Why Doesn't He Eat Me Out?

He's always complaining about me not giving him head yet he barely even eats me out. Sex is way better when I get it too. We got into an argument and I got him maybe I'd give more head if he would too (often or 69) and he said I want you to suck me more than I suck you, implying that he didn't really want to. He calls me selfish but doesn't give me any. It's been almost a year and I've gotten it maybe 5 times. What should I do?
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  • Take a mental step back from your situation- not an easy thing to do, I know, but try. Your sex life is unsatisfying, despite your being in a (somewhat, at least) stable relationship. Okay. Logically, you want to fix that. The first thing to do is to pin down the problem. Now, is that that you're not getting the oral attention you desire, or is it that you're boyfriend is being selfish and kinda disrespectful? I'd wager it's both, so I'll rephrase: what's your desired outcome here? Would you be satisfied with simply improving your sexual situation, even if it didn't result in an apology? And are you willing to put in the work to make that happen? Is this relationship important enough to you to put aside your annoyance and maybe eat a little crow? If not, leave now; one way or another, it's doomed anyway.

    If the answer is yes, however, then you can probably fix the situation- and that "you" is both singular AND plural. First, when enough time has elapsed that you've both calmed down a little from the argument, go talk to him. Tell him you're sorry you snapped, but that you're not content with the way things are going either, and that you think you'd both be happier if you worked together to fix them. The key is to not be aggressive; you don't want to put him on the defensive or make him feel attacked. This is why it's probably not a good idea to ask him why he wants to receive more than he gives; he'll likely see that as an attack, and the answer would probably just annoy you anyway.

    Now, I've said before and I'll say again that relationships are at their best when sexual pleasure is freely and mutually given, and you're not concerned about "keeping score" or attaining full 1-1 reciprocity. But just because you're not at that point yet doesn't mean things aren't worth salvaging, and you may need to go through that to get to the other side. So ask if he's willing to compromise- if you up your game, will he up his? It may seem crass, and even kind of commoditizing, to reduce oral sex to that, but remember that it's a temporary measure; an intermediate step to get through to a better place. If he says it's important to him to get more, than offer 2-3 or 4-5 or 20-21; show him that you, at least, are willing to grant his requests if he also does what you ask.

    If you can come to terms, then when you turn next comes up, give him everything you've got- show that you want to move forward together and put the unpleasantness behind you. Give him the best damn blowjob you've ever given, and let oxytocin and dopamine do their thing. With time, effort, and a bit of luck, he'll come to truly enjoy pleasing you, and eventually WANT to.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I think both of you are being selfish and feel like giving oral to each other is giving in. He's definitely not very cool or loving to not want to please you, but you also seem like you don't really want to give head anyway.

    • I give it often but I don't do it every few months like him am I selfish or do I want reciprocity

    • If that's really the case then yes, he is being a selfish dick.

    • It is indeed

Most Helpful Girl

  • From my experiences men tend to not care about it because they don’t get any pleasure from eating a girl out. It only gives pleasure to the one receiving. One other reason could be the problem I find when eating out a woman. If a woman is over weight it can be more difficult to do so. The really get in there and suck I need my nose to be unblocked. If she’s a bit bigger my nose gets nestled in her labia and prevents me from breathing. I don’t know if this is the case but for me it can be problem.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Move on to greener pastures rather than wasting your time with an idiot. Lots of men out there who are ready to eat out.

  • It clearly something he dont like or want to do either accept that or move on

  • Find another guy that gives the same , you are with a selfish piece of shit period

  • He's being selfish not you. You've communicated what you want and need and he doesn't want to reciprocate.

  • He finds it gross to eat you

    • Which is weird

    • True

  • 69 is my favorite number. I enjoy giving as well as receiving. I enjoy giving much pleasure to a woman. I love her great pleasure of hearing her squeal with enjoyment.

    • So men who don't? Are what

  • Where do you women find these types of men? And why do you stay with these types of men? He is selfish. Amazing how people who don't care about other people get more action than people who do care. Definitely should be 50-50. If not, what's the point? I could never be selfish like that so hard to understand why people are. So you have to make a big decision. Stay and get none, or leave and find a real man.

    • Ik I'm thinking I'd just leave

    • I'd think that's the best idea.

  • I would lick and tounge u from ur clit to ur ass till u said stop

  • He’s dumb! Eating the kitty is the best thing ever