Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Gonna try and be as to the point as possible. I've worn lingerie 3 times in our over 1 and a half year relationship. 1st time, little to no reaction. 2nd time, reaction achieved. Made me feel very sexy and was looking forward to said feeling next time. 3rd time was tonight and got no reaction until I asked if he liked it to which he responsed with "Yeah I like it". Didn't touch me really or say anything otherwise. When he saw me he walked past and behind me to the bed layed down and yawned.
I thought he might be tired so asked if he would rather wait for another night to which he replied no. I felt good until his cues and vibes started making me feel self conscious tbh. It was all short and brief like he just wanted to get it over with. I couldn't help but cry after. I struggle with body dysmorphic disorder and building myself to where I feel okay enough to wear sexy stuff takes a lot.
I've told him in the past after the 1st time that some form of verbal approval is appreciated or even just touching me besides turning me around. After this 3rd, I was honestly pretty crushed. I told him how his lack of reaction made me feel and he said he was nervous when he saw me in it because he knew his performance was going to be poor as he was tired (he had done nothing all day and napped so I was unaware of this).
I'm just at a loss. I feel like he's so unattracted to me at times like these. This isn't the first time it's happened either otherwise I could let it go. But I'm at the point I don't want to try wearing anything sexy anymore. It's not worth feeling the way I do after at this point. Any advice is appreciated.
Why doesn't my boyfriend react to me wearing lingerie?
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4 27WTF is wrong with the guy? I thought all men appreciated a woman wearing hot lingerie. This one definitely does! (Can I have picture please 🤣🤣🤣)
I don't like lingerie. Not all guys do. I prefer some regular clothes with no underwear underneath... Or nothing at all. To me, lingerie is just extra fabric covering the good stuff that takes longer to take off. Skin on skin contact is where it's at for me.
maybe he doesn't truly like lingerie
or maybe he is not into you any longer
I don;t care for lingerie besides the daily thong
Lose weight stop giving him the minimum maybe he will give you more than minimum. The way you described the scene was vanilla and basic. Maybe try to do more than 3 times of " said reaction" or there won't be another 1 and a half years
I've lost 150 lbs already, and currently already work out and eat healthy. I'm an in the green for BMI for my height yet am still trying to tone and lose more fat or gain muscle. Shit takes time definitely no minimum given there 🤷
Thats a big part but not only part. Maybe he isn't the right guy. Did u gain this weight w him?
Nah I was heavy before him. Was losing weight already when I got with him and then lost the majority with him. Shoot I've never looked better even with the side effects of losing so much weight.
Does he notice 150 lbs is a lot
It’s not hot when we have seen it a million times.
@NyceGuyFinishingLast has already written excellent advice. I would only add that you might try to fathom the chances for "deep" sexual experiences before dressing up in your lingerie. If you both had a romantic dinner before (just an example) and you feel emotional connection this might be a good moment to dress up.
In case your boyfriend sees sex as "business as usual" you might want to deprave him a little - sex must not become another household chore!
Also some men just are not very much into lingerie... I must admit I am no exception. I will usually try to make my partner feel sexy and appreciated but I do not know if I could do any more so when she is wearing her sexy lace.
Thanks for the mention.
Maybe he is into something different... try leather :p
You'd have to ask him directly to know for sure, but maybe it just doesn't do anything for him? It could be as simple as that (or more complicated like problems in the relationship). Or maybe he's simply tired and not in the mood? But lingerie does nothing for me. Naked is sexy to me. I've often thought lingerie is for women "to feel sexy" more than anything else. But some guys love it. But maybe like me, he's not one of them. Talk to him about it. Let him know you don't feel desired.