Why doesn't my girlfriend like anal or deepthroating?

Every now and then I would try to talk my girlfriend into anal or trying to deepthroat during oral, but it leads nowhere. I'm all about pleasing my partner no matter what she may ask, but I don't get the same incentive in return. . I've even went as far as learning how to vibrate my tongue so when i perform oral it feels like a clit stimulator is inside my mouth for the duration of me performing on her,,,, but when she gives me oral it's very basic and boring and when i ask for anal or some more exciting head it leads to ww3,4 and 6... what am i to do?
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  • Not too sure about anal as I've never done it before, but I know deep-throating has to come from her own incentive. Similar to sex, if and when she wants to dry deep-throating, she has to sort of open up her throat a bit and find an angle to make it possible and of course easier.

    Maybe try guiding her when she's giving you oral next time, like 'baby, a little deeper please'. Hopefully she'll consent, even just a bit. If she sees it's not THAT terrible, maybe she'll work her way up to full deep-throating.

    Otherwise, it could very well be an issue with sexual incompatibility.

  • would you deepthroat a dick or have a dick in your ass?

    this really does go both ways.

    there are really actualy men who do enjoy deepthroating a dick and taking a dick in their ass. Thoes guys just do not see it as a taboo and actually find pleasure in it.

    its not like dicks are meant to go in thoes places anyway so it is very understandable for a person to not want a dick there, male or female.

    • I'm not gay so I don't think along the lines of it were me,,, sorry if my reply seems a little assholish

    • you dont have to be gay to empathize. As a straight man, how would you feel? A

    • many male prisoners are not gay but they do that stuff. empathize with them. Some people either like to do that stuff or they have hangups and see it as taboo. Women can have sexual hangups just like men can. You just happen to be datting someone that you are not sexually compatable with and you can't make someone be compatible. Either you are or you aren't. If deepthroating and anal is such a big deal to you then go date someone who likes that stuff.

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  • Its a pain in the butt (metaphorically and literally) some times those acts just hurt and who wants to deal with that kind of pain especially if you are just wanting to get off? would you? I admit I have played with both of those acts and they are definitely not an all the time thing, and to some they are gross or taboo and are a never thing, maybe to her those acts are wrong.

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  • You might try shoving something foreign down your throat till you gag and up your coo to see how she could get a kick out of it.

    Man up, show her how it is done. I am sure that if she sees you taking it up the coo and jamming something down your throat, she will either laugh take a few photos or say - do it again.

    • Lol... you must've already done this

  • Some girls say anal sex hurts them while others enjoy it. Plus think about jamming something in your mouth like that. I don't think you can say it is all that comfortable.

    overall though this is just a case of sexual incompatibility. You're into different things.

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  • You need a new gf. She's just not the free spirit sexually that you are and that you need. It's no one's fault. You're just not sexually compatible.

  • You two just aren't sexually compatible. Do with that information what you will. You will likely not change her mind

  • You could try spicing uo the bj. Put whip cream and chocolate syrup on your dick next time she blows it, maybe the taste might motivate her to blow it with more passion.

  • she probably feels uncomfortable while doing it, it probably is not the best feeling thing in the world.

  • "I've even went as far as learning how to vibrate my tongue so when i perform oral it feels like a clit stimulator is inside my mouth for the duration of me performing on her...", she asked this of you?

    • Yes she did

    • I don't know why but that's really weird if you can do that.

    • It's just muscle control, anybody can do it

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  • Maybe because it hurts?
    If she asked to stick a dildo in your ass for her pleasure would you do it, even though you knew it'd hurt?

    • Uuuum, I'm a guy,,,, you can't ask me what if questions about dildos. .. women don't have feeling in a fake penis , but a real penis has feeling. Not a good comparison. .. try again.

    • It is a good comparison, since it's the same feeling for her.

    • I'm a guy... guys aren't supposed to have contact with any penis that isn't their own... I say again... not a good comparison

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  • Well, maybe set the mood a bit, then playfully throw her over the bed?

  • people like different things...

  • She's not being fair to you. You have done more than you should to please her and she's still being selfish. Anal and oral sex is not hard for her, so if she says otherwise, don't believe her.

    I got three options: break up, cheat on her or force her into it.

  • It a pain in the ass, duh

  • They both hurt.

  • You aren't sexually compatible. For whatever reason she doesn't like it. Learn to live without it or find someone new.

    I'm sorry but comparing tongue action to having a hard time breathing, gagging and having something shoved up your ass is no comparison. You have no idea what girls go through to satisfy you men.

    • We go through a lot to please women as well, it's supposed to be a give and take , meet me half way type of thing in a relationship. ... not a 1way street... it's not like I'm some deadbeat or anything, i handle all of my business and i definitely take care of home. So i really don't see the big deal if i ask for this on a 1nce in a blue moon type of thing. I don't know... but your insight was somewhat helpful

    • So having a job and cleaning entitles you to cause pain to your SO every once in a while. OMFG what a piece of shit you are. Break up with her so you can find someone as mean and entitled as you, she can do better.

    • Lol... what a lonely bitch you are... i can already see that you are 1 of those 1way street types of bitches.. and for your info i took her in and saved her from being beaten up on a regular basis and I go more than out of my way for her even when I'm not asked to do so.. The piece of shit you are referring to is the piece of shit sitting on top of shitty mouth. .. dirty foot scunt

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  • Not all girls can even deepthroat. Some people have extremely sensitive gag reflexes..
    as a guy you just have to work on technique rather than go through pain and shit. Anal hurts and deep throating is very uncomfortable and she might vomit.