Why doesn't my boyfriend do as much foreplay on me as I do on him?

When things get started my boyfriend always wants me to get on top first when we makeout, then leads to a blowjob and him fingering me but recently it's not the same. It's the same pattern of me getting on top of him first and sucking him off for ages then he does a couple finger fucks but I'm dry cause it takes long for girls to get wet and then he jumps straight into sex which then also hurts cause I'm dry. What do I do do I say smth and what? What does this mean on his part?
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  • You can tell him what the issue is, and that it hurts because you are dry, etc. And tell him you needs a different kind of foreplay, or more foreplay, or foreplay at a different time, depending on what you find your need to be. He sounds like he's being selfish, or doesn't understand how a woman's body works. Try to talk to him matter of factly about this, so he doesn't get defensive. The issue to to have the problem resolved, not to blame.

  • Add a vibrator to the mix. If he does not do this job well, then get an article that says many women have a hard time to get off and why you should add vibrators etc... or just plain tell him he is not doing what you like or need...
    Machines are more reliable and can trigger jealousy and more enthusiastic boyfriend.

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  • He's either ignorant or selfish. Talk to him about it.

    How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗

  • Because he is lazy and you let him get away with it.

  • He likely make a common sum for all the foreplay actions.

  • It's means he's lazy, not focused on your pleasure he cares more about his. Your boyfriend sucks in bed

  • Because you let him get away with it.
    Don't worry about "meaning". Just tell him that from now on, it's Ladies First. When you get enough, he gets his. He either goes along or bails. Either way, you win.

  • Because he’s a piss poor lover. Have you told him what you want?

  • Let him read this post.

  • Maybe he doesn't know how

  • He's probably just lazy. Ask him to do more

  • He gets lazy. Nothing more than that. If he took more time he could get a real nice experience once intercourse comes around.

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