Why doesn’t my husband want to have sex with me any time after work?

My husband doesn’t want to like ever have sex during the first 3 hours after he gets home from work. Do you think it’s because he is cheating or jacking off during his workday? I understand not immediately having sex I guess but an hour or two later he doesn’t want to, is weird to me?
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  • Maybe, but probably not. Is this a recent thing? If so, has he had recent changes at work, possibly some you don't know about? Is he good for it on the weekends? Or after those three hours have passed?

    Working can be draining- physically, yes, obviously, but also mentally; even if your job isn't demanding. The tedium can be a burden all its own, and sometimes you just need to sit and stare at the fire (or the television, in modern days) for a while to mentally decompress yourself. And he might be going through some personal stuff that's doing a number on him mentally.

    This warrants a talk with him (preferably an "I'm worried; is everything okay at work?" talk rather than a suspicious one), and perhaps, if your schedules allow, for some playing around in the mornings- it's true not that every guy out there likes being woken up with a blowjob, but most do, and it's a way of showing that you care, as well as a reminder how awesome sex is; it might prod him into opening up.

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  • It sounds to me like he is tired (from physical exertion) or stressed, and needs time to relax before he can be sexual. Given that tons of women have exactly the same issue and seemingly never stop complaining about it (that the guy wants sex from them before they've had a chance to relax, and it doesn't work for them), I'm not sure why this is a mystery to you.

    Let the man relax and unwind, and de-stress, and then everything is fine.

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  • Maybe being physically tired if he does physical work, or mentally tired if he works in an office, especially if it's stressful.

    I've done a lot of both kinds of work. Either way I don't want to do anything when I get home from work, not even talk.

  • He probably just needs time to unwind.

  • Maybe he’s tired from a long day of work and just wants to relax?

  • Tired from working all day

  • If you think he's cheating, then start looking for signs of that.

  • why do you think?

  • I think sex after work is the best reliever I get back my focus mood, everything is good , so don't accept any excuses,.

  • He embraces the grindset.

  • even if I work 48 hours, I'll have sex when I get home. all my fatigue goes away when I make love

  • Do a belly dance on the kitchen counter about 6:36pm

  • he’s tired

  • Did he ever want to have sex in the three hours after work or is this something new? If it's a new behavior, he could be cheating, but be sure there isn't some other reason like something changed in his workday.