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Why doesn't she get wet?

Ok before you say im not doing foreplay or anything like that. She wants and likes sex. There is A LOT of foreplay (kissing sucking. Licking sometimes for a good hour). The problem is, no matter if she cums or how much i lick she doesn't get wet (aside from my saliva) its just non existent. She can't remember ever getting wet. she's 18. We use lube and it is extremely messy and we both hate using it. (She finds it way too cold and then the mess is just too much). And there's another problem, she likes the sex and a lot of the time initiates it, but whenever we go for penetration, her legs clamp shut. Not clamp shut all the way. But definitely not open enough to enter. She keeps her hand by my waist and pushes it back a bit. Her legs never open fully for maximum penetration. And her pulling away from penetration makes any position other than missionary near impossible (missionary is hard enough). She also does not like to be fingered. And she refuses to ride "because the angle doesn't feel good". Is this normal? Any other females with these issues? Any guys been with a female with this issue? She absolutely hates the issue with penetration and her getting wet. Any ways to fix these issues?
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  • Ok, so, there's about maybe 10 million reasons a woman might not get very wet. But everything else you have said makes me think she really isn't actually very aroused at all, and that sex isn't particularly pleasant for her. She may be having orgasms from oral, but this whole deal of not opening her legs for deep penetration tells me you've been bashing her cervix painfully, or someone before you did, or she's experiencing some other physical or psychological pain. Bottom line is, you two need to talk about it together, and you need to give her the space to say all of what she is feeling.

    Also, use less messy lube (try different kinds), and warm it up in your hand first, or even set the bottle in a hot glass of water when you start to get busy so it's nice and warm when you need it.

    This is also something she should discuss with her doctor. You may want to think about attending counseling with her if she's experiencing psychological distress.

    It can't be about fixing her so you can have sex the way you like though.

    • We've talked about it. But nothing comes of it. She refuses to have insurance (her family has too much money to blow and refuse to spend it in hospital bills) and she refuses to go see a doctor fmbecause she doesn't want to be embarrassed, doesn't want to have tonget any form of treatment. And doesn't want to spend money.

    • Let me add that no matter how much foreplay, no matter how turned on she is. She has never been wet enough for sex. Slightly wet sometimes. But slightly is very rare. And when it happens its for a brief moment.

    • Well, ineffective foreplay dries me up too, especially when my glans get treated like a doorbell. But here is more information on vaginal dryness: www.scarleteen.com/.../why_dont_i_selflubricate_enough

      Bottom line, use better lube.

      What does she tell you when you talk about it?

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  • She's a bit young for it to be medical, but I wouldn't completely rule out the possibility. She should check that out first and if its fine, then I'd say she's just inexperienced... I know you've been dating for over a year but that doesn't equal her being experienced. So, try to take things slow... if that doesn't work then she's faking being aroused...

    • What do you think she should change? :D

    • @Gramer If its not medical, then I think that it may take a bit of learning herself in order to know what she needs. Honestly, she can learn herself my masturbation... once she learns herself, then she can share that with you and communicate her needs... as well as help herself along the way. She's still young, so she may be a little shy about all of this... but it helped me out a lot... you have to go a bit slower too, you may be hurting her, and that could be why she's pushing you back...

    • So it can be because of the way of the penetration? :D

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  • Well I have the exact opposite problem and I learned to deal with it sort of. I think there are ways you can solve it. I solved mine by my parents sending me to doctors.

    • What do you mean exact opppsite probpem?

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  • See a doctor. It may be psychological or physiological.

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  • She could be insecure. Some girls also don't get wet like others

    • Weve been togetehr for over a year and live together. there's not a part of her or i that we are not familiar with. She hates the favt that she can't get wet and the fact that she can't open normally. She expresses it all the time.

  • Birth control? If she's on it.

    • Refuses to take that too. Says its the guys responsibility to prevent pregnancy

    • Well it could be a hormonal imbalance she should talk to her gyno

  • not aroused.

    • she's aroused. Unless im taking her saying "come fuck me" after she just got eaten until she cums the wrong way. She initiates most of the time. And she does get off.

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