Asks how my days go. But yet he will bounce between texting me all day to barely saying a word for days at a time. So im a bit confused, we never set any friends with benefits ground rules like no cuddling or kissing before we say goodbye etc, so those have never been adhered to. He emotionally vents to me and I do the same. I know I'm catching feelings, but is he?
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Is my friends with benefits getting attached? ↗
It’s been two months since I started seeing a guy casually (we kinda stuck with each other because of the lockdown). But I have a feeling we are both attracted to each other more than we want to admit. Now, we stay over every time we meet (about twice a week), and also the next day we leave pretty late in the day. He bought me a vibrator (because he was concerned I am not coming) and he’s always taking care of me, whether it is giving me his hoodie on a cold day or fixing stuff in my room. Every time we spend time with each other he stares at me a lot, and last time I noticed that he was kissing me when he thought I was asleep. Is he falling for me?
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And this one is really good because it is a PAID Friend With Benefits aka Sugar Daddy situation aka prostitution! This is like "Pretty Woman" but I believe that this is going to have a different not so happy ending...

What should I do in this situation? ↗
My sugar daddy four months ago let me move in with him. He said I can stay as long as I want until I find a place because I was living with people that weren't safe to be with. He had two places at that time and he knew that I didn't want to get married. After I moved in with him, the whole coronavirus thing happened and he decided to get rid of his second place. So I moved in with him at his first home. Now he wants to get married and he proposed. I said yes because I dont how to say no. I like hanging out with him but I'm not physically or personality wise attracted to him. What should I do? He said that if I dont stay engaged to him he'll kick me out because he doesn't want us to be "roommates".
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If it is any consolation, in December 1988 just before I turned 26, I was involved in this intense 2.5 week F W B situation (*) with my roommate. I was very emotionally involved, but, for her, I was just a convenient lay between more "serious BFs".

So, was I a stupid fool? Yes and no. I knew better, but I wanted what I got into and paid the price. I learned through The School of Hard Knocks just like you are...

(*) This is long before "Friends With Benefits" became "a thing". No one said that in the 1980s let alone thought it because it would be considered an embarrassment to sink to that level. Apparently, being a slut or manwhore doesn't matter in today's "hook-up culture".

[AustinMan]

He wants an exclusive relationship and gets it this way.

[RACSKC0B]

Because no one has told him, he's just a friend with benefits?

[ItsTheNephilim]

He likes more than a friends with benefits and is trying to control you.

[Dargil]

Because he, as do I, see a "friends with benefits" as an exclusive relationship. If it is not, it's just casual sex.

[MiamiMadness]

He's catching feelings

[Zebadee88]

Because friends with benefits is modern bullshit.

Fuck people you want relationship with.

[reptocarl2]

Because you’re dumb enough to allow it

[COMMODOREII]

They want to control you.

[Steve37]

More like why do you let him?

[Numbnuts89]

you're 25-29

and have a friends with benefits

seriously. grow up!

[Asker]

What about him then

[Numbnuts89]

just grow up

[gandolph3]

they shouldn't, find a new friend

[7ooda]

Because they have to