Why doesn’t he mention wanting to have sex with me but mentions other sexual things he wants to do with me? He always leaves it out?

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  • I will assume you mean, why does he talk about sex with me but never mentions other things he wants to do with me other than sex?

    So, when talking of things of a sexual nature... men leave it at sex. If there are other things she is looking for in accordance with sex then she needs to express that. Because most me are not going to try to push it further than sex and risk offending her.

    Now if you mean he talks only about sex, and not further dates, or actives he would like to share, like I don't hike, dancing, travel, places he wants to take you...

    Then yeah RED FLAG... it might just be a sex thing for him. But do not assume that but talk to him about it. You never know unless you try to talk to him about it... then if goes back to sex and nothing else talk. Then you know what's really going on.

    Now should you have to do that? NO! He should know better and being putting in that effort up front, or without being told. But if he is not, and you want that... then you are where you are on it... so talk to him. Or ask yourself what it is worth to you.

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  • I am in a similar situation with a woman I’ve just started dating. He is probably afraid of sounding like he just “wants pussy” and it’s hard to articulate.

    i would advise taking him up on his offers “things he wants to do to you”…say, “ok, sounds great!”

    • Could be. He just says how he wants to take my clothes off subtly and also every time I ask him what he wants to do he responds with the question “idk what do you want to do?”

    • He’s not confident and you should take charge.

    • You are also throwing a little cold water on it by asking a question. Next time say “I’d like that!”

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  • Well men have a tendency to not be direct about a certain topic and usually prefer to go round and round the topic and most ideally leave it as sign to be understood by the partner or person!!

  • Maybe he's just used to being sexually frustrated and not being allowed to have intercourse. There are some real advantages to dating a guy like that, you know.

  • Not sure how anyone could answer this lol ask him

  • He leaves out oral and hand play? Maybe he wants co come off as a giver but he should want to give you oral.

  • Perhaps he's afraid of getting you pregnant?

  • Ask him to explain what exactly he means

  • Maybe he wants to take it slow before sex and just get to know each others bodies first. Have you fooled around with handjobs or oral yet?

    • Yeah I gave him a blow job and he just touched my boobs. No PIV stuff yet.

    • Take it slow and see what happens. Did he go down on you? You deserve some good orgasms also!

    • No he didn’t but also I didn’t let him touch me down there

  • Maybe he's a little shy to go all the way or maybe he's worried about his performance (like staying hard).

    • He stays hard the whole time we are together. Any time I touch him at least. He gets hard easily.

    • Maybe he's not sure how far you're prepared to go?

  • Whatever he's doing, he leaves you wanting more and more.

  • Maybe because sex will happen, while the other things may not.

  • Maybe you are not giving him the response that he is seeking.

    • lol what am I supposed to say

    • Like, what does he say and how does he say it. Message me if you like.

    • Yeah I just followed you can’t message you yet

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  • Why don’t you ask him

    • He’s really vague when I ask him. I don't know what he even says.

    • Why not just tell him, "hey mother fucker, lick my fucking pussy now!" And shove it in his face? Then he will get the ideal.

    • @Socaljp this is the answer

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  • Pardone?

  • He may be shy or impotant