Guys, Why doesn’t he want casual sex?

I met a guy a few times and from the beginning he said he just wants to be friends and doesn’t want to date as he’s just recently broken up with his ex. He also has always said that he thinks I’m attractive and the first time he saw me he felt attracted to me.

I thought I wanted just friends too but he is very good looking and I can’t ignore that I’m attracted to him anymore lol.

We are not compatible for a relationship so I don’t want to date him at all. I am so attracted to him though and want casual sex with him. Probably just once so I don’t get attached lol. So I have suggested over text that we hook up and he is not responding. I don’t understand why he wouldn’t after he kept saying he was attracted to me and he knows I don’t want to date him. I’ve made it clear that I don’t want to date.

Normally I have the opposite problem with men who want casual sex and I don’t lol. So I don’t get it. (The reason I want it with this guy is cos we have gotten to know each other so I feel safer with him compared to the other random guys who want it).

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  • There could be many reasons why the guy you're interested in doesn't want casual sex, even though he's attracted to you. It's possible that he's not comfortable with the idea of casual sex, or he may not want to risk damaging your friendship by engaging in a sexual relationship. He may also still be healing from his recent breakup and not ready to pursue a physical relationship with someone new.

    It's important to respect his boundaries and decisions, even if they aren't what you were hoping for. If he's not responding to your suggestion of casual sex, it may be best to drop the topic and focus on maintaining a platonic friendship. Trying to pressure him into something he's not comfortable with could damage your relationship and create tension between you.

    If you're struggling with your own feelings of attraction and want to explore them further, it may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own needs and desires. Consider what you're looking for in a sexual relationship and whether a casual encounter with this guy would truly fulfill those needs. It's important to be honest with yourself and not engage in any sexual activity that you're not fully comfortable with.

    Ultimately, communication and respect are key in any relationship, whether it's platonic or romantic. Consider having an open and honest conversation with your friend about your feelings and desires, while also being respectful of his boundaries and decisions.

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  • The reason can be the same as for a woman. He fears that he will get attached to you really quickly and that he will get hurt when you move on to the next guy. This applies especially when he's currently down. l emotionally from his breakup.

    I can understand that he's worried, but I would still have taken you up on the offer. If we are a bit careful and play it well it should be achievable not to get attached faster than the woman does. Our gender still gives us a little advantage in this. The main thing is to know how to make her crave more and come back again and again until maybe it's not so casual anymore.

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What Guys Said

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  • He friendzoned you

  • No means NO! Don’t be a rapist

    • “Normally it’s the opposite problem” so you don’t like it when someone does it to you. But you can do it to someone else. Leave the man alone! He said NO

    • Depends who the “someone” is. Obviously 🙄

    • You aren’t entitled to sex. Maybe he has dignity and standards for himself

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  • Every dude is gonna wanna smash if she's hot enough.

    Are you overweight? Chop your hair off? Colored bright pink or purple? etc?

    Any of these can cause a dude to look the other way

  • Not over his ex, doesn’t want fuck busy relationship, is lying about being attracted to you

    • What do you mean doesn’t want fuck busy relationship?

    • Fuck buddy. Sorry

  • This question is hilarious on multiple levels.

  • Some guys just don't believe in casual sex. If he's said that he doesn't want to, then the best thing to do is respect his decision.

    It's usually the other way around; men get "friendzoned" by women who don't want to sleep with them, for a variety of reasons, and those women would prefer that the guy respect that.

    Sometimes guys are the same way.