Why does the stereotype that “all men are dogs” persist?

[Chazmatazz269]

This is kind of a follow up question to my most recent poll about the effect of emotional connections on sexual satisfaction. Almost 100% of respondents who identify as male answered that an emotional connection makes sex better at least some of the time. While the vast majority of them indicate an emotional connection ALWAYS makes sex better. So why are we characterized as unfeeling oversexed animals that will hump and dump anything with a pulse?

[MrOracle]

Here's why:

We used to talk about the 80/20 rule - the top 20% of single men were sleeping with the top 80% of single women. Why is that? It's because of hypergamy - women's biological drive to select the best mate to father her children. Evolutionarily, this was a great mating strategy, but it was also kept in check by the fact that most people got married, so there were far fewer single people available overall, and that you generally only met people near where you lived or worked.

Today, with the Internet, social media, and dating apps, plus the fact that far fewer people are getting married, the pool of single people is exponentially larger (or, at least, it APPEARS to be, even though that's mostly an illusion), which has caused women's standards to skew incredibly high. Previously, she may have wanted the top guy, but she was limited to the top single guy in her town. Now, she's looking at the top guys worldwide, which means that the top guys within 100 miles of her now seem like losers in comparison to the 5 young, fit, handsome billionaires that she follows on IG, with their yachts, private jets, and massive estates. That 80/20 ratio has now become 90/10 or even less.

If you were to ask 100 single women between 20-35 and ask them what they're looking for in a man, you'll find that they have a list of things they're looking for, and in most cases, just the first 2 items on her list will have eliminated at LEAST 90% of men - but the list keeps going. For example, most women today want a man who is at least 6' tall - but in the US, not quite 15% of men are that tall, which means 85% of men are eliminated right off the top. Then, most women want a man with at least a 6-figure income (i. e., a minimum income of $100,000 a year) - something only 12% of men achieve. Combine just those two factors, and only 6.5% of men qualify - and that number includes both single and married men, so many of those men aren't available.

What it all comes down to is the main point: virtually ALL women are sleeping with the same 10% of men (and I'm being generous at 10%, it's probably closer to 5%), and because that is the case, those men all have dozens of women chasing after them, so they have no reason to commit to any of those women, and in fact they rarely do much of anything - including going on dates - other than have sex with them. As soon as the woman wants "more", he dumps her and selects a new one, and the cycle repeats.

The problem is that women literally are not aware that they're all sleeping with this same 5-10% of men, and thus enabling those men to use and discard women so easily. Instead, women believe that ALL men behave this way, because all of the men THEY CHOOSE (who are all top 5-10% men) behave that way.

But most women would rather be ran through by top 5-10% guys then have to "settle" (the horror of all horrors!) with a lesser man. She's SURE that, eventually, ONE of those top 5-10% guys will wife her up and she'll be on Easy Street. What she doesn't realize is that only supermodels and top actresses get commitments from those men - and the men almost always continue to have side chicks. The vast majority of these women aren't 9s or better (often not even close), but they expect the outcomes of a 10/10 woman, and when they don't get it, it just means that "all men are dogs." They will NEVER take responsibility for their own choices - why do that when they can just blame the men?