Why doesn't my boyfriend return the favor for me (Oral Sex)?

Question

So I like sex just as much as the next person. But lately, for some reason, when I ask for sex, my boyfriend will tell me he isn't in the mood, etc. But whenever HE wants to do it, we do it.. which I don't agree with.. because when I want it, I don't get it, but it's okay if he wants it. Anyways, not only that, but I allow him to have anal and vaginal sex with me. And more often than not, if he asks for a bj, I'll give him one. Some times I say no. I don't always feel like it, but will do it to please him. He has returned the favor a handful of times. I don't get it. He always says he isn't in the mood right now, or that he just doesn't like it. When I ask him about it, he gets defensive and says he doesn't want to talk about it because we will just fight.
What am I doing wrong? I don't think I taste bad.

Losalt · Accepted Answer

Get a magic wand instead?
The two of you have tried oral (with him giving it to you) and apparently that's close to being one of his limits...
Tough luck...
You can try to find other things you like that he *also* like instead.
Or see if you can find something you dislike just as much that he likes enough to be willing to trade it with you, so to speak...
Or just give up on it and leave him be with that part and hope your next boyfriend whenever you get one *will* have oral sex with you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe he has a porn addiction, jerks off all the time, and has left nothing "in the bank." Or maybe there is another woman he is banging. Maybe he has a low libido.

Next time he wants a BJ, just climb on top for 69!

jamieswift13 · Accepted Answer

Well this doesn’t sound fair at all to be honest. I would have a serious talk with him about it. This is not reciprocating the way it should be. If it’s the taste he’s bothered by, then shower before. I’m always I secure about the way I taste even though my boyfriend says it doesn’t bother him. We take a shower together beforehand to both get clean. After that, then we can get down to business so it doesn’t taste or smell bad.

Shiba1490 · Accepted Answer

You should tell him no sometimes when asks for sex until he understands how it feels. He's acting selfish af if he thinks that sex is all about pleasing him

CoffeePossum · Accepted Answer

Stop having sex everytime he wants and stop giving blowjobs completely? Not everything is about him

haillasagna · Answer

Your hygiene is not the issue in this matter, in cases like this it is normally something distracting him from the woman he should be distracted by, first off let's make it clear that he is not speaking to another woman. But for a man to ignore sex or not be In the mood are usually grounds for.

Another woman.
Prefers someone else.
Guilty conscious.
Has a specific fetish.
Or is waiting for you to leave him.

Katieknowsbest · Answer

Because he's a guy ;3

mrworkalot · Answer

Look it's like this I'm 20 I had my first kid at 15 so it's like this if your pussy stinks or is Harry then who wants to go down in the tundra I sure and hell don't want to so might want to change your odor

20yearsolder · Answer

When he asks for a blowjob, tell him you just don't like it. You can always finger yourself and taste your fingers. You'll know immediately if you have a issue down there. Sounds to me like he's just selfish. Doesn't want to give but loves taking pleasure

Dargil · Answer

Because you do it first and has no incentive to reciprocate. It is a reasonable expectation that he reciprocates, so set a rule that he does you first. And always remember this universal truth:

eziegler81 · Answer

Well if nothing hygienically bad with you down there (smell or taste), he doesn't respect your sexual relationship. He being selfish by not reciprocating. Sex is a two way street and sometimes you do things for your partner because they like it.

Nocrying5 · Answer

Something or body else. I'll help you! Anal vaginal bj I'm in.

DesiBeautyLover · Answer

Probably not into it

OlderGuy965 · Answer

Dump him

TheUglyMonk · Answer

He tells you he's not in the mood so he doesn't want to do it, you're not in the mood and you still do it that's not really his problem, you made a decision, you can stop doing it and only have sex when both of you are in the mood then you two will be on good terms; as for Oral some people just hate doing it, you can either accept it or try and push him to do something he hates doing.

Blake0048 · Answer

I always go down because #1 im good at it and I like the reactions I get #2 It just turns me on I like everything about it #3 I love getting head and I want bjs pretty much as often as she will give them to me so how can I want that if I don't offer it myself. But at the same time you said he does do it just not always... but neither do you. He has the same attitude you have about bjs so whats the difference?